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AIBU?

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To panic?

17 replies

Flamingoblue1 · 09/02/2016 00:53

Hi all. I'm recently married and ttc. Came off pill October and had proper period 67 days later. Two weeks before definitely ovulating and opk confirmed this. At day 50 I've had a odd light stop starty period that's lasted 4 days. I know it's early days but I'm panicking thinking something is wrong and I cant have children. Im getting a lot of pressure to reproduce aswell and although we want to it's just getting me down. Aibu to visit GP?

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Monty27 · 09/02/2016 01:06

It takes a few months for the pill to leave your system.

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Flamingoblue1 · 09/02/2016 01:08

Thanks Monty. I know it's nothing to what other people put up with but I'm worrying x

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whatdoIget · 09/02/2016 01:16

Who's pressuring you? Have you tried telling whoever it is to chill the fuck out?

UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 09/02/2016 01:24

How old are you?

BillSykesDog · 09/02/2016 01:32

Hi Flamingo, your GP will be looking for you to have been trying for at least a year before they will start thinking about any sort of problem. Have you done an HPT to check you're not actually already pregnant? You can bleed during a pregnancy. As another poster said, it does take a while to get the pill out of your system. And it is perfectly normal to take up to a year to conceive.

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/02/2016 01:45

Where is the pressure coming from?

Pollyputhtekettleon · 09/02/2016 08:28

I was told by a gp that it doesn't take time for the pill to leave people's systems. It's just they start the pill and yrs later come off to sometimes a different cycle due to being older. But in any case, you confirmed ovulation which is great news. It sounds like you have rather irregular cycles so I would keep trying to pinpoint ovulation and aim for that. Keep a note of periods so that you have a good record to try and spot your pattern. I know you don't want this to be the case bit it takes a lot of people a yr or more to conceive but ovulating and timing based on that is a great start.

magpie17 · 09/02/2016 08:33

My GP also told me it doesn't take time for the pill to leave your system but personally I don't believe this, or at least I believe it has a longer term impact than they lead you to believe. For me it was 18 months before my periods were back to 'normal', I also had some 60 day cycles initially. I wasn't ttc at that point so can't comment on that but I would give it a bit more time before you see the GP unless you are over 35 or have had a history of irregular periods.

For me, I did see the GP and had some investigations done after a few months but, as I say, I wasn't ttc so it was slightly different. They identified I wasn't ovulating properly, hence no periods. If you are ovulating though, I wouldn't worry too much.

magpie17 · 09/02/2016 08:35

Also wonder why you are under pressure?

BillSykesDog · 09/02/2016 09:40

I think maybe what your GPs meant was that the pill 'leaving your system' is a bad term, because the actual medication leaves the system pretty quickly. But it does take a while for your own system to reregulate itself, which is described as'the pill leaving your system' but is an inaccurate term.

trulybadlydeeply · 09/02/2016 09:53

Nobody should be "under pressure to reproduce". I suggest you distance yourself from whoever is making you feel like that.

How was your cycle before you went on the pill? if it was fine, there is no reason to suspect that it won't be again. It can take quite some time for your body to get back to it's usual cycle following the pill, so please don't worry. It may be worth doing a test just to make sure you are not pregnant, then, if not, throw away the opks (they are only going to make you worry more) and just let your body do it's thing. You are only recently married - enjoy that. Presuming neither you or your DH have any health issues that may impact on your ability to conceive, and presuming you are of an age where it is still possible, there is no reason to see the GP at this point. Stress, worry and pressure though, will affect your cycle.

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Flamingoblue1 · 09/02/2016 10:01

I'm 29 and DH 37. Pressure from family and friends ie people always asking and I feel uncomfortable. My cycle was 33 or so days and heavy. I did a pg text last Thursday that was negative. I suppose I expected it to happen straight away

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RoseValleyRambles · 09/02/2016 10:07

You have all the time in the world. Arm yourself with some witty responses, chill, and enjoy trying. Once I came off, if it's any help, my periods took a good 4-5 months to settle down.

hellsbellsmelons · 09/02/2016 10:09

Tell everyone that you will have babies in your own good time and they can back the fuck off.
Seriously!!! Don't take any shit from anyone.
This is your body and they have no say in what you do with it.
If you have to then say - I don't know if I can have kids so drop it right now!
Or... I have no idea if I even want them so back off
After I had one, loads of people asked when she would get a sibling.
Absolutely never, was my reply. I am never go through that shit again.
They left it alone after that.

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Flamingoblue1 · 09/02/2016 10:12

Thanks guys I suppose I'm worried about DH age rather than mine!

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Birdie85 · 09/02/2016 10:14

Don't panic! Tell the people piling on the pressure to fuck off. It isn't acceptable to ask about one's sex life so much, which is essentially what they are doing!

It took about 9 months - 1 year for my cycles to settle into something resembling normal after I came off the pill and it took around 18 months to conceive my DS. I know how frustrating and upsetting it is to have to wait, but it just takes time and patience. I told myself that my baby had plans of their own and would know when the right time was and just settled down for the journey.

UnderTheGreenwoodTree · 09/02/2016 10:21

I remember the expectation that it would happen straight away.

After all, I'd spent all my adult life trying not to get pregnant accidentally - carefully taking the pill, listening to the messages that "it only takes one time" etc etc.

I didn't tell anyone when we were ttc, and denied it completely - always saying 'maybe one day, not just yet" to anyone who asked. Who needs that pressure??

I was 30 when we first tried - it took about 7 or 8 months iirc, and I was a bit worried tbh. But it did happen - funnily enough during the month that I didn't really expect it to (DS1 is a Xmas baby, which I wasn't really going for).

Do not panic, you have plenty of time.

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