Guests using your shower gel?

[MrsB76]

This is really just a minor niggle but I'm curious - is it really silly of me to begrudge visiting family members the use of my shower gel? I just had my MIL and SIL stay for a few days overnight and I bought them travel size toiletries (they came on a plane) and DH thinks I should be more hospitable and just let them use my shower gel (well mine and his) and toothpaste. Really?

[diddl]

Op did provide toietries though.

I might find it odd to be provided with stuff rather than be "allowed" to just use what's already in the bathroom.

But I don't really think that I could be offended or upset by it.

[ijustwannadance]

If we have visitors I put my expensive bodywash back in the drawer. They can use whatever the bought on offer shower gel my DP is currently using. They get to use the nicer towels though.

[limitedperiodonly]

MIL always brings her own toiletries but there is no need. I think she just likes to. She has her own soap in an ancient Blue Grass travel case - there's something touching about seeing it neatly stashed on the bathroom floor.

We never take toiletries when we stay with her - apart from DH's shaving gel and my conditioner because she doesn't use either. She doesn't seem to mind.

[crumpet]

Agree with liz70

[diddl]

Well, that's the other way of looking at it, isn't it. metime?

You could say that an extra effort has been made!

[elephantpig]

My shampoo etc normally lives in the bathroom as it's just DH and I.
If we had people coming I might move my stuff but it's very expensive (for me at least), think £30 a bottle of shampoo and my toiletries are my one luxury. But there's always normal showergel, shampoo, conditioner in the bathroom that DH uses - and he doesn't use 'man' toiletries.
Again, if I'm visiting somewhere I take my stuff that I want to, not because I don't expect to be provided for and if I don't have my own, I'll use theirs without question, unless I can see it is something really nice and there is a 'normal' variant available.
Plus, I never take my own toothpaste anywhere or expect guests to bring their own.

[pollylovespie]

Can they use your toilet roll? YABVU!

[MrsKoala]

if i visit family or friends i often forget my toothbrush and just use one from their bathroom. I know this is extremely frowned upon here, but it's never bothered any of my family or friends and they do the same with mine. When dh and i go away we just pack one toothbrush to share.

[MackerelOfFact]

I have the following on the shelf in my bathroom, and now I'm quite intruiged as to which guests would help themselves to and which they wouldn't and where the arbritrary cut-off point is?

Shower gel
Shampoo
Conditioner
Bar soap
Body scrub
Shave gel
Razor
Face mask
Face wash
Facial moisturiser
Body butter
Deodorant
Perfume
Toothpaste
Mouthwash
Hairspray
Foundation
Mascara
Pressed powder
Blusher
Eyeshadow

I wouldn't begrudge a guest the use of any of them if they were needed but it does feel a little odd since they are basically my personal items, unlike food or bedlinen.

[Cutecat78]

£30 for shampoo?!

What the hell are you washing your hair in?!

[bessiebumptious2]

MrsKoala Urrrrr.......

Waaaay beyond friendly and accommodating!!

[pandaskitchen]

Would always take my own stuff when away, but if we have house guests I tend to put a couple of clean towels on the spare bed, but then say help yourself to anything in the bathroom or airing cupboard but hide my Molton Brown. I tend to have a stock anyway of Shampoo/Conditioner/Shower Gel/San pros/Loo roll, everything is fair game.

Would draw the line at sharing a tooth brush though, wouldn't even use DP's.

I have even done a load of washing and drying last time my friend came to stay so she didn't have damp chlorine swimming stuff home or muddy damp walking kit.

[Babelange]

Toothpaste - OK. Shower gel - depends. BIL (aged 59) came down after a shower smelling fragrant because he had used DS1 (14) shower gel from Body Shop - the one I had bought DS for his birthday (despite other products being on the go). BIL is well known for leaving public hair embedded in the soap in soap dish and little surprises (gritty shit) on toilet brush. He is a regular unwelcome 'guest' (long story); we now even hide the wine from him as he is a tight bleeder!

[NewLife4Me]

I don't see anything wrong either way tbh.
If you have personal expensive stuff, they may not like the same thing anyway.
Toothpaste etc, let them help themselves as one is pretty much the same as another.
Can somebody explain guest towels to me?
Surely people bring their own as after a few guests have visited they won't be special anyway. I can never understand this one.

[carabos]

Toothpaste is very personal, everyone has their own brand in our house and buys their own. On that basis I would expect a guest to bring their own, but wouldn't fret if they didn't.

I would put away any nice smellies that I didn't want to share, but would make sure there were ample supplies of acceptable toiletries available.

Spare bedroom has its own set of towels that live in there and are matchy matchy so no chance a guest would mix them up with family towels.

[Babelange]

pubic hair - in case you didn't get my drift

[StuffandBother]

The Intimate wash is a step to far If I was in a strange shower and there was a bottle of intimate wash I reckon I would have a go!! I've never heard of it and would be intrigued, does it have special powers?

[OurBlanche]

OK

Yes
Shower gel
Shampoo
Conditioner
Bar soap
Body scrub
Face wash
Facial moisturiser
Body butter
Hairspray


No
Shave gel
Razor
Face mask
Deodorant
Perfume
Toothpaste
Mouthwash
Foundation
Mascara
Pressed powder
Blusher
Eyeshadow

[liz70]

Agree that fanny wash, thrush cream etc. should stay tucked away in a cupboard.

[SevenOfNineTrue]

I'd expect guests to use my stuff. Only thing they must bring is their own toothbrush. If they forget, I'd give them a new one to use.

[paxillin]

How are you going to know which one they are using ?

(Unless you are going to give instructions )

[Inertia]

I'd use the hand soap. Wouldn't use anything else without checking, but wouldn't expect to need to.Definitely wouldn't borrow someone else's toothbrush- Dh has shared mine in the past, but I think that's a step too far. We always have a couple of brand new spare toothbrushes in the house if anyone needs one, but I wouldn't want to share mine.

[limitedperiodonly]

I was miffed when friends used my special bubble bath. It wasn't particularly special but the bottle was really nice and I had it for show.

After a while I decided it looked better with a bit used. Like candles. They always look better when the wick is burned.

I'm glad I didn't say anything because I remembered that she's really generous and has much nicer toiletries than I do and leaves them out for people to use. I couldn't bring myself to use her Jo Malone bath oil so just sniffed it and used the soap. That was pretty nice too. I did use her L'Occitane hand cream.

[MrsKoala]

Toothpaste is very personal, everyone has their own brand in our house and buys their own.

wow really, i just buy the cheapest first one i see in the shop. Sent DH last time and he came back with a colgate one which is bright blue and bluey flecks in it, it totally covers the sink in bright blue and has driven me mad over the course of the tube. THAT toothpaste is now banned in our house.

[Sparklingbrook]

if i visit family or friends i often forget my toothbrush and just use one from their bathroom

We found out recently that one of DS2's mates did this. We now have a selection of new toothbrushes for visiting teens.