MrsC'
I lurked followed you all way through your previous threads but never commented as so many other wise and wonderful MN'rs were already doing such a good job in supporting you.
But this, this totally resonates with me. This seedy, stingy, repulsive behaviour to his own child. How could he? He's hideous... Just as I used to think the same about my Ex.
As others have said though, what goes around comes around.
My Ex was willing to see his child homeless and living in a refuge. Wearing clothes until they wore out as they couldn't be replaced too often due to lack of funds. Bringing him home from a visit and pointing out that his shoes were worn out and that I were to make sure I buy him some new ones before his next visit as He didn't wish to be embarrassed in front of his family, even stood in front of a judge whilst wearing his oldest clothes and wept crocodile tears blubbing that he couldn't afford to pay the child maintenance and 'could the judge reduce it please? thank you very much', sob, sob!. ....I could go on.
He too drove around in a brand new car with private plates, holidayed abroad,designer clothes etc, whilst we used the bus, went on day trips to the seaside, shopped in charity shops.
But now, some decades later, he's unemployable, was recently sacked, looks rancid, old car, no friends, no family.In debt. No one wants to know him. He is lower than the green algae on a dried up pond.
Just as no one will want to know your ex....truth will out.
Stay the strong, compassionate, wonderful woman and mother you have always been, turn away from his negativity and look onwards to the life you want and shall have.
Brightest blessings and warmest hugs for you and your DC's. (smile)