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My ex-h and his OW are utterly nasty, goady c***s for doing this...

125 replies

TheFormidableMrsC · 07/02/2016 01:23

Haven't name changed, probably should have given huge backstory...however, tell me I am unreasonable? My ex-h turned up today with a private plate on his new Audi displaying his, OW's, her son's and our son's initials. He pays less than £4 a day in maintenance as he pleaded poverty and only last week refused to pay £14 for two new school jumpers for our DS. He is an utter cunt, isn't he?

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TheFormidableMrsC · 07/02/2016 02:04

Thank you SO much, all of you lovelies of MN...I knew I wasn't being unreasonable....he is just a stain on the face of society...and I will SO have him...he just doesn't know it yet....

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AcrossthePond55 · 07/02/2016 02:09

OMG, just when I thought maybe he'd fucking given you a break, here we go again. Unbelievable!

He is a crusty wart on the arsehole of mankind.

HelenaDove · 07/02/2016 02:20

So he moved in with OW 4 months after her husbands funeral and he says shes "shocking looking"

sounds to me like hes also taken advantage of her at a vulnerable time.

bobs123 · 07/02/2016 02:21

Well he's not the brightest - nor is OW for that matter. As soon as you have enough proof it's back to court you go. He can't get away with paying so little maintenance for ever. I just don't understand men who claim to love their kids, yet don't want to contribute properly to feed and clothe them - twats of he highest order. MrsC

BillSykesDog · 07/02/2016 02:27

God that's awful. I actually shed a little tear for your poor son having him as a Dad. I even feel sorry for the OW cos God knows what state he'll leave her in when he's taken her for a ride.

And not only is he a cunty fucking cuntwipe bastard to his son, he's driving a blew sin' Audi just to accentuate his cunt status.

BillSykesDog · 07/02/2016 02:28

Bleedin', not blew sin. Ffs.

Katedotness1963 · 07/02/2016 02:32

These kind of stories make me see red! Your ex is a monumental prick.

Barmaid101 · 07/02/2016 02:32

I remember your original threads! Yes he is a cunt!
You however are a saint for putting up with his bs!
Don't know what else to say to he honest except I'm not sure why I'm shocked!

notonyurjellybellynelly · 07/02/2016 03:32

Jesus, the man is a complete and utter twat.

MrsC, hopefully in few days you'll see this desperate act for what it is and have a laugh about it. But for now your upset is well understood. xxxxxx

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 07/02/2016 03:35

Oh FFS! "men" cockwombles like this give me the urge to KILL in inventive ways Confused
Can I offer you the money for the school jumpers please MrsC ? We're not exactly rolling in it, but bloody hell, I can afford £14 to rub the fuckers nose in it that some of us actually CARE when he obviously doesn't!
Please PM with paypal info if your lovely DS still needs a jumper. (If onlt I could afford a hitman.... ;) )

KoalaDownUnder · 07/02/2016 04:27

He is an utter cockhead.

MistressDeeCee · 07/02/2016 04:59

Stupid, selfish ignorant bastard. Is that the most he can do? Show off to you with "things," as a "kept man?". What a fool. Take a deep breath and just know you are better off without him, at least you can vent here!

My ex DH was a mean fucker as well, barely gave me a penny for our 2 DDs. I look back now and truly don't know how I survived it, there were times when I was desperate, and on anti-depressants. So skint. Meanwhile he was having Bermuda holidays, and driving a brand new Lexus. Now? DDs are aged 21 & 20, both at Uni and working too, doing well. Im self-employed and doing ok. He wants a relationship with DDs now, forever phoning them they don't mind him but they tell me they see me as their mum & their dad, Im the one who raised them. They're not that bothered about him.

Meantime he is stuck with 2nd wife & their 3 DCs in a miserable marriage. I know this, as he whinges to DDs about it. She refused to go back to work after having 3rd DC. He is now pretty much broke, and very bitter. So now he knows what it feels like to have fuck all. A wife & 3 school aged DCs to financially support, that should keep him busy for a good while. How the world turns...

So you see, "Things" don't mean shit, OP. He can show off now so what, who knows what the future will bring, in the meantime you will get through this, enjoy your family as best you can now, and know that in the end it'll be worth it.

FellOutOfBedTwice · 07/02/2016 05:41

A cunt with a stupid car and a tacky number plate to boot. So sorry, MrsC. It will all come crashing down round his ears.

IDismyname · 07/02/2016 06:16

Mrs C. I believe in Karma. Let's hope it kicks in....

Meanwhile, have Wine and Chocolate

Confusednc · 07/02/2016 06:33

He will demonstrate his twattery in any way he is able, as ostentatiously as he can because ...he is an utter twunt! He gets kicks out of needling you as does my own twunt ex.

My counsellor suggests thumping pillows for a minute to release anger. Sounds shit but it's quite good actually!

It's just a car. He still has to pay the real price which is waking up next to pineapple Pauline every morning!

My ex-h and his OW are utterly nasty, goady c***s for doing this...
Rachel0Greep · 07/02/2016 07:41

Flowers MrsC. Chatted with you on other threads. There are no words bad enough to describe him.

ConkersDontScareSpiders · 07/02/2016 07:45

Yes he is. But the saving grace is that as who but a total knobber would have a private plate anyway, he is now showing this to the wider world...
Sorry OP...horrible to have it rubbed in your face like that.

Oliversmumsarmy · 07/02/2016 07:51

Completely off the point but ...HE bought an Audi!!!! (see my OT). Their backs will be in traction within the week. The seats are akin to sitting on a hard wooden church pew. Hurt my back and I only sat in one for a few minutes in the car show room.

Gobbolino6 · 07/02/2016 07:52

Urgh what a massive twat.

Dutch72 · 07/02/2016 07:54

Aaaaarrrgggh! This makes my blood boil! Seems like there are so many of these C**ts about! Mines exactly the same...left 10 months ago... Illicit sexual affairs...(which I discovered through a private investigator)...and DV too 😔... claims poverty...new car, new clothes, went on holiday to South of France with his new tart ( the family holiday which was booked for us and our three kids...)!! Rents a 5 bed detached house...now bought a house... And got married to her! ( His third marriage and hers...) All in the space of 10 months. Leaving behind an ex wife struggling to make ends meet...still trying to get finances sorted through court...and three devastated emotionally upset and shocked children... ( he didn't and still hasn't told his children that he's married...I had to 😔, so they wouldn't find out in the school playground...)

Is there anyway you can get legal aid and take your C**t back to court for the finances? Ask to see his P60 each year, ordered through the court? If he's shacked up with another woman... Can't her earnings be taken into consideration? And argue that she can contribute to half the outgoings, thus freeing up his money, to pay for your children? What an arse hole!!

Hopefully karma will work in the end...

Aramynta · 07/02/2016 08:00

I remember your story MrsC - Utterly vile people but expect no less of them given their fuckwittery so far!

Get onto it with the HMRC. I hope they grab him by the gooleys and milk him for everything he gets!

Dutch72 · 07/02/2016 08:05

Mean while... Cup of tea anyone? ....😉😂

My ex-h and his OW are utterly nasty, goady c***s for doing this...
99percentchocolate · 07/02/2016 08:05

Ugh. Every time I open one of your posts I think that he couldn't possibly have sunk any lower, and yet every time he does!
So sorry you are having to go through this, but trust me it'll come back to bite him on the arse when your DS is old enough to realise how much harder his dad made his life.
Flowers

chocolatespiders · 07/02/2016 08:10

Feel your pain. My daughter is 18 and I have never had a penny in support from her loser sperm donor. I work full time and go without so she doesn't have to.
Love the free use of the C word on this thread Smile

Keep going op you are an amazing Mum. Flowers Star

Jengnr · 07/02/2016 08:12

He is SUCH a bellend.