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AIBU to want everyone to massively piss off

25 replies

2ManySweets · 05/02/2016 18:10

...asking "have you had the baby yet"?

"Yeah, I whipped it out last week, yeah couldn't be arsed telling you because - well - no big deal is it"?

How did you guys deal with the constant and never ending texts/What's Apps and calls from well meaning but also DEADLY ANNOYING well-wishers (and general snoopers who've popped up on messenger after being dormant for 12months plus)

Advise me please. I'm going mad here and I'm going to go overdue as well so I've got at least a week of this ahead.

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rockabillyruby82 · 05/02/2016 18:14

Yeah I remember it well and I'm currently 35 weeks with DS2, already getting calls and texts!
I had to be induced with DS1 at 42 weeks, was very frustrated and stressed, it was August so I was a sweaty fat mess most days!
I somehow managed to stay calm with people but the strangers who commented 'You look ready to drop!' did my head in!!!

MiddleClassProblem · 05/02/2016 18:16

It was soooooo annoying. Especially when you go over due and it's all you think about anyway abd are tired of it all!

I would just smile and nod or just ignore random messages.

If you're at the end of your pregnancy it will all be over soon and a distant memory before you know it.

Xmasbaby11 · 05/02/2016 18:20

Really? I was 15 days late with dd and had a few of those messages but it didn't bother me. Generally people can't remember your due date and you've finished work so most people aren't aware.

BreakfastAtStephanies · 05/02/2016 18:21

YANBU. I went one week overdue with DD. My DM phoned everyday for an update. ( " Nope, nothin' doin' " ) Like you say, don't they get it- you would tell them !

If you have a DP get him to answer the phone - 2ManySweets is resting and can't talk.

If you are lucky enough to be given a sweep of your cervical membranes you could text details of that to the well-wishers which might put them off for a while.

It is annoying. Good Luck with the birth.

GruntledOne · 05/02/2016 18:29

Put a voicemail message on your phone saying "No, there's no news, I'd tell you if there was." No idea if it's possible to do a text auto reply message, but even if it isn't set up a copy and paste reply to send to everyone who texts, same with WhatsApp.

IgnoreMeEveryOtherReindeerDoes · 05/02/2016 18:32

It drove me up the wall along with the pearls of wisdom like have you tried going for a walk to bring on labour

Heatherplant · 05/02/2016 18:41

'Have you tried pineapple juice?' 'go on a bumpy car journey' etc etc, oh the wealth of 'helpful advice' in the last few weeks of pregnancy.

hefzi · 05/02/2016 18:58

Just text back and say, "Yup", then switch your 'phone off Grin

WutheringFrights · 05/02/2016 19:02

Send them all this link
www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com

NanaNina · 05/02/2016 19:29

In my day it was "are you still here.........."

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2ManySweets · 05/02/2016 20:51

Breakfast - I tried that you know; sweep deets etc. It backfired and increased the traffic! I do work within the health service so I maybe have a more hardened audience than some Wink

Frights I am using that link. End of.

Have switched off visibility on what's app and intend to keep it like that until the baby is actually here in my actual arms and is actually all ok.

Until that point, I'm going to IGNORE EVERYONE (and quit worrying about them worrying about me) and continue with my pineapples and watch the rugby.

The world can piss off this weekend. Grin

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shatteredmama · 05/02/2016 21:08

I really do feel for you, last bit of pregnancy is horrible, and you really don't need this, it wound me up too. Social media is a fucker, I think these sorts of situations were easier before it. I was induced, and had a relative posting questions hourly on my Facebook wall when she knew I was in hospital, stuff like how dilated are you now etc etc, and she got progressively more agitated with each post as there were no replies from me, I didn't know any of this was going on as I was busy with the obvious, but it did make me Hmm when I logged on and read it all afterwards.

Paintedhandprints · 05/02/2016 21:13

Unfriend all of these people. They will be infinitely worse once the baby is here with unsolicited rubbish advice on all aspects of parenting.

Sal1977 · 05/02/2016 21:25

I'm currently laying on my hospital bed having been induced yesterday morning and still nothing going on.

My sister called and asked if we'd really had the baby and were actually sat at home enjoying some peace and quiet before inviting people over.....

I've even had customers texting me.

I made the mistake of replying with details initially (4 hours in, all chipper like), now if I could growl 'fuck off' to everyone I would. Instead I'm replying: "no baby yet, my fanny hurts from being prodded and pessaries shoved up it and the food is ok. Will keep you posted."

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2ManySweets · 05/02/2016 21:42

My sympathies Sal - signs are all there I'll be in your exact same position next week Angry

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WutheringFrights · 05/02/2016 22:57

Sal and 2many, please when you've had you're babies do just that....switch off your phones, pull your curtains and don't tell anyone, go home and enjoy the peace and quiet and your new baby!
That'll show 'em!

WutheringFrights · 05/02/2016 22:58

Argh your babies not you're (I can spell honest!)

Robotgirl · 05/02/2016 23:01

I feel your pain!!!
My exPlLs were ringing my ex about 3 times a day from about 8.5 months going 'ANY NEWS???'
I was two weeks overdue & in labour. & they were ringing my ex constantly. It drove me nuts!!

CakeNinja · 05/02/2016 23:02

Ooh Sal, have you not had that baby yet? Grin

Oh honestly people are just genuinely excited for you. I have been there, and it definitely is annoying at the time, when you aren't sleeping much, when you're in a state of high alert, and when anyone and everyone pisses you off, but people are just excited and making conversation.
You know this deep down, you're just uncomfortable and crabby, which is understandable.

BlackeyedShepherdsbringsheep · 05/02/2016 23:03

tell them you are going to be busy having lots of sex as it is one of the things that may start labour soon. that'll shut your mother up at least.

ollieplimsoles · 05/02/2016 23:04

I really feel doe you ladies. I was a recluse just before having dd. I wanted a home birth but went over due and by the end I remember just sitting at home sobbing as the phone rang. People had ZERO respect for my feelings and privacy at the time it was awful.

Stellar67 · 05/02/2016 23:06

First baby, I used frights link. Second, I made the due date three weeks after iI was due. Wink

altctrldel · 05/02/2016 23:07

My best friend is currently 5 days overdue with her first.

Her mum must be ringing her at least once an hour Grin. At this rate I dont think she will actually make it to meeting her granddaughter Grin

charlieandthechocolatecake · 06/02/2016 00:40

I wish! I had nobody contact me when I was in labour. I got a bus to the hospital. Nobody cared until DS2 was here. I'm still sad 13 months on. Maybe I would have felt differently in your situation but a hand (even a virtual one) to hold would have meant the world to me! X

Barmaid101 · 06/02/2016 01:08

I would use this website just send them the link! www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com

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