"however, if I call and say DC has to be seen now they know I will have tried to sort it out first and that I see them as they should be seen as the last resort."
This situation is entirely lacking for most of us - a set up where we're known as an individual or a family, and the treatment can take our circumstances into account.
When I was 5, a GP came out to the house because I had measles and was delirious. He advised my mother what to do about my fever, and told her I would be fine. And reassured her about my newborn brother, who was breastfeeding (and she was immune). I know he knew my family when he gave her that advice.
When I was 37, I had my first baby, at home, a midwife (two, ultimately) attended me and I was taken to hospital afterwards for repairs to a third degree tear. The baby was born at 12.20, I was operated on around 7am and I was told I would have to stay in "at least overnight".
But -
The mw who had attended dd's birth came to see us and got us discharged, I am sure partly because she knew from experience that dp was going to be good to us all, my mum was around, and home was a good place for us to be (and she had seen our modest but clean and friendly house). Also, she knew me well enough by then to know that I wasn't going to rest or sleep at all in hospital and recuperation was going to start when I got home. And that there were people who would send me back - or take me back - if something went wrong.
So. When people whine and moan about these time wasters using up the NHS with their fatness, their inability to know what a simple blister or athlete's foot is - I think - well our culture is a bit sick.
These people aren't looked after. Instead of calling their mum, or looking something up (with the interior resilience that comes from successful problem solving), or just getting on with it - they are - you tell me? - just going to see HCPS?
So - who is failing here? Not HCPs, but society, which is teaching under capitalism that everything is a SERVICE.
Remember - the ultimate aim of capitalism is the commodification of all relationships.
I feel a huge responsibility to society, and HCPs, and the lovely old dears in my neighbourhood who were amazing to me with my newborns in the pram, because they have looked after me. If people don't feel that - and don't feel their adulthood - their responsibility - how they should serve back - whose fault is that?
It's not theirs, as individuals. They've been failed by a society, by an ethos, that has failed - not failed, chosen to to - teach collective responsibility