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To want to know how much of your pregnancy you put on Social Media?

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YouAreAWizardHarry · 01/02/2016 20:29

I'm posting here as I have a strong opinion on everything Grin but haven't ever given this any thought, and AIBU is full of strong opinions Grin

I am pregnant with DC1, and have seen a number of people mention they don't like scan pictures on FB - why?

I'm quite private on social media due to my job, but had though of putting one scan picture on, and then announcing the birth (no thousand statuses about pregnancy in between). Im also conscious of a particular friend struggling to conceive at the moment, but live over 100 miles from family so still want to share some.

How much did you share and why/why not?

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StitchesInTime · 01/02/2016 21:22

Nothing posted here until DC were born.

They were announced - if you can call it that - with a status update about having brought baby home from hospital. I didn't post any baby pictures or names / weights either.

FondantFancy66 · 01/02/2016 21:22

Nothing for either pregnancy. I didn't tell many people in real life until about 24 weeks either. I'm quite private on social media so didn't change my habits in any way. Honestly, each to their own, but I get a little bored with constant pregnancy updates.

PagesOfABook · 01/02/2016 21:22

I would put nothing up. I have had two late miscarriages - after the 12 week scan. I know nothing is guaranteed - and until I know the pregnancy is well established i only want to share the news with people who I could also share the news of the miscarriage with.

NickyEds · 01/02/2016 21:25

None. No scans, announcements, no pictures. I don't really want pictures of my kids on social media until they're old enough to put them there themselves.

ProcrastinatorGeneral · 01/02/2016 21:25

Nothing at all with my last pregnancy, posted when he was about three days old as I'd been off Facebook for nearly a week and some people were worried.

CerseiHeartsJaime4ever · 01/02/2016 21:26

I haven't put scan pictures or put anything about it either times. Mostly because if something terrible were to happen, I would have to explain that to 250 "friends" or face questions about how it was all going, and I don't think I could do it. Never mind the other people I know who are desperate for little ones. It also feels a little flippant to make a new life in to a FB status, it almost belittles it somehow (just my opinion).

I haven't hidden the bump in photos etc but everyone I love knows already so there's no real need to make it a thing on FB.

Champagneformyrealfriends · 01/02/2016 21:28

I see my scab photos as really personal (they're of my womb after all Grin) and agree with PP that my child should be the one deciding, when they're old enough, what online presence they have. It's not upto me to decide that for another human being, regardless of whether I gave birth to them.

FourForYouGlenCoco · 01/02/2016 21:28

With DD - 12w scan pic to announce, couple of bump shots, 20w scan pic, and the birth announcement. A fair few photos of her since, but (hopefully!) not enough to be horrifically irritating.
I post much less these days anyway, and almost nothing truly personal. Am on Facebook but no other social media. Currently 14/40 and won't be putting anything on fb until after the birth - will be a small announcement with a couple of photos and that's it. If someone puts a photo of me up once I'm a bit more visibly pregnant, I won't take it down or anything, but given that the most recent photo of me was uploaded in June 2015 (and before that, Jan 2015), I suspect it's unlikely.

Suzietwo · 01/02/2016 21:28

People are weird. They seem to think it's an achievement not to post anything and I wonder whether it's because they want The Big Reveal. Partic as they then go on to post hundreds of new baby photos. What's the difference?

I've never done a Facebook 'I'm pregnant' post, but I don't post that much. I wouldn't avoid a camera tho and if I had something to say about it I would. I generally don't tho, as my views on pregnancy seem to offend most people!

Champagneformyrealfriends · 01/02/2016 21:29

Scan not scab Grin

stiffstink · 01/02/2016 21:31

No mention at all for DS1 until he was born. I am 38+3 and will be deactivating FB when I go on mat leave so no-one can post questions on my FB about has it arrived yet. Had a few concerns late on in this pg so I'm glad its been kept low key.

53rdAndBird · 01/02/2016 21:36

Scan photo. Birth announcement. Several posts raging about hyperemesis in between the two. Care not a jot whether other people approved or not, tbh.

Archer26 · 01/02/2016 21:39

No scan pics and never formally 'announced' my pregnancy on Facebook. There were pics of me with a bump and people figured it out in other ways, statuses etc. I wasn't hiding it, I just felt uncomfortable making a big deal of it. We did announce DS's birth though but only one pic. However I am now one of those mums who only post pics of their child Blush

Fratelli · 01/02/2016 21:39

Nothing at all. My dp put a birth status up and tagged me and the majority of comments were "oh I didn't know you were expecting". I'm not big into Facebook tbh. All the people important to me knew. I mainly have it as an easy way to keep in touch with foreign friends.

Shesinfashion · 01/02/2016 21:40

None. It wasn't something that occurred to me. I don't have even one bump photo.

MidniteScribbler · 01/02/2016 21:41

I didn't say anything on social media about my pregnancy, and barely mentioned it in real life, so much so that when I posted a picture of DS the day after he was born, people asked me if I'd adopted him.

ManneryTowers · 01/02/2016 21:41

SockQueen Congratulations! We must have almost the same due date. Some sort of ticker would be useful, just to keep track. Maybe glittery? Grin

Fratelli · 01/02/2016 21:42

There were also a few concerns in my pregnancy and I wouldn't have wanted to face having anything bad on social media.

BillBrysonsBeard · 01/02/2016 21:44

I love seeing peoples birth announcements. I also love seeing bump pics! The key, as with everything, is not to go overboard. People are excited and want to share- the whole purpose of facebook. Never known anyone not share this news. I feel like MN is a parallel world sometimes!

Starbores · 01/02/2016 21:45

I put one scan photo on at about 19 weeks, no bump photos although there are photos of me with my bump on there but not actually of my bump.

Birth announcent the day after the event.

I was conscious of those struggling to conceive, I've been in that position and would unfollow people if it got too much. For this reason I also didn't join the your baby this week posts on facebook and never moaned about my pregnancy woes on there either.

bumbleymummy · 01/02/2016 21:47

Not much. I have a history of miscarriage so I was always a bit nervous about telling too many people. I was also conscious that other people may be struggling to conceive themselves and the scan pictures might upset them. that could be an overthink though...

ijustwannadance · 01/02/2016 21:51

Nothing at all. No mentions of anything baby/pregnancy related.
Only birth announcement once home.

kaymondo · 01/02/2016 22:03

With my first 2 pregnancies I announced with 12 week scan pic and then probably posted a few pregnancy related things. Then pictures with birth announcement.

Now am pregnant again but after a MC and now a high-risk pregnancy I've not put anything on this time. Will announce the birth though, assuming everything goes to plan and my little boy arrives safely. I know at some stage people may guess if there are pics of me on the there, that's fine, just didn't want to make a big deal of it on my own page this time.

I do find the whole attitude about not posting scan pics because they are of your uterus odd though - they are just black and white images and all look the same, it's not like a full realistic view of your insides, blood and all! Each to their own though!

Andcake · 01/02/2016 22:09

Nothing - until dc was born safely. Years of infertility etc made me hate them as they would always upset me and a knowledge of a few people who suffered stillbirths made me feel it was wrong to celebrate until baby was safely here

imwithspud · 01/02/2016 22:13

With dd1 I posted a lot more, I was a lot more open on social media in general back then. I uploaded scan photo's which I also set as my profile picture - which seems odd now thinking backConfused I posted pictures of the pushchair, of a cute little outfit I had bought, of the keepsake box etc. A lot of it was because I was excited, obviously. And also it was what I had seen other people doing on Facebook when they were pregnant so I guess I was following the crowd a bit too.

With dd2 I posted a picture of the 12 week scan picture (didn't set it as my profile picture), posted the odd pregnancy related status once in a while, and announced the birth a few days after she was born. By this point I had worked out that I wasn't the only one to have been pregnant and that pictures of pushchairs and baby clothes really aren't that interesting to most people.