AIBU to want to tak about my daughter? (Trigger warning)

[Walkthroughthefire]

My beautiful daughter should be turning three tomorrow.

She was born still in 2013.

I can't believe three years have passed. I feel like everyone wants me to 'shut the fuck up about the dead baby already - you have another one now.'

She was so beautiful and perfect. She had a rosebud pout, a button nose and enormous hands and feet. I was so proud when she was born, even though she was born silently. I just want the world to know she existed and was wonderful and magical. She would get really active when I took baths or listened to music - she could kick really hard. I loved being pregnant with her and am so glad I got that opportunity. I think (hope) she's made me a better person but I wish we could have kept her.

My beautiful star girl.

Happy birthday Sylvie

Thank you, thank you everyone. I can't tell you what it means to have her remembered and talked about. I do have people in real life who are fantastic and I'm very grateful for their support. My husband is pretty wonderful.
I think it's more the new 'Mummy friends' that I've made since our son was born. They didn't know me before and I must seem a bit intense. I suppose I'm being quite harsh, it is extremely difficult to know how to respond, I suppose it must be a shock to hear. YY BipBopp to the look of horror on people's faces. Some people I expected better from have stopped contacting me or replying to invitations I send them. Also, my in-laws... Well, that's a different thread.

I think we all just want someone to say our baby's name, to show they mattered, just seeing the happy birthday's here was so touching and comforting.

I actually voluteer with SANDs now. I sometimes wonder if that makes it harder. You're seen as being so strong that it's difficult to admit you're finding things hard.

Stealth please do tell your friends you remember their little one, it will be a little ray of light for them.

Serin Yes, it means of the woods - I got it from the Lewis Carroll book - Sylvie and Bruno. Seren is the name I'd like if we have another baby.

Dougal Your post was so wonderful. Just, thank you.

Everyone who has shared their little ones here, thank you. I feel honoured. I'm sad there's so many. You are all wonderful, strong parents and your babies are remembered and honoured.

Thank you.

Never stop talking about her. My little boy would've been 3 in May but he died in his sleep aged 1 year and 25 days, I talk about him everyday, I don't want people to forget him or pretend he never existed.
He has a little sister now, we love her so much but she'll never replace him. Her middle name is Seren as a tribute to her brother.
Sylvie is a beautiful name (one I might have to keep in mind for the future), I hope you had a peaceful day on her birthday x

Sylvie sounds beautiful. You are a lovely mother.

I'm so sorry that this had to happen to you, I bet she was beautiful. I have 2 people in my life who have lost people when they shouldn't have (one a child) and I am always happy to talk about them. Sometimes I will bring them up so they know they aren't forgotten and we will have a little cry and sometimes they will. It is pretty easy to tell if they aren't in the right mood to talk about them but actually I think they are always glad to be able to. Never stop talking about her, people may not know whether to mention her for fear of upsetting you (although I'm pretty sure they can't make you feel worse than you already do).

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss - Sylvie sounds beautiful. I can't imagine what it is like to lose a child, but please do talk about her, especially to your other child. It's not the same type of loss, but my mum lost her dad when she was young, and she's always spoken to me about him, so even though I never met him, it feels like I knew him. Hugs

From today I will remember your little girl too. Much love to you.