AIBU to want to tak about my daughter? (Trigger warning)

[Walkthroughthefire]

My beautiful daughter should be turning three tomorrow.

She was born still in 2013.

I can't believe three years have passed. I feel like everyone wants me to 'shut the fuck up about the dead baby already - you have another one now.'

She was so beautiful and perfect. She had a rosebud pout, a button nose and enormous hands and feet. I was so proud when she was born, even though she was born silently. I just want the world to know she existed and was wonderful and magical. She would get really active when I took baths or listened to music - she could kick really hard. I loved being pregnant with her and am so glad I got that opportunity. I think (hope) she's made me a better person but I wish we could have kept her.

My beautiful star girl.

I'll be thinking about Sylvie tomorrow, OP. for you, don't ever feel bad about talking about her and remembering her. She'll always be your first baby.

thinking of you and Sylvie xxx

Sleep tight Sylvie She sounds so precious

x x

I'm so sorry. I don't doubt that you still miss her a great deal.

Is there anyone you can talk to about her?

Aww, what a sad thread. I'm sorry to hear about Sylvie.( I love her name ) I think Mumsnet is a good place to come and have a chat when you feel like talking about your DD. I know there are lots of other mumsnetters who do the same.

We hold our lost babies with us always. My daughter's name is Greer. She is always with me as Sylvie is always with you.

You can talk and talk and talk. Sylvie sounds beautiful

Gosh what a beautiful name. She sounds wonderful

My child minder lost a son 35yrs ago in similar circumstances and we talk about him, his birth, the sadness of his loss and his place in their family regularly. He's no longer physically with them but is very much a part of their lives - he enriched their lives, including the lives of his siblings born after he died. It's perfectly normal healthy, IMO, for your daughter to continue to be a part of your family. I wonder if people find it hard to know what to say and so would rather say nothing at all.

Very best wishes to you at what must be an unbearably painful time. I'm pleased to share it with you, and to think of Sylvie, albeit anonymously online. More

I'm so sorry, your beautiful daughter will always be in your heart. I wish I had the right words, you have described her so well. You must always talk about her.

I will be thinking of your beautiful Sylvie tomorrow too. I lost my eldest daughter six years ago in NICU. I think about her every day and miss her everyday. It does hurt when many others don't mention her anymore. I can understand why that is so hard to bear.

We carry our children with us and she has made me a mother just as much as my other two daughters. Like you, I hope that she has made me a better person.

Thinking of you all, much love to Sylvie.

YANBU

Very sorry to hear about the loss of sylvie. She sounds lovely. I'll be thinking about you tomorrow.
We have some friends whose first child died late in pregnancy. They have other children now but I always wonder if I should let them know I remember and am thinking of them. Too much of a coward I suppose.

Will think of you and your lovely Sylvie tomorrow. Please don't stop talking about her. You describe her so beautifully. [flowers
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YANBU. She sounds lovely and such a beautiful name.

Of course YANBU. With only average luck, she would have been here with you now, and you would have been planning her birthday. It really is incredibly unfair that she is not. She is, and always will be an important part of your family! She sounds like a really beautiful little girl!

Sylvie, a moment in your arms, a lifetime in your heart x

She sounds gorgeous, so sorry OP.

I love the name Sylvie, she sounds adorable. You are a mum of two and should be able to speak about your firstborn whenever you want. She was unique and shaped you as a person just as much as any child could, I hope you have someone irl you can talk to about her.

YANBU. She will always be your beautiful baby girl and an important part of your family and your life. Thank you for telling us about her.

Oh, Walkthrough, I am sending you all the love in the world. It was 2 years ago today that I found out I was pregnant with my daughter - such an immensely happy day for me, and the beginning of such a happy time. Until she was stillborn at 40+4 in October 2014.

I know the ache. It's awful. I also know the look of terror/boredom/exasperation on people's faces at any mention that I was ever pregnant, that she ever existed. She's the first thing I think of every morning and the last thing I think of at night. And my husband is the only person I can ever talk to about her.

Thinking of you and your lovely, perfect Sylvie on her birthday tomorrow.

Happy birthday Sylvie.

And for Sylvie's mum.

Sylvie is such a beautiful name, it means from the woods doesn't it?

I will think of her tomorrow as I walk our dog through the woods.

For you .
Goodness me if we could all jump through our screens and give you a hug we all would. So very very sad.
Your daughter sounds absolutely beautiful. And what a gorgeous name.Thinking of you and your darling Sylvie