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To eat Chocolate in front of DH when he is on a GP imposed Diet

111 replies

Oldsu · 31/01/2016 11:36

Just eaten a whole bar of Cadburys Fruit and Nut, DH is whimpering and giving me the big eyed treatment, but not sharing with him his GP has him on a diet for a reason.

DH says I am cruel and wicked and that I don't love him and is sulking.

So am I being unreasonable??? I am not on a diet.

OP posts:
UmbongoUnchained · 31/01/2016 14:57

OP never said DH was struggling. As an adult he should have enough self restraint to not let a bar of chocolate affect him.
I'm allergic to dairy but why should everyone else in the house not have it. Ridiculous.

VeryBitchyRestingFace · 31/01/2016 14:58

I used to know someone whose mother (her mother!) would go out of her way to light in front of her when she was trying to give up.

The mother did everything in her power to get the daughter back on cigs because she didn't want to be the only smoker in the family.

Are you trying to sabotage husband's diet, OP? Do you not-so-secretly want him to fail?

VashtaNerada · 31/01/2016 14:59

Unless he's finding the diet easy (& it doesn't sound like it) YABVU. Just eat it in another room FFS!

WorraLiberty · 31/01/2016 15:00

OP never said DH was struggling

What? Confused

Does he sound like he's coping well to you?

As an adult he should have enough self restraint to not let a bar of chocolate affect him

As adults we should have enough self restraint to not overeat and get fat.

Not really what tends to happen for many though is it?

UmbongoUnchained · 31/01/2016 15:02

Well then that's their problem.

WorraLiberty · 31/01/2016 15:02

I think if this was reversed and it was the OP's husband eating a bar of chocolate in front of her, there would have been a few replies of...

"He's trying to sabotage your diet on purpose"

"He wants you to fail because he's insecure"

"He's a selfish wanker. What are his redeeming features?"

WannaBeAMummy16 · 31/01/2016 15:02

You are being incredibly unfair to him. How selfish.

squoosh · 31/01/2016 15:06

Nah. I wouldn't feel any different if it was the OP on a diet and her husband was eating chocolate in front of her.

Presumably it's one bar. She hasn't spent the weekend sitting on front of him stuffing her face and saying 'haha you can't eat this'.

paxillin · 31/01/2016 15:07

Could be thoughtless, deliberately goady or undermining. Can't think of a pleasant reason to do it, unless maybe to toughen him up for the harsh world out there? Although that might be patronising. Your house presumably has more than one room and you are not together 24/7.

Buttons23 · 31/01/2016 15:10

YABU I think it's mean spirited to eat a chocolate bar in front of someone on a diet, especially if it's your partner. I couldn't do it, I would eat treats away from home.

ethelb · 31/01/2016 15:12

How far into the diet is he?

Throwingshade · 31/01/2016 15:13

I think you're being mean and unsupportive but I guess you think you are very funny...

Sirzy · 31/01/2016 15:17

It's hard enough to change your eating habits wighout people deliberately making things harder. You can't avoid the temptation of
Course but someone sitting in front of you, in your own home eating something they know you like but they shouldn't have is wrong. Especially if it is early days.

PurpleDaisies · 31/01/2016 15:18

Op are you coming back to tell us this is a reverse?

Bunbaker · 31/01/2016 15:18

It isn't very nice though is it. Nothing like rubbing salt in the wound.

What size bar was it?

squoosh · 31/01/2016 15:20

I think it was one of these

To eat Chocolate in front of DH when he is on a GP imposed Diet
WorraLiberty · 31/01/2016 15:20

Actually my ex used to think it was funny to eat chocolate in front of his sister, but she was diabetic which possibly made the 'humour' worse.

WorraLiberty · 31/01/2016 15:21

Grin at that Toblerone!

PageStillNotFound404 · 31/01/2016 15:21

Depends, really. If he was starving and you were deliberately cramming it in and laughing in his face, then YABVU.

If you were sitting in another chair quietly breaking off the next bit while you both watched TV or something and you'd previously offered to get him a GP-sanctioned snack but he chose to do puppy dog eyes and whimper at you over your chocolate instead, then YANBU.

My DH can't eat/drink certain things because of medication he's on; I don't flaunt it when I'm eating any of them but neither does he expect me to leave the room every time (not least because we're open plan so it would mean having to eat in the bedroom or garden!)

Sallystyle · 31/01/2016 15:24

I can see both sides.

When I had hypermesis for 9 months dh never ate around me. I told him not to be silly and just because I couldn't eat without being sick doesn't mean he needs to hide away when he eats, but he couldn't do it.

If dh was on a diet I wouldn't scoff chocolate around him if he was struggling with his diet but I would still eat my normal meals around him. The start of a diet can be so very hard, after a while it can become easier and might not be an issue for him.

Muskateersmummy · 31/01/2016 15:33

I think it's pretty unsupportive and mean of you. People do much better on diets if their family are supportive. Look at in reverse, how would like it if he was to do something like this to you?

FlatOnTheHill · 31/01/2016 15:34

Worra
He's a grown man. Why should the OP have to pussy foot around him and eat her choccy in secret or out of sight. The OP is not responsible for his food weakness.

SoleBizzz · 31/01/2016 15:36

Feel the same about drugs, alcohol? Flat

FlatOnTheHill · 31/01/2016 15:37

Ok ive re-read.
The OP should eqt what she likes in front if him. He has the problem not her. He is,grown up enough to handle it.

WorraLiberty · 31/01/2016 15:38

No-one said anything about pussy footing or secret eating.

But if the person you love needs to change their diet due to medical reasons, and they happen to be struggling...well a bit of support is a nice thing to give.

I find it strange that some people find that strange. Especially when it's such a simple thing to do.

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