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To eat Chocolate in front of DH when he is on a GP imposed Diet

111 replies

Oldsu · 31/01/2016 11:36

Just eaten a whole bar of Cadburys Fruit and Nut, DH is whimpering and giving me the big eyed treatment, but not sharing with him his GP has him on a diet for a reason.

DH says I am cruel and wicked and that I don't love him and is sulking.

So am I being unreasonable??? I am not on a diet.

OP posts:
EssentialHummus · 31/01/2016 12:12

This is a reverse isn't it? Yup, whoever is scoffing the chocolate is being rather insensitive and unsupportive imo.

BankWadger · 31/01/2016 12:13

YANBU.

Dh ears all manner of dairy products in front of me all the time. I drink alcohol in front of him.

Oddly I only drink occasionally, and he has dairy every day, yet he's the one who acts hard done by stupid git

Our husbands need to harden up.

BankWadger · 31/01/2016 12:14

Ears? He obviously EATS dairy not puts it in his ears I hope

Wolpertinger · 31/01/2016 12:19

YABU and also a jelly and a yoghurt is not going to help is diet either so please don't do that - jelly is just pure sugar Confused

WhoTheFuckIsSimon · 31/01/2016 12:23

Unreasonable and unkind.

peggyundercrackers · 31/01/2016 12:24

No it's not unreasonable - what is he going to do when he goes out - Tell everyone around him to stop eating? he is an adult and understands why he needs to be on a diet, he needs to suck it up and get on with it.

Floralnomad · 31/01/2016 12:26

It's not unreasonable but it is not very kind and could be seen as unsupportive .

Headmelt · 31/01/2016 12:27

Yabu. My cousin does that to her boyfriend too. He needs to lose a lot of weight and she keeps asking him to stop by the shop on the way home from work to buy her chocolate and junk food.
It is mean when he needs to lose weight especially for health reasons.

WorraLiberty · 31/01/2016 12:30

It's just totally unnecessary really and could be easily avoided.

EeyoresTail · 31/01/2016 12:38

How would you feel if the situation were reversed OP?
Mean spirited IMHO

KacieB · 31/01/2016 12:52

Oh come on, this HAS to be a reverse. No one would write like that.

So the question is why bother?

Also, if you're this passive-aggressive in the way you tackle problems in real life, no wonder he's not that supportive.

gamerwidow · 31/01/2016 14:21

Yabvu being on a diet is hard especially when it's forced rather than a change you've chosen for yourself. No one would say you have to not eat chocolate but to do so in front of him like that feels like gloating. It's like gleefully getting pissed in front of a recently recovering alcoholic.

theycallmemellojello · 31/01/2016 14:27

Hmm well it's never occurred to me to stop my DH or anyone else eating what they feel like when I'm trying to diet a bit. On the other hand, I've never had a problem with weight but just occasionally try to lose a couple of pounds for vanity's sake. So seeing someone else eat something tasty is either not a massive trigger, or I just cave in and have some too and it's no big deal. I think it's a different matter when it's a health problem, and it would be best for you to support him as best you can. No, you might not stick to the same very restrictive regime, but you could eat the same meals, and you could have your snacks when he's not around. And if he seems upset - maybe take that into account??

BarbarianMum · 31/01/2016 14:32

Wow, nasty. Still, when someone shows you who they are it can be a very useful wake up moment.

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paxillin · 31/01/2016 14:39

Do you secretly wish he'd fail at his diet? Would it make you feel gleeful and superior? Do you fear what would happen if he succeeds? Or is it just mindless goading and you don't care either way?

squoosh · 31/01/2016 14:46

For God's sake. Some real overreactions here.

I've been the one on a diet and if you can't even handle someone eating a bar of chocolate near you well you're not going to get very far.

FlatOnTheHill · 31/01/2016 14:47

I dont think its unkind. He is not a baby.

paxillin · 31/01/2016 14:51

Well, it does sound a bit unloving to gleefully celebrate his "whimpering and big eyed treatment". Dieting can be really hard for some people without saboteurs.

WorraLiberty · 31/01/2016 14:52

What does not being a baby have to do with it?

If someone you love is struggling with a diet that's been imposed by their GP, and you can just as easily munch a bar of chocolate out of their view, then why on earth wouldn't you?

It's not like he's just trying to shift a few pounds for his beach holiday.

PrimalLass · 31/01/2016 14:53

Did he drink when you were pregnant?

29redshoes · 31/01/2016 14:53

Amazed at the responses! I'm pregnant, DH hasn't given up eating all the lovely food I'm not supposed to have or stopped drinking alcohol around me. I don't consider that unreasonable. Why should he deprive himself because I have to?

How is this any different? Did all your partners give up alcohol while you were pregnant??

BertrandRussell · 31/01/2016 14:53

It's not the worst thing you could do to someone. But personally, I'd rather be kind than unkind. Just makes life easier all round.

TheCatsMeow · 31/01/2016 14:54

YABU it's horrible.

My DS is allergic to dairy. When he's old enough to notice I will never eat dairy in front of him and I won't have chocolate in my house

WorraLiberty · 31/01/2016 14:55

Who's saying the OP should deprive herself? Confused