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AIBU?

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To be totally pissed off with DH for being mean about Inside Out.

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couchparsnip · 30/01/2016 21:21

I am sitting here stewing, almost in tears and I know I am probably BU and irrational but he has really annoyed me.
We both like Pixar generally so we rented Inside Out to watch with the kids this evening.After I had put the kids to bed (my turn) I went in to his man cave (spare bedroom) to talk about the movie. He thought it was the worst one they had ever done at which I expressed surprise and said most people thought it was good. He said he had read loads of reviews saying it was really bad and Pixar were going downhill. He said it as if I was stupid to like the movie. I said I had read different reviews and he gave me a look like he didn't believe me.
I have just checked reviews online and cant find a single bad one! He has made that up to back up his wrong opinion! I know if I call him on this he will say something sarky about him always being wrong. Its totally stupid and I am probably completely pre menstrual but I feel like I cant talk to him now without having a row! I am now sitting in the kitchen with wine and feeling like I am stressing over a tiny trivial thing. Which I am, probably.

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 30/01/2016 22:12

scallops... where are you reading that? He disagreed with the OP. She disagreed with him too obviously.

I absolutely despair of the bollocks that is 'mansplaining' being used in this context, it really grates.

HortonWho · 30/01/2016 22:14

Article on what Pixar movies kids rate best. Cars 2 was a big favourite.

whattodowiththepoo · 30/01/2016 22:14

Not a fan of the film, sorry for mansplaining.

caitlinohara · 30/01/2016 22:14

I liked that film WAY too much. More than the children I took to see it, definitely. I think you know that YABU to be tearful about a difference of opinion though.

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couchparsnip · 30/01/2016 22:14

Mumsnet I love you.. Thanks for getting me through a bad moment. xx

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ScarletForYa · 30/01/2016 22:25

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DixieNormas · 30/01/2016 22:28

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frenchie12 · 30/01/2016 22:31

I am one of the few people who absolutely hated this movie - one of the worst I've seen. If DD hadn't been with us, DH and I would have walked out.

BeetrootBetty · 30/01/2016 22:33

I get it OP - presumably you thought you'd all enjoyed a nice evening watching a film and so felt a bit surprised and disproportionatlely upset when he hadn't actually enjoyed it and backed up his case with bad reviews.

Don't worry though, if you usually disagree amicably its all fine.

MarkRuffaloCrumble · 30/01/2016 22:35

I loved the film and thought it made some really interesting points about how differently we remember things and how one memory can affect another. My dp and I had some good chats off the back of it and I think it really helped him to see why sometimes I remember things differently to him!

If he hadn't enjoyed it or had been dismissive of the themes that had spoken to me, I'd have felt like we missed an opportunity to connect. We watch a lot of films (not all kids ones!) and it feels like we bond over similar views on certain films. It's like it reaffirms that we are on the same page about things. When he loves a film that I have enjoyed I almost feel relief and pride as it shows that I made a good call.

I just spoke to him about Inside Out and he said again how much he loved it, but there are other films he has really enjoyed that I don't get and vice versa. I think the upset has come from the fact that this highlights that you aren't on the same page with regard to depression or emotions or feelings bout kids growing up etc.

MrsJorahMormont · 30/01/2016 22:36

I think if you found the film very touching or meaningful, him not getting it and dismissing it could feel like he's dismissing your deepest feelings. So you are probably being a bit over-sensitive but at the right time of the month I would too It didn't help that he pulled out the 'Google said it's shit! The whole world thinks it's shit! You're such a weirdo!' argument. Petrol on the flames!

gandalf456 · 30/01/2016 22:37

Someone saying they didnt like a film, song or book wouldn't bother me.

It would really annoy me someone going on and on about it and trying to prove me wrong. Likes and dislikes are v.personal so I would find that disrespectful and it would also spoils the enjoyment of the film for me and I wouldn't want to watch it again

MrsJorahMormont · 30/01/2016 22:37

X-posted with Mark, who said what I was trying to say, only much better

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couchparsnip · 30/01/2016 22:59

Mark I think thats a lot of it. And Mrs Jorah I think you are right about petrol on the flames. I had talked to the kids about their 'islands'. I went in to carry on the conversation with DH and was totally shot down. He talks about emotions rarely so I should really have known it wasnt his thing.

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Noshowofmojo · 30/01/2016 23:12

I preferred the volcanoes.

PastaLaFeasta · 30/01/2016 23:14

Maybe the film had an impact on him and made him uncomfortable so he attacked it - I have only seen bits of the film so I have no opinion personally. But there are nice ways to disagree and perhaps he could've been more sensitive in his delivery.

nooka · 30/01/2016 23:34

I found Inside Out really disappointing and generally we have loved virtually all of the Pixar movies. There were some nice moments, but it just didn't hang together for me, and some parts were just annoying.

I can imagine that if one person thought it really deep and moving and the other a bit trite then you could really easily upset each other talking about it.

missbishi · 30/01/2016 23:40

OK, so he said first that he didn't enjoy the film. You then expressed surprise at his opinion and stated most people liked it. It's possible that he saw this as you trying to invalidate his opinion.

landrover · 30/01/2016 23:41

There are lots of bad reviews, because the film was rubbish!

Samcro · 30/01/2016 23:43

wow the idea of 2 grown ups falling out over a kids film is just odd

theycallmemellojello · 30/01/2016 23:57

Oh sad, me and dh love debating films and books. I guess just steer clear of asking if he's enjoyed something that you liked if you find a difference in opinion upsetting.

5Foot5 · 31/01/2016 00:03

Just wanted to say I am kindly disposed towards this film because on Christmas Eve (day time) DD (20) and I had a few hours with nothing to do and she suggested we watch it. So we sat together on the sofa and "Aaghed" and cried and it was lovely and I don't get the chance to do that with her all that often now.

TSSDNCOP · 31/01/2016 00:11

DH took DS to see it at the cinema. Loving Pixar, he was I think a bit sad. He thought it was "dark". ds and I watched it just this afternoon. dS laughed out loud several times, as did I, but I thought it very heart wrenching too.

Pixar does rite of passage in a way that Kitchenaids your heart IMO.

GreatAuntLavinia · 31/01/2016 00:28

This. I feel your pain OP

To be totally pissed off with DH for being mean about Inside Out.

Lynnm63 · 31/01/2016 00:31

I really liked it. I took my 3 dc to see it at the cinema. They all likedit too. I had a little sniff during the film. I must rent it so DH can see it.
Toy story 3 however I took the dc's to see that and cried my eyes out when Andy went off to college. DS 1 thought I was a bit mad when he realised I was crying because he would be leaving for college in 8 yrs time.

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