To be totally pissed off with DH for being mean about Inside Out.

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I am sitting here stewing, almost in tears and I know I am probably BU and irrational but he has really annoyed me.
We both like Pixar generally so we rented Inside Out to watch with the kids this evening.After I had put the kids to bed (my turn) I went in to his man cave (spare bedroom) to talk about the movie. He thought it was the worst one they had ever done at which I expressed surprise and said most people thought it was good. He said he had read loads of reviews saying it was really bad and Pixar were going downhill. He said it as if I was stupid to like the movie. I said I had read different reviews and he gave me a look like he didn't believe me.
I have just checked reviews online and cant find a single bad one! He has made that up to back up his wrong opinion! I know if I call him on this he will say something sarky about him always being wrong. Its totally stupid and I am probably completely pre menstrual but I feel like I cant talk to him now without having a row! I am now sitting in the kitchen with wine and feeling like I am stressing over a tiny trivial thing. Which I am, probably.

I agree with Vashta.

How is he the rest of the time op, sounds like he is spoiling for a fight.

I thought it was a bit pants. I'm assuming there is a back story to this?

I think that you are having a bit of an overreaction, OP, given the subject of the disagreement, however I do understand what you mean. He belittled you for liking something that he didn't like, wouldn't accept evidence that backed up your points, and made up his own evidence to back up his.

Yes, it's just a film, but I think that I would be pissed off if my DH showed so little respect for my opinion, even on something trivial. Although, I have been in EA relationships before so am possibly more sensitive to this sort of thing than others.

If he typed 'inside out is shit' into Google then he would have found bad reviews I assume. We can all back up our views on the Internet whatever they are

You're being a bit weird about it though...

We usually disagree amicably. Dont know whats up today. I just felt like I was being looked down on for liking it. I am totally overracting and dont know why really. Perhaps there is more to it.

We watched it last week as I wasn't in a rush to see it. I'd read a lot of reviews that said it wasn't as good and Pixars worst film so he probably read similar ones.

He shouldn't be arguing over it with you though.

It's definitely not for children i don't think. My ds was a bit confused by all the heavy subjects in it. I agree with previous posts, i would put it down to pms. I know i have done most of dp's shit for the last week

Sounds like he's spoiling for a fight.

He's clearly in the huff about something and has decided to 'lie' because he'll know that you'll know.

It's all game playing and really fucking irritating.

I feel like I am in the twilight zone....

Now that I read it, I feel bad because I like to do this kind of discussion over movies with DH and his taste is rather bad in movies in my opinion. I have solid data behind my discussion though but sometimes I do feel ashamed for being mean enough to say awful things about movies that he likes and wants to see with me. Feeling fidgety

It's not for children but I really liked it

So, he was busily googling negative reviews while you were putting the children to bed?

I can see why some posters are being snarky towards you OP, but I think your DH is being a tool.

I think it's one to sleep off really. If it's an isolated incident you'll both be over it by morning.

Well there's at least 20 one star reviews on Amazon. Why would he be lying?

Maybe time to have some rest, OP.

I can totally understand the snarkiness too. PMS is a bitch! Thanks for the views. It has helped me get perspective and calm down.

Oh. My. God.

You can have different opinions.

I had a very viceral reaction to it and really found it uncomfortable. I found the underlying story about happy memories and supportive parents to turn sad things into happy things really patronising - the whole thing about your core being all the happy memories. Must have left a load of kids with less than perfect memories feeling like they have something missing.

OP, but why are you not correcting the posters here who are saying that your husband called you stupid...? He didn't, according to your OP. He said that Pixar are going downhill and lots of reviewers didn't like it. He could have looked on Amazon or any one of hundred places. Why are you so keen to call him a liar?

There is obviously something going on in your relationship that is making you feel underlying anger but, if you really can't stand for him to disagree with you then just leave him alone in his 'man cave', don't seek him out to discuss things that don't really matter, ring a friend instead. He wasn't 'spoiling for a fight' as has been suggested, he didn't instigate this.

Work out what it is that is truly annoying you and perhaps address that rather than trying to play it out over trivia.

I didn't like it and hate to say it but there are negative reviews and lots of them

• imdb - www.imdb.com/title/tt2096673/reviews

huff post - "convulated" - www.huffingtonpost.com/carole-mallory/movie-reviewinside-outcon_b_7625784.html -uproxx- "designed to impress sensitive adults not kids" uproxx.com/filmdrunk/inside-out-feels-like-it-was-designed-to-impress-adults-not-entertain-kids/

I honestly get so fed up of the men must be wrong camp on mumsnet sometimes. He stated his opinion you stated yours no-one called the other stupid and you're obviously having a sensitive moment, I have them all the time and get ragey over various perceived slights that never really exsisted.

There are plenty of Negative reviews about the film, including those that suggest it's Pixar's worst. But I really don't think this is about the film.

If he's being deliberately unpleasant and trying to pick an argument then that's obviously not on. But if it's a general dsagreement over a film it's not a big deal. We hardly ever agree on whether a film is good or not. He sometimes has said to me you don't half watch some crap. So I've started saying the same about his films. he doesn't say it as much now.

No he didnt call me stupid and I am totally PMsing so he probably never thought it or implied it. I am being over sensitive. I agree Lady D.

He did instigate it LyingWitch. He started dismissing her views.

I can imagine the tone OP. Look up 'mansplaining'. I'm not surprised you are annoyed. And as others say is this the tip of the iceberg?

MrsFrisby the final message of the film (assuming everyone on this thread has watched it) was that it can't be all purely happy memories, though, because that doesn't work. The unadulterated happiness was unsustainable.