Feeling very guilty about leaving / having a rubbish marriage

[Theladyloriana]

I'm due to move out next week, with my children. My ds aged 5 does not see us arguing, has no idea yet about the split but is clearly anxious. What can I do to help him through this? My h has been awful to me and I have no choice but to go. I wouldn't if it wasn't intolerable.

So yes feel awful for choosing someone I'm so unsuited to and putting my dc through this

You DS does not see you arguing but small children are incredibly good at picking up on atmospheres! He is better off out of it! The bits he picks up on are the cause of his anxiety, you are ending that by leaving.

Don't feel bad about choosing the wrong person, we all make mistakes.

Thanks mama god it's hard though isn't it... Just heart breaking really

Yes of course it is hard. BUT you are not the only adult responsible for this!
It takes two to make a successful relationship!

That is true... It's been a disaster for years... I've kept trying and trying but I just have to get the rock out now...