to sack cleaner who went through my laundry basket?

[Noendofideas]

Long story short; new cleaner- job includes washing and ironing DC clothes. All tasks written out and agreed. Not doing a fantastic job generally but today discovered she has gone through my laundry basket and done some of my washing. Hasn't done any dc washing. I expressly said no need to touch my stuff. When asked why she said she forgot it was supposed to just be the dc washing. I am absolutely livid that she went through my laundry basket, which is full and thought this was acceptable. I want to sack her immediately but DH thinks I am being unfair and it was just a stupid mistake. Who is bu?

[janethegirl2]

If you had written instructions and she did not follow them, I'd be inclined to sack her due to not following the instructions.

[Dontlaugh]

My cleaner does my laundry. And the childrens. I love her.
Any person that washes my knickers deserves a fn medal.
OP, YABU.
If you don't like how she cleans in general, then find a new cleaner.
But YABU on this instance alone.

[Kewcumber]

you're not in west london are you? I need a cleaner like this.

[Kewcumber]

(am I wondering what was in the washing basket that provoked such a hostile reaction to a mistake)

[Hihohoho1]

Just have a chat with her similar to your post and you won't have to sack her. She will save you the effort.

[M00nUnit]

Have you told your cleaner how "livid" you are? I really hope not. I feel really sorry for her if so - sounds to me like she was just trying to be helpful by doing something extra for you.

[Noendofideas]

Possibly am over reacting. I have a lot going on at the moment. I have had cleaners before-always had a good relationship with them. Yes it was a mistake and we can all make mistakes but not the first by any means just the one that has really annoyed me. I went through it all with her beforehand and it is all written down. Nowhere does it mention washing my clothes. She went into my wardrobe. She would have had to look for the laundry basket as I never mentioned where it was.

Yes it's a first world problem but aren't they all on here.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

Have you got some saucy underwear you'd rather be kept secret?

[Kewcumber]

am I alone in* wondering... I need a secretary too.

[Dontlaugh]

"No need" is nonsense and does not translate as "Do not do this specific task as I have instructed you not to".
In my house, "no need" runs to "well, if you have time that would be great, but there's no need really". It usually gets done.

[OhforGodsake]

That poor woman. She probably was doing what she thought was a good thing and got an ear bashing for her trouble. Please sack her immediately so that she can look for an employer who isn't an hysterical fool.

[weeblueberry]

Possibly am over reacting

Yeah considering every poster has said you are. You might be. Possibly.

[shazzarooney99]

Good lord! i think you need to take a chill pill!!!!!!

[OhforGodsake]

Ah dripfeed! Now you say that the laundry basket was in your wardrobe. You didn't mention that in your op.

[janethegirl2]

Fuck, she shouldn't have been in your wardrobe. I'd sack her for that alone!!

[Goldenbear]

Do the cleaning yourself then you won't have to worry about it?

[IfItsGoodEnough4ShirleyBassey]

On the upside your DH sounds nice and reasonable. So that's a win.

[Nanny0gg]

She went in your wardrobe.

That's why she should be sacked. (Where else had she looked first?)

And if the OP wants/needs a cleaner or someone to do laundry and pays for the privilege I don't see why some of you have to be so snippy about it.

[slithytove]

I'd sack her.

[janethegirl2]

Yes, sometimes it's easier to do everything yourself, but it is not always possible so that's why many people employ a cleaner.

I once had an excellent cleaner but she had other issues which made her stop doing such work. She was a huge loss and I couldn't find a good substitute.

So I have to do it myself.

[BishopBrennansArse]

What the actual fuck?

[rosewithoutthorns]

Does she understand fully what you want? Does she speak very poor english?

[rosewithoutthorns]

Just re-read a bit.

I'd tell you what to do with your damn washing, it wouldn't be pretty.

[Pigeonpost]

Massive overreaction but as someone who sacked a cleaner last week over what seemed like a fairly inconsequential failure to follow instructions when it was more a case of many cumulative inadequacies and failings which tipped me over the rage, I hear you. Although "no need to touch my stuff" is a) a bit aggressive and b) daft as most of the contents of your house would be deemed "your stuff" and it's a bit hard to clean without touching anyone's belongings. Give her the benefit of the doubt, assume she misunderstood and see how things are next time.