to sack cleaner who went through my laundry basket?

[Noendofideas]

Long story short; new cleaner- job includes washing and ironing DC clothes. All tasks written out and agreed. Not doing a fantastic job generally but today discovered she has gone through my laundry basket and done some of my washing. Hasn't done any dc washing. I expressly said no need to touch my stuff. When asked why she said she forgot it was supposed to just be the dc washing. I am absolutely livid that she went through my laundry basket, which is full and thought this was acceptable. I want to sack her immediately but DH thinks I am being unfair and it was just a stupid mistake. Who is bu?

[MrsJayy]

Sack her for doing a bit of washing you are livid because she did a bit of washing you sound terrifying glad i am not your cleaner jeez

[wickedwaterwitch]

my cleaner does ALL our washing, we don't do any of it. So YABU IMO, she was trying to do you a favour, surely?

[CaptainCrunch]

It must be lovely having nothing better to be angry about than this.

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

Absolutely livid? Really? You don't think that is a fucker bit of an over reaction?

[janethegirl2]

No OP, YANBU as you told her to wash and iron the children's clothes.
You told her not to do your stuff so I understand why you're pissed off. She didn't do your kids stuff as requested. However I'd give her a second chance but if she then screws up she's out the door.

[FlatOnTheHill]

You say your laundry basket is 'on' your wardrobe.
If this is all you have to get livid about then you are very lucky.
Get in the real world ffs

[WaitrosePigeon]

Crikey, you're not that special you know..

[LordOfMisrule]

Yabvvvvvvvvvu. Chill out love!

[KitKat1985]

YABU and massively over-reacting. She was clearly just trying to do a good job.

[m0therofdragons]

You're livid because she stole your jewellery? No, she washed your clothes!
Okay, so you don't want her to do it again so you clearly say to her that you do not want her to go into your wardrobe and maybe write out a tick list of what needs doing.
Can you imagine her explaining why she was sacked - "I did too much clothes washing"

[PizzaConnoisseur]

You sound slightly unhinged. I would sack her if you're that angry about it, doesn't sound like something you'll be able to move on from.

[HPsauciness]

Well she isn't going through your laundry for the fun of it, is she?

A mistake was made. It's very easy to correct that mistake.

Whether you should sack her- is it easy to get very good very obedient cleaners on the price you are willing to pay. My experience is a good cleaner is hard to find. You should bear that in mind when you make your decision, but of course you do not have to keep her, and of course she may decide to drop you.

[goddessofsmallthings]

Have you employed cleaners before, OP, or is this your first?

[Salmotrutta]

So did she go in your wardrobe then?

I'd be a tad uncomfortable about that I must admit.

But if I had a cleaner (I don't) I would just be wanting cleaning, not washing or ironing.

[Iguessyourestuckwithme]

I am a nanny totally different but sometimes I have to go in my bosses laundry basket to find the kids laundry. The "I haven't seen your ... in a while... aah I'll be back in a minute" (with a pile of kids clothes including the something I was looking for)

Yabu

[flossietoot]

Your post has made me irrationally angry. Catch a dose of reality and stop being so ridiculously up your own arse. I have spent my day doing supervision with staff who support vulnerable people with REAL! ACTUAL PROBLEMS. Stop being such a total bitch.

[BanningTheWordNaice]

YABVU.

[pigsDOfly]

From the thread title, that's exactly what I thought the OP meant HP: that she thought the cleaner was weird and was going through her laundry basket for some sort of unpleasant sexual thrill.

Turns out the woman was just being a bit over enthusiastic with the washing. Oh well.

[3sugarsplease]

I agree with glossier pot

Seriously. Get in the real world.

[Viviennemary]

You sound like hard work. Sack her and she might find a more grateful employer. You should have left the things you wanted washed by the washing machine.

[3sugarsplease]

What the hell.. Your going to sack your cleaner and I'm going to sack my phone... I meant flossietoot

[tillytown]

YANBU, she is clearly the devil. I bet she was rolling around all day in your dirty knickers, sack her.

[cleaty]

" I expressly said no need to touch my stuff. "

This is not clear enough. No need can mean, I think you have enough to do so I don't want to bother you. So she does it thinking she is doing you a favour.

If you are going to employ people, you have to learn to communicate clearly.