Stop calling me mummy!

[TruJay]

A family member calls me mummy and I don't mean in the normal way of saying to dc "let's find mummy" or "shall we go ask mummy if she would like a drink" as obviously that's who dc know me as so it's perfectly reasonable, nope, she does it ALL THE TIME.

When I arrive at hers she'll say "hello mummy" or "mummy, would you like a cup of tea?" It's slowly driving me insane!

I had a really stressful time just before, during Christmas and into new year and part of the reason was me feeling as though I had lost my identity and doing literally nothing for myself but everything for everyone else. I went to the doctors and it turns out I had some pretty serious deficiencies and now have medication and am feeling bloody great! So although the doc said the deficiencies accounted a lot towards my low mood and exhaustion he too agreed, after talking it through I had a hell of a lot on my plate.

I have started to say "no" to other people and standing up for myself more. I have lessened my responsibilities and stopped allowing people to depend on me so wholly when they do absolutely nothing to help me in return. This has not gone down well with some people but I've had to do it for my metal wellbeing.

I have finally grabbed the bull by the horns and enrolled on a course leading to a degree to get me into my dream career and I'm really enjoying it. My eldest is at school and I've put my youngest into childcare, she's really settled well and is really happy. I feel like I am doing something that is just for me and my brain feels engaged, I feel reborn if you will and its a giant breath of fresh air for me!
Since being on my course and having my name used, this issue is becoming more apparent.

Sorry went off on a bit of a tangent there, just wanted to give some background.
Now it's just this one problem I don't know how to tackle. I find it really rude and quite patronising. I am not this persons mother, my view is only my children should call me mummy. My DH doesn't spend all day saying "what would mummy like for tea?" "Mummy, what shall we watch on telly?" "So mummy shall we call it a night?" So I don't know why this person does it.

Other family members are starting to follow suit which I do not want.
I can't remember exactly when it started but it's been a while and at first I just found it strange but thought it would pass but it's just gotten worse.

All my friends with children say it's weird and understand me taking it as a put down.

So my aibu is am I overreacting to this? Would you find it acceptable? And what would you do to combat it?

My main thought is to scream "if I didn't squeeze you through my vagina please don't call me mummy! I have a name, use it!!"

[leelu66]

Well done, TruJay! You haven't seen since last week...is this an unusually long time for her to stay away? Sounds like you have been successful. Don't let her silent treatmnt (if that's what it is) guilt trip you into accepting being called 'mummy' again.