to not go to the N.E this weekend to watch a football match?

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We live down South (Berks). DH supports Sunderland. At Christmas, a friend sent him 4 free, good, tickets to watch Sunderland play Bournemouth (in Sunderland) this weekend. He asked me to go, and I said OK. My 2 DC would come too.

But, it's cold, snowy, icy, a fecking long way (5 hours one-way), ALL up the motorway (which I have a phobia about; I can't drive on them anymore since I had 2 panic attacks)... I really don't want to go.

So, I suggested he asked his friends. He said, "They won't want to trek up to the north-east to see a match of a team they don't support, in a sport they're not interested in."

I said, "But I feel like that!"

He said, "Yes, but I'm not married to my friends."

I looked into train tickets, but it'd cost £250 for us all to go, and I'd have to pay (he hates the train).

Another reason I'm feeling off about it, is we got free tickets to Champneys as a wedding present. 2 nights all-inclusive. Every time I suggested we go, he hemmed and hawed with one excuse after another, until he FINALLY admitted he really didn't want to go. So I've arranged to go with someone else to let him off the hook.

He's a lovely DH, but I don't want to trek to the NE this weekend to shiver at a footy match. AIBU? He's already paid £60ish for a family hotel room for all of us.

MunchMunch Fri 22-Jan-16 00:28:53

Yes yabu as you agreed to go and we are talking this weekend.

Update: After it became clear that I was dreading it unenthusiastic, DH spoke to 2 fellow supporters at work, and they've all gone up together in the car.

I should've gone. This motorway phobia is stupid. I need to get that sorted.

Thanks for all your messages!

I honestly cannot imagine why anyone would want to spend 8 hours (or more?) in the car to watch 1.5 hours of average football. Enjoy your day op, result.

That's good, don't feel bad about not going. Yes you probably do need to sort out the motorway phobia but now at least you can make plans to do it on your own terms whether that it by going somewhere you do want to go or by contacting a driving instructor and getting them to take you out.

2 separate issues. Sort the motorway out butbdintvfe

But don't feel guulty about not going