to not go to the N.E this weekend to watch a football match?

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We live down South (Berks). DH supports Sunderland. At Christmas, a friend sent him 4 free, good, tickets to watch Sunderland play Bournemouth (in Sunderland) this weekend. He asked me to go, and I said OK. My 2 DC would come too.

But, it's cold, snowy, icy, a fecking long way (5 hours one-way), ALL up the motorway (which I have a phobia about; I can't drive on them anymore since I had 2 panic attacks)... I really don't want to go.

So, I suggested he asked his friends. He said, "They won't want to trek up to the north-east to see a match of a team they don't support, in a sport they're not interested in."

I said, "But I feel like that!"

He said, "Yes, but I'm not married to my friends."

I looked into train tickets, but it'd cost £250 for us all to go, and I'd have to pay (he hates the train).

Another reason I'm feeling off about it, is we got free tickets to Champneys as a wedding present. 2 nights all-inclusive. Every time I suggested we go, he hemmed and hawed with one excuse after another, until he FINALLY admitted he really didn't want to go. So I've arranged to go with someone else to let him off the hook.

He's a lovely DH, but I don't want to trek to the NE this weekend to shiver at a footy match. AIBU? He's already paid £60ish for a family hotel room for all of us.

Out of interest who are the mackems playing this weekend? I hope you lose! toon toon

Ooh, I used to live on Newcastle Road, near the baths (now identikit Ikea housing), I'm on the dark (south) side of the water now. Still within a strolls distance of the SoL though.
I had no idea we had so many mackem-mumsnetters!

Jean , Bournemouth

I'm not a native, but good to see other mackems!

YABU. DH has probably heard about the silky football played by the mighty Cherries and is desperate to see them in the flesh. It would be cruel to deny him this.

I spent Valentines day last year in a Premier Inn in Derby with DH and DC after an FA Cup match! (But our team won so it turned out great.)
Suck it up, wear thermals and lots of layers and take handwarmers. Listen to something good in the car (with headphones if need be) to take your mind off the journey. Join in with the songs / chants at the game and get into the spirit of it. You might surprise yourself and actually enjoy it.
And get him to commit to an IOU for the next thing YOU really want to do as a family / couple.

I've just discovered Miss Tina's - do you all own toddlers? or just go for the cake

Oo will be a good game!

Mine are past the toddler stage (aged 9 and 12 now) but I know a lot of people who love going to Miss Tina's. :)

Sorry for derailing your thread op! Sunderland is improving a bout though so you might actually enjoy coming up North!

Miss Tina's could be the making of Southwick - I met some friends there last week and it was really lovely. There was a sling meet going on - D's is 3 so too old for that but the play area cake and coffee was great!

The kids and I were gutted that Southwick library closed down, so I was really pleased to see that there are some shelves in one of the rooms there housing a community library. It's not what it could be, but it's better than nothing, so good on Miss Tina's for accommodating it.

Maybe we should start a Sunderland Appreciation thread 😉

My DH is travelling from the north east to Watford this weekend to watch a football match. I don't understand it either!

He goes to the footy, you have the kids. Next weekend you go to the spa, he has the kids.

easy.

Your DH will be off to support The Toon though Pottering, that makes much more sense that travelling to watch Sunderland play!

magpie he would definitely agree with you!

Not a Mackem - honestly not sure what one is - and not a football widow, but just dashing in to say that if you don't like driving on motorways but are put off by the extortionate price of train fares you should totally get a friends and family rail card (if you don't have one) - it makes journeys way way cheaper.

PlaymobilPirate Thu 21-Jan-16 21:32:30

Maybe we should start a Sunderland Appreciation thread 😉

Oooh Oooh!

Waves!! I live in Newcastle (the shame) but I'm from Sunderland. It's brill :)

Don't go for the same reason he isn't going to champneys.

Never heard of Miss Tina's but I'm in southwick 3 days of the week so I'll keep and eye out for it, even though it sounds like a kids place and my 2 youngest are now 8 and nearly 6 but I love cake.

Haha. DH is a cherries supporter and even he could not be tempted up to Sunderland. Even though it is both a match they should win and one which cherries fans can get tickets for. He took me to West Bromwich though. Though not on the Baggies barge.

Honestly though, don't go. Sunderland may surprise everyone but probably not. Either a Bournemouth win or a nervous draw.

Needtoprotect16 - "Okay, go but only on condition he drops you off at Seaham Hall Spa en route"

That's a good idea, agree to do something with your family, then at the last minute pull out and demand that your husband spend family money on a treat for you.

If you didn't want to go, you should have said no. Accepting an invitation and going through with it is called being a grown up. If you really don't want to go, talk it through like proper people, and don't make demands. It's unfair on your husband and makes you sound like you're literally six years old.

You're taking this very seriously indeed, beefthief

I don't doubt for one minute that, whilst having a stomp on MN, the OP has had a proper grown up conversation with her DH.

I'm sure the OP is a lovely, rational person, it was Needtoprotect16's unhelpful, juvenile contribution that I took issue with. :)