Godmother jealousy

[HeartsTrumpDiamonds]

DD2 has a godmother who is amazing at presents (Christmas, birthday, just because...), sending messages, making an effort to get together as a whole family etc. Makes DD2 feel really special. DD1's godmother is rubbish. Maybe she gets a text (via me, even though she has had her own phone for over a year now, doubt godmother even knows the number) on her birthday. No presents, no acknowledgement of any sort of special relationship between them, nothing. Godmother barely asks about her when we see each other, and it is only ever me and her, never with the whole family.

We were together at the weekend with DD2's godmother (again) and she handed over yet another (lovely, thoughtful) little trinket. DD1's face was so sad.

There's nothing I can do, is there.

Gah this is a real first world problem isn't it ???

A lot of people sound rather greedy on this thread, and I have seen in RL people carefully choosing godparents for benefits they might bring. Gay people in particular are targets, as are "spinsters". I remember reading in Monica Dickens's autobiography that when she made a late marriage and adopted two dds her siblings were far from pleased.

In the case of OP, it's just what happens - some godparents come up trumps, some lose interest or have their own dcs, or get asked to be a godparent to many dcs and can't keep up.

if your DD2 is nine, I assume that DD1 is older... why not talk to her about what a godmother / godfather role is and see a) whether she might be able to help build that relationship, or b) whether she wants to pick an additional godparent of her choice - it is not unusual to do that, and it can even be done as a ceremony in church if desired (with an understanding vicar!) There is no legal position / role as godparent, so you can do pretty much what you want, so it might be about seeing if there are ways that you / your daughter can take control of the situation...

would agree though that asking the other godmother to balance the situation is not the right conversation...