Cheer up love

[sofiahelin1]

Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh !!!
Haven't had that comment in years, just walking down the street minding my own business, not in a bad mood.
Wish I'd thought of something to say back
Was with my ds12 and told him never to say that to a woman, should of said it louder

I'd never really thought of it as sexist tbh as people round here of both genders say 'love' (usually older generation though) as well as 'duck' etc. But I hate being told to cheer up. Who actually walks around with a smile on their face all day long? I do have a bit of a sullen face when I'm on my own, thinking or whatever. But if a relative has died or is ill, or my marriage is finished or whatever then I'll look however I damn well please! This is what annoys me, when people say this kind of stuff they have no idea what's going on in your life.

I've also had the 'cheer up' and 'smile, it might never happen' comments while I was grieving, and dealing with other horrible things at the same time. It made me so angry. I didn't need some idiot stranger telling me to smile while I was so depressed I could barely function. It did happen you ignorant twat, so leave me alone to get on with it.

'Dizzy' -'cheer up' is irritating but some people will take offence on anything, a lot of stuff that is regarded as sexist is, but not all, everyone has different ideas, some more extreme than others, some people on mn as in real life are only happy when they are whinging about some real or percieved slight.

So fucking rude it's unbelievable. Why would anyone think it is necessary / helpful / friendly to instruct a stranger on how to look / feel.

It's only ever been said to me by men, have never had a woman pass such comment. It strongly implies to me that they feel I ought to look more cheerful for their benefit - which gets a massive fuck off.

I had a good one on Friday - was on my phone replying to emails in queue at m&s, probably looking a bit pissed off to be fair but work can do that and I was reasonably stressed. Some guy in his 50s interrupts me to advise 'Don't worry pet, I'm sure he still loves you' - complete with patronising smile. The assumption being that the only possible reason I might be annoyed would be related to a man, and that I need some manly reassurance to make it all better.

Enraging.

I've had it said to me when sitting on my own at a table in my bar. My friend had gone to get more drinks and everyone was blazing around me, I didn't feel safe. It says to me "you've got a face like a slapped arse"

Do men routinely shout this to men they don't know in the street?

Don't worry pet, I'm sure he still loves you

Gaaaaaaaaaah