Cheer up love

[sofiahelin1]

Arrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh !!!
Haven't had that comment in years, just walking down the street minding my own business, not in a bad mood.
Wish I'd thought of something to say back
Was with my ds12 and told him never to say that to a woman, should of said it louder

As for 'resting bitch face' it's all part of the same crap.

Most people look solemn when they're not doing anything- why is it now 'resting bitch face' for women and er, nothing for men.

It's bitchy resting face. Not resting bitch face.

Resting bitch face makes no sense.

I thought it was strange.

Cosy

Funny enough no one has said this to me in years and I go around with a much bitchier head on me these days than I used to.

I think I just radiate "fuck off" nowadays. I can't stand the idea that women are there for men's viewing pleasure. Ugh.

I particularly remember getting "Cheer up, who died?" from one of the male nurses when I was a very junior doctor. My reply "My grandad, last night" didn't go down too well.

What really didn't go down well with me was when the nurse in charge wanted me to apologise to the guy because I'd "upset him" and "he didn't mean any harm". Grrrrrrr.

I agree, they only way a speaker could think they were being 'nice' would be if they followed it up with an 'are you okay, can I help?' Otherwise, how the fuck to they think a sarky comment, followed by them walking off, would help the individual at all?

It would only be non sexist if women said it to one another (rare) or men to other men (never).

Similarly, I wouldn't think it odd or sexist if a man held the door for me. If a man held the door for me and several other women, but then let it shut in another man's face, I would find that bizarre/sexist. I hold the door for whoever's behind me, regardless of gender, and expect others to do the same.

puppymonkey no, both terms are used, according to urbandictionary, wiki, knowyourmeme, etc. Both ways make sense, it's a 'resting' bitch face (one you don't do on purpose) rather than an 'active' bitch face

I call it DH's "Fuck Off Face"

It's all very 70s 'Carry On' isn't it? How are we meant to react?

Giggle, giggle, blush, oooooh a maaaaaaaaaaaan is talking at me. How exciting!

It's rude and sexist. It's not a 'nice' thing to say at all. I have had this when I was younger, not so much now I am older and will call them out on it.

It's generally said by those men who think that all women have to walk around grinning like the fucking Cheshire Cat.

God forbid we aren't beaming 24/7.

Someone said it to me when I had just come out from visiting my granny in hospital, where she had been admitted with a recurrence of breast cancer. It was right outside the hospital. I was young and shy and just stared at him. Wish I'd thought of a good response!

I remember a taxi driver telling me to 'cheer up love" an hour after my beloved nan died. Ffs.... If my funny face made him nervous/on edge that was HIS problem!!!

Personally, I hate being told what mood to be in 😤

It is not nice it is an attempt to exert presumed authority. Its demeaning and insulting, and sexist.

Unfortunately, it isn't said to me any longer. A hypnotherapist put it into my subconscious that my repose face has to be 'smile' and I go around grinning like a fucking Cheshire cat.

YANBU. It's rude to comment on someone's appearance. Women can look however they like, cheerful or not!

Women in Korea are under so much social pressure they are having plastic surgery to make the corners of their mouth turn up.

That is shocking

This fucks me off so much. I have never had it said to me by a woman and I've never heard of anyone having it said to them by a woman. I've also never seen or heard of a man saying it to another man. It's not nice. It's fucking offensive and anyone who doesn't understand why is part of the problem.

And telling someone 'it might never happen' is bloody insensitive. If someone is looking miserable, then there is every chance that something has just happened!

This is the third time I've been involved in a discussion like this today, so I'm quite riled up about it now! Coincidentally, I was asked earlier if I protested about having doors opened for me. Obviously not. It's basic good manners and I thank anyone who has done it for me. I also hold doors open for other people, irrespective of gender.

A man said this to me an hour after I found out my dad had killed himself. I broke down in tears in the middle of the street and he scarpered

I hate this too, and started a thread about it a while back - everyone seemed to be in agreement!

Last time it happened to me - well, two men calling to me 'un petit sourire quand meme! Allez!' (I live in France) I scraped up the nerve to turn round, look at them and say 'go fuck yourselves' bebefore carrying on walking. They were a bit bewildered as obviously weren't expecting English, then started saying 'Fuck! Ah oui, c'est fuck!' to each other and laughing uncertainly. They sounded like absolute twats and I felt gleeful!

A hypnotherapist put it into my subconscious that my repose face has to be 'smile' and I go around grinning like a fucking Cheshire cat
Giggling and wtf-ing uncontrollably at that sentence

Its my life soafiahelin1.
As long as I give someone a laugh...

Seriously? Well that is my answer then Name of your hypnotherapist please
(how do you have that conversation? Please hypnotise me to smile? Did they ask why??)

Sorrytimely I'm not laughing at you, just never heard anything like that before! Genuinely interested

Delia!
She's a piece of work, alright. She stole my imaginary kingdom (I'm Asperger's) and gave me the grin.
She did manage to remove my suicidal urges though - I no longer plan to hang myself, I only occasionally 'see' ropes instead of several times a day, and if I think of suicide I think of knives. And all the while, I grin.

She called it 'second level psychiatric care' and told me if it didn't work I'd be incarcerated. She also said no-one knew how it worked and there might be far-reaching side effects. There were. I had to grieve for my lost self for about two years. I can't look back, I can't do a performance review, I can't remember things, I can't think of anything to say.

My mind is an empty bowl. Very Zen. But I'm not suicidal. And I smile a lot.

I didn't ask to smile. If anyone had said 'Do you want to smile?' I'd have said 'Sod off, I'm not a half-wit, I'm an intelligent, serious person.'

Timely that's terrifying, sounds like it's out of A Clockwork Orange How awful for you.

Some bloke said this to me in the street a few years back and I muttered 'wanker' under my breath as he went past. Turned out he knew my DH and in the pub that arvo he told my DH I had called him a wanker! Still think he was, what an inane thing to say. We still joke about it.

Wow timely