AIBU to think that you tell close family first?

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Sitting here looking at my facebook and I'm starting to see DSS and his GF getting tagged in congrats posts on my newsfeed. Mostly from his mates but also our DNiece has just chipped in.

Appears that our DGD may have been born at some point today but neither DH or I have had a text or call from DSS. There is no backstory, we are close.

AIBU to be a bit hurt?

Oh Mairzy that must have been a really difficult time. I was shocked to see,a friend's wedding photos on Facebook before the ceremony even finished. It turned out they had asked someone to post pictures so her brother ,who was abroad and unable to attend , could follow the ceremony.

Op yanbu but it's likely that the news has got on Facebook before they've had the chance to tell family.
When I went into labour, DH was watching football at a friends house, I phoned him and asked him to come home and they all guessed I was in labour, fortunately none of them were arseholes so didn't post it on Facebook but it's easy to see how it can happen.

When I had DD, me and DH told our mums, then face booked it so all the siblings would find out at the same time as all our close friends who had been really supportive and helpful through entire pregnancy.

Only people who were the least bit bothered not to be contacted directly were BIL and SIL, who raged at not receiving a phone call immediately.

We'd seen them three times in the 9 months I was pregnant.

I think my Mum would be upset by this, and probably also my MIL. I think I would call them both first, if I were lucky enough to get pregnant/have another baby.

Mair that is awful, sorry for your loss.

I think announcing births and deaths are radically different things though and like comparing apples and oranges - for all people might be offended/ put out about not being top of the priority list to hear about a birth as soon as possible, nobody in their right mind is going to be upset to hear a baby has been born, whereas obviously everyone is going to be upset/ shocked/ devastated and shaken to the core (depending whether it was 98 year old great aunt in known severe long term ill health or an unexpected death) to hear of a death!

skankingpiglet you are absolutely right that some people just love to be the first to tell other people's news!

I don't think it is generational or social media induced (though do agree social media makes it easier to do on a large scale).

20 plus years ago my mother told everyone my A level news before I even got home (was doing a summer holiday job that day and went into school in my lunch break, got my results, called my mum, went back to work - by the time I got home she'd told my siblings and father but also every friend who had phoned to ask me my results and tell me theirs (no mobiles back then), and had also phoned people herself to tell them! I didn't get to tell anyone at all except that one call to my mother, she told absolutely everyone else!

I know how you feel OP and YANBU.

My cousin put on Facebook that our nan had died minutes after her death before my parents could tell me or my brother, I called the cousin a self absorbed cunt and deleted them from Facebook, my uncle was furious that she'd done that and it's damaged her relationship with several family members including myself.

My friends DM was the one to post on FB without permission. She got the middle name wrong too! DFriend was not impressed.