to ask someone to move their child out of my plane seat

[kipperssippers]

more of a WWYD then AIBU but...
i booked the seat by the window as i always do and when i got to my seat a child around 8 was in my seat with her mum beside her.
When i got there i told the mother that the window seat is my seat and she said her child wanted the window seat to look out, i then replied then you should of booked one.
I didnt want to cause a scene but the women made out i'm an arsehole for asking her kid to move as she had never been on a flight and wanted to look outside.
I did give in and stayed pissed off for 7 hours in my non window seat.

what would you of done in this situation?

I think some of the comments are a bit insulting to young people. She just appears to have a shocking lack of self awareness or of the needs of others. You can be any age and lack awareness and insight.

To be fair the "very young accusation" a bit unfair because:

A) a very young person is quite capable of sniffing out some of the bullshit here and
B) it is a black and white situation

Had the window seat mattered that much the mother would have paid for it. They did not, the OP did. Therefore it is black and white - if the person in possession of the boarding card did not wish to move the seat was theirs

Anyone who thinks otherwise has a failure in their internal logic circuits however lovely they believe themselves to be. I'd probably take a lot of pleasure if I met someone like cats in real life being frosty polite but extremely uncooperative.

I am a generally polite and kind person but you have to behave in a way that means you deserve respect. Self imprtance and entitlement absolutely bring the cold, indifferent english/British person in me. And I'm bloody glad it does

I answered that earlier not my fault if you can't read.

And I haven't said never say no to a child stop putting words in my mouth

Yes there are entitled idiots of any age to be fair.

Depends how twatty your parents were.

Waiting to stamp on a childs joy later after seeing state of dds room.

Cats I actually take exception to your English people are cold attitude.
I too am the child of parents not born here and yet I consider myself English.
I'm from Birmingham and I can assure although some my think the city a bit grim one of the things that makes it a great place to live is the friendliness of the people that live here.
You seem to have the attitude that if you want it something then you should have it and hang the consequences or impact for anyone else.
I was in a relationship with a man who's mother had bought him up to think he was entitled to do what he liked. Can you guess how much fun that was?

Hihohoho

it is not entitled to be kind to others.

You cannot simply give out your things to strange children just because they behave like brats and demand them. By that logic, I would have given a random toddler my book and my handbag on the bus last week just because he got it in his head he wanted them. Said book was a Rebecca West novel the mother could not shut him up and he screamed "I want that book, I want that bag!" Until they got off the bus. So by cats logic should I have given him the book and my handbag to fill him with the joy of socialism and my debit card??

is not entitled to be kind to others. THE PLANE MOTHER WAS NOT BEING KIND WAS SHE!

Awad Birmingham is actually alright to be honest. Very multicultural and pretty chilled.

No I don't. I just put kids first and try to help others! I think it's common decency to let the child look out the window

You know how like in other countries everyone will speak to everyone and nothing is too much trouble.

Cats, this is incredibly naïve and rose-spectacled about other countries. I've visited a lot of countries and met good and bad everywhere.

No country holds the monopoly on politeness.

I've had strangers help me carry 40 kilos of luggage on French trains, Brits rush to help me after falling over on a train in the UK, adults on the tube helping to entertain a baby, offered a seat many times and then seen that person stand for the next 10 stops etc.

Have you considered, Cats, that there is a reason why you're not afforded politeness?

don no, obviously that is entirely different to a child saying they want to look out the window because it's the first time they've been away. Why are you lot incapable of context?

Stop calling children brats, that's awful behaviour

Leelu

I've said earlier there's good and bad everywhere but that culturally some places are more prone to it than others.

Where I live people are lovely to me doesn't mean I like English culture

Why is you lot rude? What should I refer to the collective posts as?

Mmm I live in brum. Don't block Train isles around here love. We ain't that forgiving.

And it's orite by the way if you want to fit in.

You are right cats it's not entitled to be kind to others or considerate so perhaps you would agree that the mother on the plane showed none and you in the train showed none.

Refer to the collective posts as what most people think

But a minute ago you were saying you would give food to strange children I sure as hell wouldn't have given him what he wanted had it been a cereal bar or something either. Going out of your way over the demands of strangers kids is absolute insanity. And yes, screaming for 20 minutes because a stranger won't give you their book and handbag is bratty behaviour. Children do need to learn where the boundaries are in life, they cannot expect every adult they encounter to give in to their demands or society would become carnage.

Hiho you think MN is representative?

It's not about the mother it's about the child.

So why couldn't someone show me consideration on the train? Why does it always have to come from me? I don't do it to get pay back but sometimes it would be nice for someone to recognise when I need help

Yes Cats Brum is lovely but if you would have pulled the same stunt here as you did on that train, you would probably have been cussed out and had your pushchair kicked onto the platform.
Same with the lady on the plane I would have told her to move her child, not because I want to ruin a childs day but because I was always taught if you don't ask for something politely you don't get it end of!

don so if you'd got a bag of sweets and a child wanted one you wouldn't give them one?

Children are not brats. They are children.

Awad fail, I live in Birmingham no one "cussed me out". In fact once it cleared people were okay