Only sibling not in wedding party

[MercuryBrown]

My oldest sister is getting married. She has asked my two other sisters to be bridesmaid but purposefully left me out. My other two siblings didn't mention they were in the wedding party, I found out because the bridesmaids (8 of them) were listed on the invitation I received. I am very hurt by this and I'm thinking of declining the invite. I would ask my mother to speak to her but my mother unfortunately has severe Alzheimer's. I don't know how to proceed. I don't want to seem petty by declining the invite but don't really want to constantly come up with an excuse as to why I'm not involved. I have two children but so does one of my other sisters. Why would you guys do? Would you attend and grit your teeth or would you decline? Am I being unreasonable?

Sorry OP I haven't read the whole thread but my tuppence worth I probably would go to the wedding - being there is more important than being there in any particular role IMHO And you get to see lots of other people in the family.

They might well say didn't you want to be a BM? Or even have you fallen out a bit with your sister? Just take it from there with them however you feel if that does happen? eg. yes, I'm pretty busy running around after the DC OR It's just nice to be here and catch up with everyone etc. etc.

Sorry your DM isn't well. That must be a huge worry for you all I imagine

I don't understand why an NHS go would waste time calling the USA to tell someone that their mother hasn't been to appointments. Surely they would call the sister if anybody...

Get your attorneys onto the massive breach of patient confidentiality the GP and pharmacist appear to be breaking by contacting you yeah right

If you're concerned phone social services. What are the non-existent lawyers for?

Also - if your mother has Alzheimers and has reached the stage where she is no longer mentally competent, then you cannot get power of attorney. She needs to agree to it for it to happen. You would have to go through a Court process to become a Deputy.

If she is competent enough for you to still apply for PoA then the doctors shouldn't be talking to you.

As for the pharmacy - completely baffled. How would you even know which pharmacy to talk to?