Awkward mum threesome? Wwyd

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I am friendly with a mum and she is friendly with me and another mum. The problem is that the other mum is constantly unkind to me and makes a lot, and I mean a lot, of unwelcome comments - about me, my DD, my home etc etc. I have not said anything to anyone - don't want to be bitchy- but resolved to breezily avoid her. Unfortunately the friend I do like is keen to bring us together as a threesome, and will make arrangements with me and then invite her. Do I say something directly? Or just cry off once I have found out she's invited? I am not great friends with the mum I like, IE not anywhere near the point of being able to speak completely frankly, but certainly enjoy her company.

Sometime people who make these comments dont realise how offence and upsetting they are being (at least that's what I am told) often they are also much more sensitive when their behaviour is rounded back to them. Avoid if possible ignore if not

Hi Op,

Had a similar situation and started to point blank refuse meet ups with the mean mum and slowly started to do much more with the mum I like. I think mum I like gets the idea that mean mum is not my cup of tea and I think mean mum knows too.

It's been well over a year since I began to distance myself and I have also used the tactics suggested by other posters saying 'what do you mean?' to the sly comments. It's actually very enjoyable to watch MM back pedal and get flustered when she knows she's been rumbled!

Anyway, she's not completely out of my life but at an acceptable distance. She works hard to try to develop our friendship now I've effectively withdrawn it but having given her a second chance in the past, I think I'll pass.

Good luck OP. You sound lovely.

Lol I also though threesome even after I read it 😳 I thought you meant nice mum is arranging a threesome with you and lady you didn't like. I had to read it a second time of which I then understood 😂😂

Can't you make arrangements and at the same time tell nice friend not to invite nasty as she's made it clear that she doesn't like me and would probably rather spend time with nice friend alone, as would you. Win-win for 2/3 of you.

If nice friend subsequently invited nasty just say you can't make it. Even be blunt and say that doesn't work for me...

Seems a shame to lose a nice friend over this

I'd pull her up on it where possible or else I'd just completely avoid her. Life is too short to spend time with people who make you feel shit.