to want to scream "JUST ANSWER THE FUCKING QUESTION?!"?

[Bogeyface]

Tonight "Would you like a yorkshire pudding with dinner?" "I dont mind, whatever". Well do you or dont you?!

Every single time I get this, and eventually I do get an answer one way or the other, so why not just say that in the first place?! And if I say "Look, I am asking.. do you or dont you?!" then there is a definite feeling of unreasonableness that I am pushing for an answer.

I am not asking in depth questions about the political situation in the Middle East, just whether he wasnt a fucking Yorkshire pud. Drives me up the fucking wall!

We all share the same DH!

Mine drives me mad with this. He now gets asked once and if no definite answer he doesn't get whatever it is. And if he's distracted by fucking FB or similar and Mmm mm's me (so I know he's aware I'm talking to him, he's just not actually taking it in) he definitely doesn't get it even if it's something I know he loves.

He does is less and less nowadays after many times of missing out.

Do you offer because you want one and you're doing it anyway? Just do yourself one, or not, if you're not bothered and don't do them one because they lack clarity, and don't share yours either

Me to friend of ds who became a second son to us for a while
Would you like peas or beans with that?
Don't mind
Sorry, don't have any don't mind in today!
I'll try not to get started on deaf dh who will ask a question, then wander off out of earshot (about 2 metres) before I've had a chance to answer.

My 11 year old DD answers like this. It does my head in...but in a cafe recently I asked "Do you want this sandwich toasted or not?" and she said "Don't mind."

And I was about to be as I wanted to tell the assistant one or the other...

And the assistant....a lovely teen, said "Ooh you're like me! I don't mind either...I always say that!"

And then I thought "maybe she really doesn't mind...easy come easy go..."

Who are these people who are basically saying 'meh' to yorkshires and cups of tea and takeaways???!

DH always likes to have his dinner on a matching bowl/plate to me. As in 'Do you want a plate or a bowl for this?' 'Whatever you're having'. Apparently it makes him feel twitchy if we eat off different things. They even have to be the same size bowls.

Me: "chicken ok for dinner tonight or would you prefer fish?"
Him: "it's up to you, I don't mind"
Me: "chicken then?"
Him: "oh I had chicken at lunchtime"
Me: "ok I'll make the fish then"
Him: "meh...I'll just have tuna on toast"

Then the weekend comes and he's ranting about waste of food and how much we spend at the supermarket

Me: Will we have tacos for dinner?
Him: We could have tacos or lasagne.
Me:

I now preface any question with "Before you answer, I know what all the possible options are. Listen to the question and answer appropriately."

He's slowly getting the message.

OvO, if we do indeed all share the same DH it's no wonder he's rubbish at answering questions. He must be exhausted

Mine takes a slightly different tack. I ask him a question like "Would you put the bin out?" He's not listening but is aware of a question and responds with "Yes" (because that usually causes him less trouble than "No" in his experience). I head off thinking the bins will be put out and he assumes he got it right somehow with his answer. All good until the bin isn't put out.

If I continually got no answer to a straightforward question, then I'd say "Ok so that'll be a No then".

At some point, the person being asked might decide that they did want whatever it was, but tough nuts - they should have said "yes" when asked then, shouldn't they.

I do the same, Thumb. Giving food to someone who doesn't mind is a waste. Oh you meant you quite like a cup of tea or even yes please, that would be lovely when you said I don't mind? Well, say that next time.

How can we all be married to the same man? This drives me insane! And my son does it too, it makes me want to scream. Make a bloody decision FFS! No one will die if you give a definite answer! Ahhhhhh!

DH likes to have some choice over what he eats but does no shopping or cooking or much else really

If I say "would you like sausage and mash, kebabs or lasagne?" I mean that all of those are available, we will definitely be eating all them over the next three nights, but I'm flexible about the order in which they are eaten.

He starts making random suggestions which bear no relation to the ingredients I have already bought

Once he said he wished he had a completely free choice every day "like being in a restaurant"

WitchWay, aren't you tempted to say "sure we can have shredded duck instead, please buy a duck, some honey and light soy sauce before 5pm and I'll cook it" if he says duck when you ask sausages or kebab?

Reading the thread title I thought this was about a politician - ANY politician - being interviewed.

ha ha reni that wouldn't work as he refuses to even consider what he might like to eat before he get home in the evening as he "doesn't know what he'll want"

Make 5kg of chilli con carne, freeze in batches, feed every night with fresh rice until creativity appears in good time before the weekend shop as if by magic

Iwashere, if you now FiL always has coffee, why do you offer him tea?

The reply which does my head in

(in answer to questions like, "Did you lock the door?" "Have you got enough X for your packed lunches this week?" "Is there enough room on your side to get past this parked lorry?" "Are we picking DD1 up tonight?") is:

"I believe so."

Not even "I think so."
What I want is a simple yes or no.

"I think so but I'll just check." is perfectly acceptable.
I'd even take "I can't remember - can you check?"

Somehow "I believe so" is horribly horribly smug. It's not committing yourself to an answer so he's never actually wrong.

Me: what do you want for dinner?
DH: whatever, don't mind
Me: ok, will do spag Bol.
DH: I really don't fancy that!

Posted too soon! DH really winds me up with it, and the DCs are getting just as bad. Just one decision I don't have to make would be nice.

My mum used to get cross (well, annoyed really) if she asked what we wanted for dinner and we said we didn't mind. But we really didn't mind! It's only now that I realise how much extra work all that thinking and decision-making actually is.

In our house people get whatever I can be arsed to throw together. I've been meaning to become a "proper mum" and do weekly meal plans since my son was born... He's 3 next week Maybe when they start school!

Oh yes 'I believe so'. I had a colleague once who would reply 'to the best of my knowledge'. I have got the rage now, remembering this!!

reminds me of my DM and my gran.
DM was very decisive, gran and I were/are not.

I had long conversations with DM about the way that 'I don't mind' can genuinely mean that one will be equally happy with either choice, and that a Yorkshire pudding or roast potatoes instead would be equally satisfying.
In our house, my stock answer is 'I don't mind. Let's flip a coin'.

However, if the question is 'Yorkshire pudding or not?', the answer must be 'yes please'. Or, in my case 'Yes please! But only if it's not too much bother, mind...'

My DH is likeyours ephemeral. I cook in the week, he cooks at the weekend. Every Saturday morning before he goes out to the butchers I get "what do you want for tea tonight?

I find cooking is the easy bit - deciding what to cook does my head in. I do not, however, give anyone a choice or ask for opinions. They get what I decide I'm cooking - take it or leave it.