to want to scream "JUST ANSWER THE FUCKING QUESTION?!"?

[Bogeyface]

Tonight "Would you like a yorkshire pudding with dinner?" "I dont mind, whatever". Well do you or dont you?!

Every single time I get this, and eventually I do get an answer one way or the other, so why not just say that in the first place?! And if I say "Look, I am asking.. do you or dont you?!" then there is a definite feeling of unreasonableness that I am pushing for an answer.

I am not asking in depth questions about the political situation in the Middle East, just whether he wasnt a fucking Yorkshire pud. Drives me up the fucking wall!

YY!! We have this, I get far more irate with my mothers responses...

Me: what shall we have for tea?
Mum: don't mind love, what's in?
Me: chicken or fish
Mum: well I had chicken Sunday with Rhona so don't fancy that, and I'm not keen on fish. Any pasta in?
Me : I'll have a look.

Would you like a cup of tea?
'Oh go on then'
You're not doing me a bloody favour ffs. A yes please or No thank you is what is required here

In these situations indecision is met with contempt. You get what you are given!

If they don't say yes or no then in my house it would be no.

Let them go hungry.

I would ask once, do you want a yorkshire pudding and if I didn't get a straight yes I would take it to the kitchen and put in the bin.

I'm guessing he would know better next time.

YANBU. If this happened a lot I would be inclined to ask and on receipt of a non-answer just do whatever the heck I liked. So if I wanted more yorkshires I wouldn't give him any and if I'd cooked too many I'd give him lots. If he can't take responsibility for what's on his plate it may as well be at your convenience.

How about this....

Me "what time would you like dinner tonight"

DH "what are we having?"

Why does that make any sodding difference!

I think in his case he is saying "Well if you are cooking them then yes please, but dont do them specially for me" which is fine, I often say that, but thats the point - I say that!

Why cant he?!

boombooms so it wouldnt be necessarily a bad thing to do what I was toying with earlier?

Which was the next time he says "I dont mind, whatever" is to cook a whole pack of 12 Auntie Bessies and put them all on his plate?! :o

Ha, no-one in my house gets the choice of what's for tea. Its all set in stone on Saturday and that's that.

ME to FIL: Tea or coffee?
FIL: I don't mind
Me: so, tea or coffee?
FIL: whatever you are making
Me: I've made both. Which would you like?
FIL: It doesn't matter
Me: Coffee then?
FIL: that would be nice, thanks

There are 2 things you need to know about FIL:

1. He always drinks coffee
2. He doesn't want to put anyone to any trouble on his behalf

Note to FIL: if you want coffee, just ask for it. Please!!

sounds perfect!

Well at least you get a response on second asking ...
DP watches tv on his laptop wearing headphones - I have to get his attention and then he puts them back on before giving me a proper answer
eg I'll ask him if he wants something I'm making for the DCs for dinner and he'll say 'maybe -but I might have some X left to eat up'
On my feet anyway and wanting to know how much to make - I'll go to check and loudly say through to the living room 'I can't see any in the fridge -do you want me to do extra? No reply - say it louder -still no reply - go back into the living room to find he has put his fucking headphones back on...
One day I'm going to snatch them off him and jump up and down on them
The couple of times I haven't made him anything after a similar conversation he gets all sulky...feels sorry for himself - which is almost as irritating ...

Me: what do you want for tea?
DH: what are you having?
Seriously whats that got to do with it.

My lovely 90+ Nan used to turn into a banshee when she wheeled the pudding trolley in and asked my grandad 'what's it to be Jack?'
'Whatevers easiest' aaaahhhhhhhhh!!!!!

XH used to give it "don't worry about me, just make sure the boys have enough". Well yes, I've done that, but there is enough food in the house for the adults to eat too; it's not the fucking Siege of Leningrad.

Me: do you want a cup of coffee/tea? - I'm making myself one

DH: no thanks, I'm okay, oh er, alright, go on then (usually after I've left the room / gone halfway downstairs) it was a simple question not the third degree

Me: Do you want salmon or chicken for tea?
DH: yes please.

It's a bloody OR question. It requires a decision.

His answer is perfectly valid. He would be happy to have salmon or chicken.

Oh yes this is familiar.
How about
"What would you like for dinner?"
"I don't really mind"
"Well would you like X?" (Knowing full well he hates X)
"I really don't mind"
"Of course you mind, you hate X"
"I'll eat X, if you want X"
"No I don't want X, I want to know something you would like!"
Ad nauseam

Also
"I really can't keep being the one to think up meals, could you think of some"
"Oh, well what would you like?"

Mmmm now thinking about a pudding trolley....

Why all the questions? Just do what you want - treat them like children and don't give a choice... Fuck me some people make life difficult.

I stopped asking DH what he wants for dinner. Either he'd want something stupidly complex and expensive, or he'd just grunt and tell me to decide. So now dinner is placed in front of him, and if he doesn't like it he's welcome to make his own. Or go to McDonalds.

Why all the questions? Just do what you want - treat them like children and don't give a choice... Fuck me some people make life difficult.

Okaaay. Got that that is a PA dig at someone just going to need a wee bit of help working out who it is aimed at!

HAppy I was thinking how posh is having a pudding trolley at home?! Ususally we only saw a pudding trolley on holiday with a selection of dried out gateaux and smingy trifle. Pudding at home was for Xmas or birthdays and you got what you were given!

My favourite is:
In the morning...
Him: I'll sort dinner tonight
Me: Ooh lovely
Text message at lunchtime: What do you want for dinner?

FFS the whole point of sorting dinner is that YOU make the decision and arrangements so I don't have to think about it for once!! I am not fussy, I'll eat anything. Just feed me!!