Why does this irritate me so much?

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A "friend" i used to be good friends with is due twins in the next couple of months... Two girls

She keeps referring to them as twincesses

Seriously?! Why!

It's not her first baby or even her first girl before people say maybe she's excited by first girl/baby.

I will be the first to admit I do have judgey pants about her since these are babies 3 and 4 by the same guy who she cheated with and is still a single mum. She is cobstantly preaching about how a brilliant mum she is la la la

But seeing twincesses is giving me the rage!

m0therofdragons, I'm sorry for you loss. .

My son will never know the joy of being able to say I'm a twin as his brother died when they were in me.

Perspective is needed but it doesn't change any hurt, annoyance, etc that someone else feels.

Do you know what makes my blood boil? People speaking on behalf of others. You don't like being called the twins that's fine but others really don't care.

Like you just did, you mean?

I'm very sorry for your loss, and of course it's emotive for you, but it doesn't make my experience less valid.

Thank you. I now have id twin girls and the fabric on them really doesn't make their personalities - they have VERY individual personalities! Just fed up of people criticising everything a mother does. Support each other rather than bitch about each other.

No honey that's fine that you don't like it but you were speaking on behalf of all twins telling people not to ever call twins the twins. By all means speak for yourself but assuming all twins agree is what annoyed me.

That's fine. But right now what you are saying is that I am the only twin who doesn't like it. Speaking for everyone. Like you accused me of.

However, I am happy to accept that some people don't mind, of course. That's their perogative. I think that other than my first sentence, I was quite clearly referring to how it made me feel.

Sorry for derail OP

YABU!

But I have twinces so I would say that

YANBU at all

You guys don't sound like friends. It seems like you just don't like her very much which is why it irritates you. The name is a bit cringe but unless she is still forcing them in matching clothes when they don't want to be then she's not doing anything wrong. Babies don't have identity issues.

Twincesses. Brilliant. That's made my day, that has. Love it