to not want 19 yr old DD to go out tonight?

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She had no plans until yesterday (despite me telling her to make some) and now she and a friend are planning on travelling to the nearest city which is 40 mins away. DD/friend do not know this city. She thinks they will be able to get into a club (have told her clubs will probably be tickets only) and will not have a problem getting a cab back and it will not cost £££s. I have tried to book one and been told there are no slots until 4am at the earliest.

She is planning to blow all her money (£140) on this night out and still expects me or DH to drive her to her friends (30 mins drive) tonight and pick her up tomorrow as she will not have enough for a taxi there. I don't want to, I want us to relax on NYE ourselves (DH at work til late so it will be me doing it.)

She is at college, has a part time job but keeps every penny for herself. She is given lifts to and from work. She does not even pay for her phone contract - she has also just smashed her phone for the 3rd time this year and says she will wait a few weeks before paying to get it fixed (£70) as she will have to save for it. In the meantime she expects to 'borrow' her younger brother's. She has been the cause of a lot of tension in the house this Xmas due to her foul temper.

I am worried about her being stranded and having to go out in the early hours to get her. I would not mind her going out locally as it's a 5 min drive to town centre clubs here. I am also furious she wants to blow all that money.

DH thinks I am BU and a killjoy?

I think yanbu about the money part at all op!
That is a lot to waste on new years eve.
I went out last year and spent around £60-£70 just because i went to a bigger city, so expensive taxi.
I've gone out on new years since i were 17 but would never spend anywhere near to even £100.

If she has a job and she wants to go out places then she needs to fund them herself.
It's ok for you to still give her lifts, but when you offer, not for her just to expect them.
She should also been giving you a bit of moneytowards housekeeping, even if it's only a small amount.
Yes she is saving to replace her phone, but she shouldn't just expect to borrow her brothers.
It's his phone, it's not his fault she can't look after one. ( i have lost/broken a lot of phones but my parents have never bought me a new one, i have always saved and replaced it myself).

Too right you diden't give her a lift, you are going out and want to have drinks and fun, not remain indoors waiting to give dd a lift. When I was that age, my mum did not drive so I could not bag lifts, either on NYE we used public transport to get to the venue, or clubbed together for a taxi, if not we stayed in. Its about responsibility.