Why would someone replace my loo brush with a new one?

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I 'hosted' Christmas this year which actually meant my mother an sister used my (larger) house to host the day. They did all the cooking and my mother did lots of bits of cleaning on Christmas Eve while they were prepping the food, to 'bring it up to standard'. She deep cleaned the inside of my fridge and I assume cleaned the downstairs loo as she was in there for ages.

Anyway, I assume she found my loo brush lacking as she has swapped my green (which matches the decor) one for a nasty cheap plastic black one. And hasn't said a word to me about it.

I had specifically cleaned the whole house before their arrival and said to my mum not to do any cleaning because me and dh find it upsetting.

I absolutely promise we do not live in squalor. It's just that my mum has ridiculous standards. I can't imagine how the loo could have been any cleaner than how I'd left it though.

What's pissed me off the most though is that she must have planned to chuck my loo brush, hence bringing a new one with her. My loo brush was barely used as I prefer to use a cloth, dh prefers a brush though. It was only a couple of months old.

AIBU to be incredibly upset and offended by this? I'm mortified actually and need to bring it up with her but she will just turn it around on me and say the old one was minging and I'm a slattern.

OP don't take it personally. I've read through again and i think that cleaning the house was your mums way of trying to make Xmas as easy as possible for you (and not being a burden), also her way of appreciating you hosting (it's your first time) and more importantly her way of having a tiny little bit of control at a time she has little control generally. She really can't mend the huge rifts between her children but she can ease everyone's way through Xmas so it's as stress and hassle free as possible. Yes changing the loo brush was over zealous but I really don't believe it reflects on your standard of cleaning. It's more to do with her mental state. No one else would do such a thing.

Loo brushes are so yesterday. It's so much easier to wipe off the crap with your hand and then wash it under the tap. Well that's what DD said.

I'd make a game of it. When you're next at her house go armed with a new loo brush and plastic bag. Sneak up to the loo with said items place her old brush in bag and replace with new. Get rid of bag. Wait a few days for her to say something.

SPB - glad you asked that, I was wondering too!

Ok so I put on my big girl pants and asked. Apparently on Christmas Eve she went to use it and there was an actual lump of poo stuck to it (I think from one of the kids, is hope dh wouldn't have left it like that). Rather than make me feel uncomfortable she quietly chucked it and brought her spare new one from home on Christmas Day.

So not the pre planned snipe that my anxiety had decided it was. All is well.

Still a bit weird to go messing about with someone else's toilet brush.

My MIL stayed to look after our dogs one year while we had a holiday. When we got back she was saying how she had given the house a good clean, I shouldn't feel bad as I worked fulltime etc etc etc. The house was spotless when we left, we had to take her in the lounge and ask her why the carpet was covered in maggots from the bones she had given the dogs. The bones were covered and so was my carpet. She didn't bat an eyelid.

I feel your pain and would never do it to my kids, I think my daughter would like me to do it (clean not cover her house in maggots) but thats a different story.

Why on earth would you throw out your perfectly good brush, that just needed a clean (soak in bleach would have done it) - and NOT TELL YOU?

That is very weird behaviour in my book. In fact, I stand by my first theory even more now.

Some one has shat in the loo tried to get it out with the brush and it's not gone well

Or you have a loo brush robber in the area