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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think this woman was rude for swearing and barging by me?

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thelifeofamber · 28/12/2015 18:09

People queuing up to go down the escalator, I checked my phone but the queue moved much faster than I thought.

I stopped at the top to put my phone back and the woman behind muttered for fuck sake and barged by me and went down the escalator.

I was wrong to hold her up but surely she didn't have to be that rude?

OP posts:

Cotto · 28/12/2015 20:45

"She would have had to shove myself"
I want to shove you for saying myself !
You are a tit OP.

emotionsecho · 28/12/2015 20:46

Well yes people are imagining lots of people waiting, your first post indicated that a number of people were queueing up, the queue being long enough for you to have time to check your phone but it moved quicker than expected.

If it was a small queue of people as you now say why the hell couldn't you have waited those few seconds until you had negotiated the escalator and then checked your phone?

WorraLiberty · 28/12/2015 20:46

OP can I suggest you take an Escalator Danger Awareness course?

It's free and should hopefully drive home to you, the danger of this situation as I don't think you really understand.

Mrsmorton · 28/12/2015 20:48

worra!

WorraLiberty · 28/12/2015 20:50

Never let it be said I'm not helpful...

user7755 · 28/12/2015 20:54

Sadly, it isn't just the OP who might have hurt herself. If it had been then perhaps Survival of the fittest might have been apt. Sad when one person's complete lack of awareness puts others at risk.

OP, do have have a basic grasp of rudimentary physics - momentum perhaps?

ghostspirit · 28/12/2015 20:55

i would have thought/said fuck sake to, people could have fell. because you were just standing there.

and the poster who said about door ways... i hate it so much my kids do it at home. ffs why do people stand in door ways. then look at you like your the mad one.

an eldly lady done this to me the other day she got to top of escalator just stepped of the moving bit and just stood there. like she did not know where to go. but as i said she was elderly. it was just me and baby in sling so i was able to nudge to the side kind of thing. but if my other kids has been with me. they probably would have fell.

HPsauciness · 28/12/2015 20:55

But why say 'for fuck's sake'?

Why not say something else?

I hate living in a country where everyone is barging around saying 'for fuck's sake'.

I hate going on public transport now with the children as it's full of teenagers who say 'fucking' all the time, literally in every sentence. It's just obnoxious.

It's ok on MN to say FFS, not ok in the real world. I thought that's the mumsnet line on 'when to swear in public' that teenagers are always taught.

knobblyknee · 28/12/2015 20:57

YABU. Dont stop at the top of the escalator, its dangerous for everyone else and they cant stop!

HPsauciness · 28/12/2015 20:58

And, for every time you are 'justified' in saying FFS to someone out loud, there will be a time you can't find your purse quick enough, or don't walk the right way, or take a chance and pull out a bit too fast on a roundabout, or your buggy impedes someone walking some time- and they will say FFS to you! It's not a phrase just used by the righteous for righteous occasions, it's just a horrid way to behave in public, a small sigh would have been fine (if indeed you have to make signs at every single person who irritates you when out in public which in general I don't).

user7755 · 28/12/2015 20:59

Because many people are adults and can say what they want?

Because when people do something which is really fucking annoying and dangerous, expletives pop out sometimes? For example in a car when someone slams the brakes on for no reason in front of you.

Because the word fuck never killed anyone

user7755 · 28/12/2015 21:01

If I behaved in a reckless way and endangered people and they said FFS to me, I'd say 'fair enough, sorry that was a stupid thing to do'. Then I'd let it go.

RufusTheReindeer · 28/12/2015 21:02

Agree user

ghostspirit · 28/12/2015 21:02

well i recon my true word not have been for fuck sake. had it been me that op done it to me and my kids fell/almost fell. i would have said oh my fucking god. because thats the words i seem to use when a situation shocks/scares me a bit.

RufusTheReindeer · 28/12/2015 21:03

Sorry, please assume that that comment was for your last 3 posts

limitedperiodonly · 28/12/2015 21:06

Sad when one person's complete lack of awareness puts others at risk.

True, but either by luck or design, people's lack of self awareness usually doesn't result in catastrophe.

Otherwise there would be carnage at Oxford Circus Station every weekday evening,and various other places people could name.

It doesn't happen.

It's annoying though, so OP stop being such a tit, or do I have to draw you a diagram?

ghostspirit · 28/12/2015 21:06

i think sometimes when people say fuck sake or simlar. its often at the situation rather than the person. but not in all cases of course. if its something dangerous that may well be at the person. if frustating probabky just sounding off a bit.

WhoTheFuckIsSimon · 28/12/2015 21:07

I can't stand people faffing about, stopping in doorways, blocking the way, etc. Think I generally keep my frustration bubbling under the surface though.

maybebabybee · 28/12/2015 21:08

Yabu. People like you do my head in. Awareness of your surroundings, perhaps?

Sparklingbrook · 28/12/2015 21:08

My pet hate is people that stop and gather in shop door ways as they exit because there's water falling from the sky.

Buttons23 · 28/12/2015 21:10

To be fair I would probably want to say ffs to you as well. Why on earth while waiting to get on the escalator would you choose that moment to check your phone and then take your time putting your phone away stopping people getting on the escalator. you could have at least carried your phone in your hand and got out of the way.

Orangesox · 28/12/2015 21:12

See I find this a difficult topic, I'm often the one being sworn at for things like this. I have really poor balance on occasion, so negotiating getting onto and off of escalators can be really stressful for me. Someone barging past me for a momentary pause would probably send me flying down the escalator to an untimely head injury.

Im worse on stairs so I wouldn't take those, but I'm not disabled enough to warrant using a lift when it's busy and I get evil, dirty looks from people because I don't "look like I need to use the lift".

There's absolutely no need to be so far up someone's arse that them pausing briefly means you're unable to stop and have to barge past them...

HPsauciness · 28/12/2015 21:13

If someone slammed on the brakes in front of your endangering your life, then you might well say 'for fuck's sake' very loudly in your own car. Once you get out of the car, especially if it's an aggressive or nasty looking person, you would be well advised not to say it to their face. Or would you only say it to a female, or younger or smaller person? Perhaps they actually had a good reason to stop, but you didn't see that. There was a thread the other day in which someone made an emergency stop as their partner yelled 'watch out' for no reason. Would the correct response of the car behind then to have got out and yelled 'for fuck's sake' then at the driver?

Nothing is served by making the world a more aggressive, less tolerant place. Saying things like 'for fuck's sake' is needlessly upping the aggression in the world for nothing.

Melfish · 28/12/2015 21:13

If you travel on public transport in London then you should be used to people swearing and barging past.
There seems to be a vast amount of people who are attempting to walk and gawp at their phones whilst on escalators, in narrow walkway tunnels between tube platforms and other confined places where others simply cannot get around. Just wait until you get to the platform, sit on a bench and then catch up with reading the Daily Mail or cats dancing on youtube.

ghostspirit · 28/12/2015 21:14

i dont understand the stopping in the first place. i thought all woman could multi task

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