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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think this woman was rude for swearing and barging by me?

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thelifeofamber · 28/12/2015 18:09

People queuing up to go down the escalator, I checked my phone but the queue moved much faster than I thought.

I stopped at the top to put my phone back and the woman behind muttered for fuck sake and barged by me and went down the escalator.

I was wrong to hold her up but surely she didn't have to be that rude?

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MrsBertMacklin · 28/12/2015 18:50

Be glad you weren't on London Underground in rush hour, you'd have got worse swearing than that thrown in your direction.

TenTinyTadpoles · 28/12/2015 18:51

Both of you were rude, you were also doing something dangerous.

Foodefafa · 28/12/2015 18:53

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Janeymoo50 · 28/12/2015 18:54

She was rude, you were inconsiderate so I think it's pretty much a draw.
Hate the swearing though, no need.

BatsUpMyNightie · 28/12/2015 18:58

She was a bit rude but I'd have said the same to you. There's few more dangerous places to stop and fluff about with your pointless stuff than at the top of the escalator - it takes mere seconds for a pile up and possible tumble down to build up and if you can't see that then you are simply not ready for moving stairs yet!

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thelifeofamber · 28/12/2015 19:00

How was she any ruder than you though? You stopped at the top/bottom of an escalator to put your phone in your bag, blocking the exit, which is potentially dangerous.

I guess I was not clear. I was waiting at the top of the escalator to step on it and go down.

There was no exit blocked.

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emotionsecho · 28/12/2015 19:02

Sparkling.

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thelifeofamber · 28/12/2015 19:02

Be glad you weren't on London Underground in rush hour, you'd have got worse swearing than that thrown in your direction.

I live and work in London so I know exactly what its like thanks.

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Sparklingbrook · 28/12/2015 19:04

I wouldn't give it any further thought. You will know not to do it again.

emotionsecho · 28/12/2015 19:05

Still dangerous to stop when there is a queue behind you, just step on and go, don't faff.

WhereYouLeftIt · 28/12/2015 19:08

"queuing up to go down the escalator, I checked my phone but the queue moved much faster than I thought. I stopped at the top to put my phone back"
Sorry, YABU. You should have been paying attention to your surroundings, the top of an escalator is not a good place to piss about with your phone like a feckin' teenager. I wouldn't have barged past you (for safety reasons) but you would have got an audible FFS out of me.

Gliblet · 28/12/2015 19:11

Whether you're at the top or the bottom it's a pain in the bum - not as bad at the top of a down escalator (not going to cause a pileup at least) but still bloody irritating. Don't hang around checkouts rearranging your handbag, don't stand in doorways chatting, don't stop for a dither just as you're about to get on an escalator

MaliaGrace · 28/12/2015 19:14

It's a bit of a non issue to be honest. I'd just forget about it.

People stopping stopping at the top of an escalator is annoying, maybe she shouldn't have sworn but I dont think I'd written a thread about it - if you live and work in a city then I'm sure you're used to the pace/rush/barging etc.

ghnocci · 28/12/2015 19:16

I think the fact that rather than feeling a bit sheepish you started an AIBU about it just goes to show how oblivious you must be to your surroundings.

I bet you also stop dead on the pavement for no reason to gawp up at the sky and like to have chats with people in shop doorways.

FlatOnTheHill · 28/12/2015 19:17

I think its a non issue too. Mind you some of the comments on here calling op selfish, moron etc are way over the top.

Powaqa · 28/12/2015 19:20

You would have got a FFS from me too and a request to move your arse. I wouldn't have barged past you though .

Brewdolph · 28/12/2015 19:20

Stopping at the top of an escalator or even a staircase is dangerous when it's busy. For that alone yabu.

Alicewasinwonderland · 28/12/2015 19:21

OP, you are one of these really annoying and rude people who have to check their phone without any regard or consideration for others.

The other woman was not rude, (she didn't exactly swear at you, did she? She could have called you quite a few names), you were.

At least you were not in public transport, where a couple of morons delaying me by just 30 seconds might mean missing a train, and arriving home 45mn later. Not amused (and no, I can't leave work any earlier)

HPsauciness · 28/12/2015 19:22

It's not a non-issue, it leaves a nasty taste in the mouth.

I was in a busy shopping centre three days before Christmas and needed to use the cash machine, so stopped outside the cash machine, there was nowhere else to stop, but the flow of people meant then someone had to swerve around me, to which he said 'fucking idiot' and started gesticulating at me, til his girlfriend told him to walk on. I had my 10 year old with me. We were gob-smacked. There was no other way to access the machine!

I looked around the city centre which looked pretty drab and depressing and quite dirty (perhaps the endless rain!) it just made me feel that this is not actually a very nice country to live in at all!

It passed, but whenever I read threads on here about how someone tore someone off a strip for cutting them up, taking their place in a queue etc I think we are just less polite and it's unpleasant to live around. I would never ever say 'fucking hell' or 'fuck off' in public to someone else unless they were literally threatening me or my child physically. Saying it because you are a bit annoyed someone stopped in front of you is just horrible. But some people are quite horrible and happy to be horrible (as feel entitled to walk very fast everywhere unimpeded by others). Perhaps when I was young I didn't notice it so much, or has it got worse?

Scarletforya · 28/12/2015 19:24

Yea, stopping at the top of an escalator is dumb, selfish behaviour.

Faff on your own time!

HPsauciness · 28/12/2015 19:24

By the way, YABU for stopping at the top of an escalator! That is for certain. But the public in public life are annoying, best not swear at all of them.

AlisonWunderland · 28/12/2015 19:30

I think mobile phones cause a short circuit in the brain that makes people oblivious.

Stopping suddenly, randomly walking to and fro across pavements, walking straight out into road in front of my car.
Thankfully I had clocked said teenager walking head down and had taken my foot off the accelerator so was able to stop, and lightly toot horn to wake her up

MinistryofRevenge · 28/12/2015 19:33

You were being a bit dozy in all fairness OP, but nobody's died and she's probably forgotten all about it. HP I think that people nowadays are under far more stress than was the case 10 or 15 years ago (and the halcyon days of my youth seem to have been completely carefree and filled with rainbows and unicorns, but that's probably because it was my youth, and youth's like that). I'm probably guilty of excessive "ffs"ing myself, and I'm going to try and put a stop to it, I'm not sure it makes the world a nicer place for me or for anyone else.

JeanneDeMontbaston · 28/12/2015 19:41

I have to admit, I've been the 'fuckssake' woman. Because for me it's not this one incident, it's the 99th time this shopping trip.

I know it's not polite but there's a point at which I start hating all of humanity, I'm afraid.

Youarentkiddingme · 28/12/2015 19:45

We seem to live in a world where people can't wait 1 minute go down an escalator, find a space and then check a phone. Or just wait until they can stand out of people's way.

Mind you having said that I was leaving M&S with DS earlier, a group of woman were in front of us chatting. They stopped right in the doorway to discuss where they wanted to go and get a coffee. I politely said excuse me and one lady looked down her nose at me and retorted "could you not go around us?"

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