AIBU to take my baby food shopping at 9pm?

[Sammy1888]

As above really. Couldn't do it earlier as had to wait till payday and DP won't be home from work till half 8ish. Can't drive so can't go alone and DP would have a meltdown within 5 minutes at all the pressure if I sent him.

DD is 8 months, been asleep since 6ish, imagine she'll be chirpy and content sitting in the trolley going round as usual. Never gets upset when she is woken up e.g for a nappy change, if anything she just wants to play. Never gets upset at all really, bless her. Alternatively her and DP could wait in the car but I think that will irk her more as she gets pretty bored in the car seat and refuses to sleep anywhere at home so she won't just doze.

If the main consensus is that I am BU, I will brave it tomorrow evening when DP should finish a bit earlier. To be honest, I know she'll be excited at the chance to have a little late night people watching and won't mind a bit, but am more concerned at what other people will think to see a baby in the supermarket at 9pm especially as we're going to M&S --

Thoughts?

Take her, she'll be fine!

YANBU

She'll be fine, take her.

Of course you should

We used to put DS to bed at 10pm
Or 11pm all the time and he would sleep late in the morning and have naps in the day if he was tired

It'll be fine. I used to take DD everywhere with me when she was at that age, even late at night if she was awake.

Take her. I think it's easier doing this kind of thing when they're little and have already had a nap.

Take her.

But seriously dp should be able to do it alone, unless he has some kind of disability? man child

She'll be fine, happy shopping 😊

Does your DH have mental health issues?

Seems like a huge amount of effort for you all to go. Unless your partner has a disability/ mental health problem I would make him grow up and go himself. If he seriously can't do it without direction then write him a list.

Depends on the baby.
If I took out my babies this late it would throw the whole of the next 24 hours into chaos, The shopping trip would be fraught, baby would be out of kilter, a difficult night,and christmas eve would be messy.

Given that you don't drive then OH going shopping tonight would be the next best option.

I wouldn't but I'm clearly the minority. Especially as she is asleep already.

She'll be fine. Take her if you need to.

But a grown man should be able to push a trolley round the supermarket without having a meltdown. Does he have anxiety issues?

We took our 12week old Ds in his papoose yesterday evening and no one batted an eyelid! Shop was lovely and quiet, baby was content. Easy peasy

This is the joy of portable littlr people who are as adaptable as play doh to surprise trips.

It might even be a really treasured memory - time with your DC before the while Christmas shebang starts.

In the blink of an eye you'll have a school she child who would do a passable impression of a Gruffalo with a hangover the following day if you woke them got a similar excursion.

I've just been to M&S food hall and it was very calm, sedate almost. Busy but not manic and shelves pretty well stocked and being refreshed.
Go, take baby and then put feet up after. Just beware of extra goodies going in your trolley, I ahem seem to have purchased rather a lot of food!

Not sure if that was sarcasm, but yes he does actually crumbs. Though I'm not sure that's where his anxiety over doing the big shop comes from. He pulls his weight in lots of other areas and usually I do an online shop so I'm willing to let it slide. Also not sure I would want him doing the Christmas shop alone as I'm looking forward to choosing all the yummy party food!

Glad to hear I'm not being U. Thanks for the reassurance MN!

How will stock levels be at that time? I assume there won't be a big restock until after they close tonight?

God, I used to take my nocturnal newborn to the 24 hour Sainsbury's when we lived in London. We were awake, he was full of beans in the sling, we needed milk/nappies/hummus - it was practically an outing!

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Supermarkets being restocked constantly round here. I would totally take the baby

I mean, at 3am. My post doesn't make sense without that detail.

Go for it. You know your baby and unless she's really howling she's not affecting any one else.

Fwiw I hate seeing small children out late because they must get so tired (in term time). But a baby is different, they are very portable so can sleep whenever they need to, and have nothing they need to be awake for if they're tired afterwards

I've done it before when DD was little. It's quieter at that time so much more easy and she might sleep longer.

I think I would more worried that the shelves will be empty seen that a lot of them already were at 2.00pm this afternoon.