Not seeing the man I'm seeing over Xmas

[PJsAndWine]

So I've been seeing this guy for about 6 weeks now (so all still pretty new), so far have been seeing each other about twice a week due to my work commitments but it's worked & we are both happy with that.

Tonight we were chatting about Xmas etc so I asked him when I was likely to see him over Xmas/before new year ... His reply oh you probably won't as ill be with family & seeing all my cousins
I feel a bit odd and upset about it as thought it would of been nice to spend a bit of time together whilst we are both off work.

AIBU to feel a bit odd & upset about this? & to have expected to see him?

Needs I get most of my friends Christmas cards. I would certainly give someone I am shagging seeing a Christmas card. It may not be of the "Love of my Life" variety though.

That would be such a wonderful opportunity for me to say that I'm shagging far to many people to remember a card for every single one, but it would be a huge lie

Needs I meant it as in "like", which was your word.

Deep connection? Good friend? Really know them? Someone I really trusted? That would mean more than "like" to me.

It's quite normal, though, for people to live long distances from their families these days- so factor in three or four days at the family home, then on to see friends elsewhere for NY, perhaps? It's not unreasonable that you're not in the town where you live and work for a week and a half at this time of year - and most people make their plans for this time of the year more than six weeks in advance too. So if this is the case - it's normal behaviour.

If, however, his parents etc live in your town and he's going there- you're right, it is weird he can't spare an hour for a coffee.

red I must be a tad odd then. I was shagging a bloke once for over a year solely because he was incredibly handsome and did not annoy me

I'm not sure what you're getting at. Did you not like him?

I never really thought about if I did or didn't. He was alright. We are good friends now but that's because I got to know him and decided I liked him enough to consider him a good friend

Op isn't saying she must see him Xmas day but sometime in the week they are both off

Unless he is travelling miles away I would want /expect to see a man I was seeing - even if one day 28/29

Or even spend nye together

Not saying he is married - but if doesn't want to see you nye either then warning bells would sound

Just read the majority of replies

All his family are local & he sees them quite frequently any way & as far as I'm aware he hasn't made any concrete plans just that he will see them at some point