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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think the parent who let her ds (6) talk through Star Wars

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Higge · 22/12/2015 21:29

needs to teach her child some manners or remove him from the cinema till he can shut up for longer that 2 secs!

And not only did her ds rabbit on constantly, she was accompanied with a friend who's dcs took glow lights with them! And they chucked the glow lights into our seats. Who the hell takes glow lights to the cinema. Why don't we have an employee in each screening monitoring behaviour!

I complained and got a refund - but I'd have preferred to watch the film in peace!

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BoneyBackJefferson · 22/12/2015 21:46

This sort of behaviour is the reason that I no longer go to the cinema.

QueenLaBeefah · 22/12/2015 21:49

We had some absolutely charming 4yr olds running around with light sabres.

If they got rid of the 12a ratings a lot of this nonsense would stop.

WhereYouLeftIt · 22/12/2015 21:52

They'd have been lynched at the screening I attended! Even the rustling stopped 30 seconds in.

alltheworld · 22/12/2015 21:52

What does 12a mean? Leave it up to parents? I have ds 4 . He might like it but I am not going to risk him disturbing others so we are not going.

YouTheCat · 22/12/2015 21:54

We're going on Boxing Day morning.

I really hate this kind of thing. There was a 3/4 year old at Age of Ultron who shouted 'it's the Hulk' at regular intervals.

catfordbetty · 22/12/2015 21:55

You are not at all unreasonable, OP but, in terms of cinema etiquette I fear the horse is well and truly bolted. All I can suggest is the Curzon Mayfair where behaviour is invariably good. (Well done for getting a refund, btw.)

TrionicLettuce · 22/12/2015 21:58

alltheworld 12A means anyone under 12 needs to be accompanied by an adult.

We went to see Star Wars the other night and a family had smuggled in their own packets of crisps Even worse they were something like Nik Naks in those horrible super-rustly bags. Seriously, who does that?!

RebootYourEngine · 22/12/2015 21:58

12a just seems to be a way for films to make more money.

ChinaSorrows · 22/12/2015 22:05

I went to a 21:15 screening.
I was hyper excited

Cinema packed full of adults. No fucking about.
Bliss

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Higge · 22/12/2015 22:08

Dh wanted to tackle her on the way out - he wasn't so aware of the noise and I suppose was more able to tune out. It cost £40 - no small sum, I did consider getting up to complain but I cringed at the outcome/confrontation, so chickened out.

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Fuckitfay · 22/12/2015 22:31

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TheSecondViola · 22/12/2015 22:35

People are dicks. People in cinemas seem to be massive dicks. I can't remember the last time I saw a film without someone's little precious talking or shouting all the way through it.

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Higge · 22/12/2015 22:45

Fuckitfay cinemas use to police this kind of behaviour - it's their business - if people encountered the family we unfortunately did tonight on a regular basis, they'd lose business - it's put me off, even with the free tickets I can think of better ways to spend an evening!

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MistressoftheYoniverse · 22/12/2015 22:50

Well done for getting a refund Higge..there should be staff to monitor bad behavior they knew this hence the refund...My showing was all adults after 9pm

elephantpig · 22/12/2015 22:52

The exact thing same thing happened to me today! I'm not into star wars, I was just accompanying DP who wanted to see it and I spent the entire time concocting increasingly aggressive 'AIBU' in my head.
The little boy was flanked either side by a parent, but he kept getting up and facing them, so not in the seat, then asking for his parents to share a seat, asking what was happening etc, etc. It wasn't too awful because each row in this cinema was higher than the last iyswim but there was just constant movement in my peripheral vision and muttering.
The thing that really annoyed me (not that the parents were to know) is that I am childless and in my twenties yet try to be really understanding of 'rowdy' children. For example, if you want to go on holiday there isn't much choice but to take your baby who may cry on a plane, if you go out for a meal then it is normal to talk and they are busy environments. But the WHOLE POINT of a cinema is to sit still and be quiet, I even would have been understanding if it was a kids movie. Either go to a kids viewing or wait for the DVD. Also, also, also, it turned out my DP was being kicked in the back of his seat by another kid the entire movie! Sorry, bit of a rant, the entire day was a bit of a shitfest!

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 22/12/2015 22:52

She sounds like one of those, you know allergic to disceplining her precious little poppet. Fuck the fact that other people who have paid a lot of money to see the film, will not be abke to hear a word of it. over some parents dead bodies will their child be reprimanded

elephantpig · 22/12/2015 22:53

(yanbu)

Blu · 22/12/2015 22:54

You won't have been the only person seething. Just say 'excuse me, could you stop talking during the film, please'.

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Higge · 22/12/2015 22:58

neither spoke to the parent now I'm wondering what kind of parent needs me to tell them that their 6 year old talking the whole way through a film - I am not exxagerating, is annoying to other people and given this parent had no sensitivity towards other paying customers, do you really think confronting someone like that in a cinema is the way to go?

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KERALA1 · 22/12/2015 22:59

Recent cinema experience ruined by weirdo adults all 35 plus talking loudly throughout film, despite dh asking politely, then less politely for them to stfu. And it was an arts cinema!

IGotAPea · 22/12/2015 22:59

I remember a similar thread a few years ago, and it seemed to go the way that if you go to see anything that allowed children, then you should expect noise, kicked seats etc as they will be excited and it's a long time for little ones to be quiet and sit still, otherwise you should wait for the DVD.

Fwiw, I don't agree with the above. It's perfectly reasonable to expect children to nit be disruptive sometimes, I wouldn't have approached the parent in case it caused a scene (I'm a wimp) but I would have gone and looked for a member of staff to have a word.

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Higge · 22/12/2015 23:02

The child was shooshed quite a lot to begin with, by a few people - it made no difference....I tried to force myself to ignore it but I failed.

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originalmavis · 22/12/2015 23:02

That's what drives me nuts about the cinema. Bloody people! And it's so expensive too.

Where's the joy suck club tonight? No one has come in yet to take the side of noisy kids and annoying adults.

StepAwayFromTheThesaurus · 22/12/2015 23:06

It's ridiculous to make out that only children are a problem in the cinema. There are plenty of adults with no sense of the social etiquette required too.

DS1 and I went to see Mockingjay part 2 recently and he was pretty much the youngest person in there. There were a lot of incredibly irritating 20-somethings though. One group in particular were absolutely awful. They talked and giggled through the film, very loudly and at completely inappropriate bits which really ruined all the atmosphere. When the lights came up the people sitting around them all stared at them because they'd been so badly behaved. They were also noticeably (and loudly) put out when the cinema played the turn off your mobile phone because the light is as annoying as the sound bit at the start, so presumably they were planning to piss about on their phones throughout too.

They may well have started out as children whose parents didn't teach them how to behave appropriately in a cinema, but they should have learned for themselves by now. Or their parents might have taught them but they've decided that the world revolves around them since.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 22/12/2015 23:11

This is why I booked a later showing for DH & DS2 (14). I'm quite good at zoning out & ignoring things like this, but it would have ruined the film for DH.

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