To think she stole more than i realised

[Teenagecrisisagain]

A few months ago we had a cleaner. A really good very thorough cleaner who started to organise EVERYTHING for us and often sent texts like
"If you can't find something keep looking! I may have put it in wrong place!"

She was totally and utterly believable. Seemed nice and made our life a lot easier

I did start to notice I couldn't find things and put it down to me being disorganised or like she had said she may have put it in wrong place....
Couple of cardigans
Hair oil
Make up
Frozen dress
Etc etc

I went out one day and saw her. Wearing MY clothes. The ones I had 'lost'
Sacked her and as she refused to return key we changed locks.

This was months ago and over the last two weeks it has come to light that a couple of other items are also missing. A dress and another cardigan. I'm so upset and wondering....how much did she actually take from us and how could I have been so stupid ?

It was dh work party last night and it was my go to dress for occasions. I don't go out much so hadn't looked in the wardrobe it's in for a while and not for that dress anyway but I went to the side it's always in and it's gone :(

AIBU to still feel upset about this and to think she must have been taking stuff and quite a lot for a while

[KERALA1]

It's horrible op. I have been burgled at home 3 times and every car I have ever owned bar one has been stolen. But think what happened to you is way worse because of the personal interaction.

[redexpat]

Oh that is gutting. Im sorry she stole more stuff. To the pp who asked why she didnt google or use an agency 1. hindsight is a wonderful thing and 2. its not the OPs fault that the other woman stole from her. It is the fault of the other woman for stealing.

[GwynethPaltrowIamNot]

Bloody hell , I remember your post
I'd go round and tell her that unless she returned everything by a certain time you were going to the police , her choice

[Teenagecrisisagain]

I should have gone to an agency but at the time I had called a couple and they were all busy and took a while to get back to me so it was quicker after having a recommendation for someone. Obviously that was a big mistake and our cleaner is now from an agency

As for googling I'd never in a million years have thought to google someone initially but afterwards I did. Wish I had done it before though

[Arsenicinthesugarbowl]

To be fair to you OP she was recommended so you had no reason to do all those google searches etc. Hindsight is a wonderful thing. She sounds particularly horrible though as she was so plausible and appeared nice when in fact she was anything but.
If report the other missing items and advise the police she cleans for other people. It sounds like she is unlikely to change her ways giving that convictions and jail haven't been much of a deterrent

[Arsenicinthesugarbowl]

I'd*report and given not giving!

[Aeroflotgirl]

How awful op, what a horrid person .

[Goingtobeawesome]

I would be visiting the police on adaily basis until they fucking well did do something. You poor thing. I'm so sorry you have had this betrayal.

[Ista]

But of course you should do all those searches before you employ someone to come into your home. It's your responsibility to ensure the safety of your home and family.

[Ista]

Going what would you actually expect the police to do though.

[Teenagecrisisagain]

I know that now ista and I do feel that the whole experience has made me a lot more suspicious of people which is a shame

I was just so tired at the time and the glowing reference coupled with the fact this woman was utterly charming and believable was enough to to gain my trust stupidly :(