To be upset that people think I'm boring just because I'm not loud?

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A colleague at work yesterday said that he thinks I'm boring because I'm quiet.

I don't think I'm boring at all. I'm not loud, and I am fairly quiet until I've got to know someone a bit, but I chat, have opinions etc. I guess I'm just a bit reserved at first.

This isn't the first time that someone has described me as boring; a mum friend did a couple of years ago when a group of us went for a meal. She was going round the table saying what her first impressions were of everyone and she told me that her thoughts of me were that I'm boring, then she quipped "Nothing's changed then", and of course all of the others roared with laughter.

Why do people seem to rate super loud people so highly? AIBU to feel upset that people think I'm boring?

AnnaMarlowe has it: well said.

Actually as I get older I find more and more that people like the quiet "boring" ones much more than the gobby loud ones who always have a crowd of people nearby.

It doesn't usually seem like that as the loud ones always seem to have more people round them, but sometimes that's just the noise. But the person I know who spends most of their time telling you how everyone thinks they're wonderful, I've come across a few people who have worked/met socially, and they've found them every bit as irritating and annoying as I do.
In fact they were part way through a rant when I realised who they were talking about.
It does mean when we are being treated to a rendition on how the entire company was in tears because they couldn't make the Christmas party, I can smile quietly to myself and feel fairly certain what they meant was a few people (probably insincerely) said "oh sorry you won't be there." Makes them less irritating.

Quite sad really.

How rude I would have lost it. They know they can get away with it because you won't say anything. People confuse being quiet with being boring, I know a fair few people who talk and talk and bore me to tears.

Yanbu at all.

The people who called you boring are weirdos. That's insanely rude. I don't think most people think loudness, as in shrieking and being gobby, makes you interesting though. Honestly, I really don't think that is anyone's expectation. Also as a person who is quite quiet and shy at first myself, I think there is some truth in the fact that if you don't say much, people aren't necessarily going to assume that you have something fascinating to say that you are holding back.

I'm quiet when I meet someone new. Don't get me wrong, I don't curl up in a ball and hide in the corner, I will chat but I listen more than I speak. However, once I've observed and got to know the person/people and feel comfortable with them, then I'll chat away like a good 'un.

My sister in law told my husband that I'm aloof. It made him laugh because he knows the real me and knows that I'm not, and I think it actually shows how uncomfortable I still feel around her (she's loud and has to be the centre of attention) and after knowing her for over 30 years I still can't be myself when in her company.

We were at his office night out at the weekend and I happened to be sitting next to someone new to the company who I'd never met before (he's worked there for years so I know most people and their wives/husbands) and we chatted through the meal, but she said on Monday to my husband that she was surprised at how quiet I was.

I am quite chatty but not a loud person. Some of the mums at school are so loud that I just can't get a word in edgeways and they make me feel boring. Luckily, a lot of us feel the same and hang out together away from them!!! I can see their minds whirring trying to decide who is important enough for them to speak to next (it is never me)!

Wow, what fetid cesspit of vipers.

Oi. Don't insult vipers.

"No, I'm not boring. I just didn't think you were worth being interesting for."

Some loud people can be shrieky that's for sure, others are just talkative and thank Christ tbh. I understand that people can be shy but it can get really tedious and hard work at a social gathering. You especially notice it when you've got a group of 3 or 4 introverts to talk to.