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AIBU?

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Original poster

To think if you block someone they shouldn't contact you

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PawsnPurrs · 13/12/2015 16:35

I cannot get rid of two people.
One who is a male was my friend for 10 years, I know he wanted more than a friendship with me but I did inform him this would never happen. He started to insult anyone i got with, making snide comments and when it all came to blows, I was on benefits i lent £300 from him. He said i can pay this back in £50 a month. Which was great, we ended up having an argument and he said i was starting arguments to not pay him back.
It was around 10 pm at night, I told him i will give him the money tomorrow to which he said no he wants it now and he kept texting me abuse like "you better give me back my money" "you're are loser bum" ect
I didnt have internet or phone banking.
The next day i took out a loan of £150 and i had £150 in my account, this is all the money i had and i paid him everything back.
Even though he agreed to the £50 installments.

Anyway because of this i cut him off, year later he text me like nothing happened saying "why are we still not talking"
i just blocked him and he phoned me on private number to which i just hung up the phone.
Why is he not getting the message?

other person was a female who i only knew a year. I actually posted a thread on here how creepy she is when i didnt reply to her saying things like "you are lucky i dont know where you live"
I cut her off as she isnt a nice person and a user.
shes another one who doesnt get the hint, ive blocked her number so the other day i get a message via her email to my ichat saying "hi i hope you are happy"

If someone blocks you why not just leave them alone? There is obviously a reason.

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Enjolrass · 13/12/2015 16:40

Do people know if they haven't been blocked.

Tbh if I rang someone and it didn't go through I would assume they had got a new phone or something and try emailing.

Ringing off another phone is a bit weird. He obviously knew he was blacked. May be he was regretting what happened?

MsJamieFraser · 13/12/2015 16:41

Have you told them you do not want to speak to them, and have blocked their contacts? rather than just block them, because they wont know you have blocked them.

Enjolrass · 13/12/2015 16:42

have been blocked

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PawsnPurrs · 13/12/2015 17:00

yes i told both not to contact me, its like they do something then hope i will get over it in a few months.
I think people do know that they have been blocked, im sure it just cuts off everytime they ring and i have had a couple calls from private number which i dont answer. I assume its one of them.

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CarbonEmittingPenguin · 13/12/2015 17:17

Telling someone you've blocked them or mentally blocking them doesn't actually technically block them. You'd need to block their contacts, fb profiles, e-mails etc.

ImperialBlether · 13/12/2015 17:20

She sounds really creepy, tbh.

abbsismyhero · 13/12/2015 17:39

i agree my dds bio fathers wife was abusive to dd over facebook so she was warned not to she persisted and was blocked so she came after me on facebook more abuse pile it on so i told her keep it up and im calling the police and blocked her so she went to a mutual friend and sent her a message to pass on to me it was a sort of apology when i didn't respond she rang the mutual friend repeatedly slagging me off to the degree that mutual friend has now blocked her she is batshit crazy! her husband wants nothing to do with dd no child support nothing no contact why she is persisting believing we owe it to her to listen to her abuse i don't know!

Birdsgottafly · 13/12/2015 17:56

Some people don't respect, or rather ignore, boundaries.

Lending money from someone who fancies you, isn't fair and wasn't going to end well.

He lent it hoping then you would be obligated and thought it would lead to more.

LynetteScavo · 13/12/2015 18:03

You don't lend money from someone, you borrow it.
Just saying.

Imustgodowntotheseaagain · 13/12/2015 18:41

for Lynette

Reversing lend and borrow is quite usual where I live. 'I borrowed him the money'

ScrambledEggAndToast · 13/12/2015 18:44

I had to stop reading this thread when you confused lend and borrow.

LynetteScavo · 13/12/2015 18:53

for where you live, I must.

I misread and was for most of the OP.

I think if you just block someone without stating you'd rather not continue contact with them first, there is room for misunderstanding, and they may try to make contact by other means.

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PawsnPurrs · 13/12/2015 20:23

"Googles lend"

grant to (someone) the use of (something) on the understanding that it will be returned.

whats the problem?

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CarbonEmittingPenguin · 13/12/2015 20:27

You've answered your own question: grant "to" i.e. lend "to" not from.

CarbonEmittingPenguin · 13/12/2015 20:28

But that's really a red herring. Just change your numbers and get on with your life. It sounds unnecessarily dramatic. Unless of course they are persistent then you might have a case for harassment.

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PawsnPurrs · 13/12/2015 20:31

i actually said lent re read
anyway carbon i am going to do that, just best to start fresh.

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Waltermittythesequel · 13/12/2015 20:37

You have to block everything, including emails and social media.

99% of the time doing this and totally ignoring all attempts at contact should do the trick.

I have to agree though; you borrow money, you don't lend from someone.

wannabestressfree · 13/12/2015 20:42

Am with Lynette

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PawsnPurrs · 13/12/2015 20:46

i did a good google and it is borrow, didnt even know that but it is often confused so im not all that wrong-ish.
Learn something new everyday hey...

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LynetteScavo · 13/12/2015 20:47

I was on benefits i lent £300 from him.

You lend something to someone else.

You borrow something from them. The sentence should have read;

"I was on benefits, so I borrowed £330 from him."

HTH

2rebecca · 13/12/2015 20:49

Just ignore them and/ or tell them you no longer wish to communicate with them. You do seem to fall out with a lot of people though. I've never blocked anyone. Maybe you're not discerning enough initially and hand out your contact details too easily, although i suspect more people are like you than me with my 30 facebook friends.

lougle · 13/12/2015 20:56

Borrow from, lend to. Anyway, that aside, yanbu but you can't stop them from contacting you if they know how.

Theydontknowweknowtheyknow · 13/12/2015 21:27

Where are you from OP? Because my Welsh friend also mixes the two so I don't think you're necessarily wrong, just being regional.

Potatoface2 · 13/12/2015 21:33

i wish my life was as interesting as this

DancingDinosaur · 13/12/2015 21:37

Think its a regional thing. My in laws all say that as well. North west.
Tell the two to stop contacting you op.

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