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Original poster

AIBU or just petty

71 replies

elf0508 · 10/12/2015 14:38

My mum has asked me to give her my tv for my brother coming up for the holidays, as he wants to bring his PS4 I said she should just tell him not to bring it and spend time with family and she accused me of being selfish. I don't see why the golden child should get everything handed to him while I'm just there to sort out whatever might get in the way of said golden child geting what he wants..

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Nabootique · 10/12/2015 14:39

Is it a spare TV?

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 10/12/2015 14:39

Do you live at home? is the tv in your bedroom? Although, tbh, it makes no odds.
If he wants to play ps4, then he can get his own tv.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 10/12/2015 14:40

Who paid for the TV?

SavoyCabbage · 10/12/2015 14:42

Why doesn't she give him her own tv if she thinks he needs one.

Jackie0 · 10/12/2015 14:49

I might lend him the Tv if he was a child but if he's visiting his mum he is likely to be an adult , so no I wouldn't be pandering to a grown man.
The only exception is if he intends the family to play together over Christmas , I'm thinking singstar or similar .

Original poster
elf0508 · 10/12/2015 14:51

I don't even live with my mum anymore! She just knows I have a tv in my room at my house. My brother will play his own games like mortal kombat etc for 10 hours at a time

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SpangleDragon · 10/12/2015 14:55

so have you said 'no' yet?

is this a tv you use? (even if i had a tv in a box in the loft, i wouldnt loan to my DM so my DB could visit and play games on it!!)

how long is he visiting for? is he bringing family? how old is he?

Fluffyears · 10/12/2015 14:56

Tell them to sod off. It's your telly and is staying put.

steppemum · 10/12/2015 14:57

if he wants to bring his ps4, he brings his own tv.

How strange to take your tv from your house to hers for him to use.

UNLESS the tv is sitting unused for 99% of the time.

hellsbellsmelons · 10/12/2015 14:58

Wow - I was expecting you to say you live at home and your mum bought you the TV. But this...??? Just NO. How odd.
Who cares if you are being selfish. She can lend him her own TV.
Or is that NOT OK with her?

Original poster
elf0508 · 10/12/2015 14:58

Yeah it's in my bedroom with sky connected, my brother will be staying for five days and is 28, he doesn't have any kids
I don't have a great relationship with my mum as it is, just feel she's taking the mick by asking me

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pinkyredrose · 10/12/2015 14:59

Just say no! If he just wants to.play games for hours on end what's the point of him even being there?

Original poster
elf0508 · 10/12/2015 15:00

Not that she really asked me, more like told me. All she Said was "I need your tv because your brother is bringing his ps4"

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ThumbWitchesAbroad · 10/12/2015 15:01

Oh given all that info, then HELL no!
Seriously.
What is your mother on? Glue?
No. Tell her he either brings one with him, or learns to do without his precious games, or she can go and buy him one herself.

Can't believe she thinks you're the selfish one. Shock

Strangertides1 · 10/12/2015 15:01

I get it. My youngest brother is 43, lives at home with my mum and gets away with doing bugger all, even through she's terminal ill! So much so I've had to hired a cleaner for her. Just say No, don't encourage the spoilt behaviour

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 10/12/2015 15:02
Shock

You don't even live with her????

Shock

I think the best response is
"Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha... No."

Hygge · 10/12/2015 15:06

YANBU or petty.

If a 28 year old man can't survive without his PS4 for a few days there's something wrong.

Tell her no, don't justify why.

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elf0508 · 10/12/2015 15:07

This is what my mother does, don't mean to drip feed but she asked or again told me to go and buy a certain cereal for my brother because she doesn't want to pay £2.79 for it
I did say no I'm sorry but we do use the tv, she said oh c'mon stop being so selfish and think of your brother. Then I said well he could have it during the day but I would like it back at night (love watching tv in bed) her reply was "goodness sake you're being rediculous you know he doesn't wake up until 3 (because he's up late playing games) so what's the point in that, don't upset your brother"

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BathtimeFunkster · 10/12/2015 15:09

Don't give her the TV.

Don't buy the cereal.

JumpingJack56 · 10/12/2015 15:13

My reply 'but your happy to upset me. It's my tv and we use it so unfortunately no we can't lend it to db despite your asking. Also it's not a case of me being selfish for wanting to use my own belongings, as much as its nice to think of my db at some point i should also be considered so please don't ask again as my answer won't change'.

hellsbellsmelons · 10/12/2015 15:14

I think you need to start standing up to your mother.
'No way mum. I use the TV and it's MINE. Give him yours for 5 days if it's that important'
'So you don't want to spend £2.79 on your OWN CHILD but you expect me to do it? No way mum, not gonna happen'
Tick done!!!!

StrawberryTeaLeaf · 10/12/2015 15:15

Just say no. She's the one being ridiculous.

I'm guessing he's always spoilt (?)

fuzzpig · 10/12/2015 15:18

Blimey

I was thinking, that parenting is setting up your brother for serious issues when he grows up...

...and then saw he is 28 Shock

hellsbellsmelons · 10/12/2015 15:18

Don't try to justify your NO.
Don't back down on this one.
This could be the start of you being more assertive with your DM.

middlethird · 10/12/2015 15:20

Stand your ground.

I am fuming on your behalf!!

Do not give her the TV. Tell her to buy one or he can bring his own!