AIBU or just petty

[elf0508]

My mum has asked me to give her my tv for my brother coming up for the holidays, as he wants to bring his PS4 I said she should just tell him not to bring it and spend time with family and she accused me of being selfish. I don't see why the golden child should get everything handed to him while I'm just there to sort out whatever might get in the way of said golden child geting what he wants..

Nope to t.v and nope to cereal. Both perfectly reasonable answers to a request (not COMMAND) no rurther explanation needed really. I find the more you try and justify 'why' with people like this the more you dig yourself a hole and get stressed.

Tell her you are trying to save on heating and so will all be tucked up in bed, with the heating off, watching said telly. When she asks about the cereal tell her you can't afford it hence the heating At 28 can't he pick his own cereal up? Or better yet just be grateful for whatever there is in the house?

I was on your side even before you told us you didn't live at home!

This is the type of stunt my MIL would pull on DH with regards his Sister.

Thankfully his Sister is the eldest and very much sees my DH has her baby brother and won't let anyone, including MIL take the piss out of him! Plus MIL doesn't do it with any malice she's just bloody clueless!

Just laugh and say no!

Or tell her that you can't give up your bedroom TV because you and DP have a Christmas eve tradition of watching p0rn in bed after you've set out all the stockings

Christmas Eve porn? "Santa Claus is coming......."

Tell her he can plug the fucking thing in to her tv

Makes me feel so much better reading your replies, brother doesn't have any disabilities, he is just a perfect child with perfect grades and a perfect house while I am the screw up with no grades and a child.
My mum picks my brother up as soon as he gets off the bus. She will wait for an hour just to pick him up, if by any chance she is late he phones and texts her like mad and heaven forbid she can't park at the bus station, he MAKES her get a space no matter what disruption it might cause.
I will be seeing her on Christmas day for a few hours but having dinner with FIL. Can't be bothered seeing her at all, she makes me feel so small :(

Just say "no sorry, it's plugged into my sky box. Can't he use yours?" And he can definitely buy his own cereal. Or just "no"

Good grief, tell her to sod off. Your brother is a grown man and needs to behave like one.

I'm sorry this must be really hurtful.

Remember that it's your mum and brother that are the arseholes, not you. I'm sure you've had years of this crap so its harder to realise how awful it is, but stand your ground.

I hope your PILs are lovely and you have a good Xmas with them.

he is just a perfect child with perfect grades and a perfect house

Well he can bring his own perfect TV with him in the back of his perfect car then, can't he?

You made a human being. He plays console games all night and sleeps until 3pm. You sound like a much more successful human being to me

I will be seeing her on Christmas day for a few hours but having dinner with FIL. Can't be bothered seeing her at all, she makes me feel so small

Then don't see her. You don't deserve to be made to feel small. You can decide that Christmas day is a day for you and your child to be cosily at home together from now on, you know. Bounce everyone else to Boxing Day and beyond.

Surely he can afford to buy a second tv for his mum's house then...

Well, your mother sounds like a charmer, as does your brother.

Not sure I'd bother with either of them! I can't quite get over the idea of my mother telling me I should spend £2.79 on cereal for someone who wasn't staying in my house, because she considers it too expensive. WTAF is that all about?

Mind you, makes his Christmas present easy, I guess.

He's 28?! Why is he bringing his ps4? If he's that bothered he can bring his own tv or get out of his bedroom like a normal adult and of course don't buy the cereal

YANBU

Surely if you're selfish for not lending your bedroom TV for the golden man child, isn't she just as selfish for not buying him one specifically for when he graces her with his presence?

And ^^ to those who suggest buying him the cereal, wrapping it and putting it under the tree.

I don't understand why he can't buy his own cereal?!

And ^^ to those who suggest buying him the cereal, wrapping it and putting it under the tree.

Maybe one of those wind-up toy tellies from the 80s too, the kind that play nursery rhymes

Zoooooooooombie. Mate this is from 2015

This thread is from 2015!