Would I be unreasonable to not go to childs nativity?

[Loftsequin]

I feel unwell and it's a trek taking younger children. They say they aren't bothered if I go or not ...?

Poor ds didn't see us in the audience of Tuesday (we weren't there) and decided not to sing. We had neglected to explain that we would be there on Weds but not Tues or Thurs. It's about managing their expectations. Could another close relative be there op? I think it just matters to them that someone is there. Dh probably won't go next year but I'll take my mum. It mattered more this year because it was his first.

I honestly don't think he cared either way. He would have been upset if I'd missed his performance on Tuesday, because that's important (and I wouldn't have missed it for the world ) but I don't think he cared either way about the nativity.

Plus I would have missed most of it anyway as I'd probably have had to step out with the baby.

I know this isn't very helpful, but as a kid I used to hate taking part in school plays/shows etc. I could never understand why any of the parents wanted to actually come and watch us, either. Even at the age of 7, I was wise to the fact that I definitely was NOT starring in some edgy, Arthouse drama, or that Barry Norman would come a-knocking for an interview at my Gran's house after school. I was dressed up as a sheep, and stood on a makeshift stage in the lunch hall, which still smelt of that day's congealed chicken fricasee and rehydrated mash potato, FFS.

I was a very cynical child

The last one I will go to is this afternoon when 6 year old dgs is one of the narrators in his school Nativity play. KS2 have a concert instead. This will be the end of an era as he is my youngest grandchild. I love them, mistakes and all.

I am going to one next week because the child only has her mother to watch, grandparents live too far away - looking forward to it.

I have just been the last one any of my dcs will ever be in. I thought I'd be relieved, but actually found myself a bit tearful at the end.

My DD was in her first one at 3 and is 20 now and in her second year at Uni. Her secondary school always did a "Christmas Celebration". Not an actual nativity but a series of relevant performances from all the different subject areas plus music and carols. As DD was in the Orchestra she was always involved in some way. After her Y13 one it suddenly struck me that this was the last time I would go and see her in a school Christmas thing and I felt quite tearful!

(Soppy aren't I?)

Should I be shocked that her faculty at Uni are not putting on a Nativity this year!!