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Original poster

To think you can't get your ass on your shoulders if people don't prioritize your last minute holiday wedding?

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CheerfulYank · 07/12/2015 19:41

I have a good friend who got engaged end of November and has decided to get married on New Years Day.

I tried to warn her that it would be tough for people to help her plan things, have a bachelorette party etc because a lot of people have holiday obligations. She said "if it's important to them, they'll make it."

I have Christmas at my in laws this weekend and Christmas at my parents next weekend as well as all the stuff we do every year with the DC....cutting the tree down, visiting Santa, etc. Her other friends have similar obligations and so I've said that maybe we can get together got her bachelorette stuff after the wedding instead. She said she doesn't want to do it if it can't be before. And today she said that no one seems to care about the wedding.

I think people do care but it's just a hard time of year. She seems really put out. Who is BU?

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CheerfulYank · 07/12/2015 19:42

*for, not got :)

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StealingSleep · 07/12/2015 19:43

She IBU. And is going to get a painful lesson in how important other people's weddings are.

But mostly - get your ass on your shoulders?! Grin

CruCru · 07/12/2015 19:43

That's ridiculous. Even if it were a really close friend, I don't think I'd be able to make it.

FanjoBean · 07/12/2015 19:45

I love "get your ass on your shoulders." I'm afraid it might become my new catchphrase.

Bearbehind · 07/12/2015 19:45

She said "if it's important to them, they'll make it."

She answered her own question right there- other people's weddings are generally not greatly important to anyone other than the couple and very immediate family.

Add to that the short notice and the fact it is at the busiest time of year for most people and I suspect her guest list will be very short.

Trills · 07/12/2015 19:46

I am more interested in the origins of "get your ass on your shoulders" than in anything else in this thread.

patterkiller · 07/12/2015 19:47

And she's expecting everyone to give up a raucous NYE too. Hmm nope wouldn't be me.

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CheerfulYank · 07/12/2015 19:49

It's Southern American Trills. I'm not from the south yet it's still creeped into my vocabulary, along with "y'all". :o

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OTheHugeManatee · 07/12/2015 19:49

Love the expression in your thread title Grin

Your friend is being daft.

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CheerfulYank · 07/12/2015 19:50

I will be at the wedding and I told her I can do internet research etc but until Christmas is over that's basically it.

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jelliebelly · 07/12/2015 19:51

Afraid she's going to get quite a surprise that everybody is busy or has other plans with such short notice of any date tbh let alone NYE.

pasturesgreen · 07/12/2015 19:52

She is being massively unreasonable!

As Bear said, it's a big day for the bride groom, and their immediate family. For everyone else it's usually just another social obligation. Apart from everything else, people are bound to have commitments for NYE at this time of the year.

Seeyounearertime · 07/12/2015 19:53

Your friend is being a total ass monkey.
Tell her to eat a bale and pull her head from her Pony ass.

(And yes, I too love ass on your shoulders)

SanityClause · 07/12/2015 19:56

How would you it?

"Oooh, don't get your ass on your shoulders!"

Like that?

Or, "she's really got her ass on her shoulders about it."

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CheerfulYank · 07/12/2015 19:58

For her sake I hope it goes well and I will do what I can. She deserves some happiness, she has two DDs and both of their fathers are awful. She's gone it completely alone (she does have family support but is very proud) since her late teens. I've despaired of her taste in men and while the groom is a bit rough around the edges, he genuinely seems to love her and be a good partner, and plans on adopting her youngest DD. So...I want it to be a lovely magical day BUT... I did try to warn her!

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lunar1 · 07/12/2015 19:59

Our Christmas and new year was booked up well before November, but even if it wasn't I wouldn't get involved in wedding stuff at this time of year.

For me it's a time for my family and traditions. How many do you really get with young children.

strawberryandaflake · 07/12/2015 20:04

Bridezilla. She picked the date. Let her sulk. X

AlisonWunderland · 07/12/2015 20:05

Ask her how easy it would be for HER to attend someone else's wedding immediately after Xmas?
If she has two children and she says she would drop everything to go and organise a mates hen do 2 weeks before Xmas, she's telling porkies

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CheerfulYank · 07/12/2015 20:12

Both are fine Sanity :o

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CheerfulYank · 07/12/2015 20:13

I agree Lunar. Also the groom has three children so I can't help but feel the five DC involved are getting a bit of a rushed Christmas.

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Fiderer · 07/12/2015 20:16

It is quite an anatomical challenge.

(Wotcha Cheerful, how are things?)

Cardboxed · 07/12/2015 20:17

Can someone please give me a typically UK equivalent idiom of "can't get your ass on your shoulders"?

mrsmegavator · 07/12/2015 20:19

Don't get your knickers in a twist...

BonitaFangita · 07/12/2015 20:20

Just came here to say how much I love "Ass on your shoulders" Round our way you'd say she's seen her arse. Means the same thing I think. I use it a lot!

I'm a bit concerned about how your friend will fit all of this in, Christmas with five kids, New Year, a wedding on New Years Day so a quiet NYE for you and a hen party! It all seems a bit rushed. Why is she so determined to do it all so quickly?

JustCallMeBaldrick · 07/12/2015 20:24

You hear about people getting their ass in their hand here in the SW.