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Univited guests for Christmas.

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Pennybun4 · 06/12/2015 11:59

Have been brooding about this since yesterday. Received a Christmas card from this family we met on holiday in the summer. All very nice I am sure but note at the bottom thanking us for our kind invite for Christmas and saying they will be arriving 23rd Dec and staying until 2nd Jan.

We did not invite them!

Back story is Dad, Mum and three children at the same campsite we were staying on in the summer who decided they wanted to be best friends with us. We were polite and chatted but no more. They wanted to go round in a gang in the day which we told them didn't work for us. We wanted quiet quality time as a family, enjoying each other's company. Our two children were not keen on their three which was the decider for us. They then suggested meeting up and having dinner with us every night so we did a couple of times to keep the peace. Said our goodbyes (with a sigh of relief) at the end of the holiday and we know did not exchange addresses.

Two weeks later postcard arrives from them saying lovely it was to meet us and would love to see us again. No address so obviously no response from us. Several letters and cards since in similar vein then the Christmas card yesterday. We don't want them and have no room for them. My DPs are staying over Christmas and there is no way we can change plans and go to them.

Help, what shall we do?

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FannyFifer · 06/12/2015 13:59

Can't you google the holiday folk or find them on FB & ask did they send it.

Youarentkiddingme · 06/12/2015 14:00

Wow this moved fast from panicking about uninvited quests to lunch in pub with EoS.

I'd slow down as this may not be your PIL. You've jumped on first suggestion that could possibly be in the realms of possibility and ran with it.

I agree it's a wind up - cards with no address etc and you obviously had a good moan about the family - who wouldn't after their behaviour on campsite.

I'm actually thinking its your sister playing the prank hence why she's going along and happily entering your IL house.

UnGoogleable · 06/12/2015 14:01

ShebaShimmy thank you!

bloodyteenagers · 06/12/2015 14:02

Where do this family live?
You said no addresses where exchanged but at some point they must have mentioned they live in X place.

You seem convinced it's the pil, but really it might not be.

I would also start searching for them on fb and message them saying there seems to be a misunderstanding. They sent their are to the wrong person.

Excited101 · 06/12/2015 14:04

I still have an odd feeling it could be your campsite friends...

ImperialBlether · 06/12/2015 14:08

Cocolepew, they must have jumped out of their skin, seeing their 'guest' on television for abduction! What happened then?

ImtheChristmasCarcass · 06/12/2015 14:13

IDK, I think I'd plan to be gone from home on the 23d just in case! I'd advise you to install cctv camera on porch, sync doorbell with phone app to see if this family shows up. You may not be able to come home until after New Years!!! 😱

Is there a return address on the card?

MummaGiles · 06/12/2015 14:15

Shamelessly placemarking

LimitedSedition · 06/12/2015 14:21

192 is your friend here- get some credits and if you know their names and rough area they live- Bob's your Uncle.

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Pennybun4 · 06/12/2015 14:27

Wise words Youarentkiddingme. Believe my Dsis has done the photos so have them for use if needed. Will do some more probing before acting. Is definately not DSis.

Feeling slightly sick having read Cocolepew's post, the campsite was in France. Really don't know where the people live, we think round Whitby area.

Lunch is progressing in usual way, FIL is getting drunk and MIL is glaring at him with a mouth like a cat's arse. DC are being very good. Ready to go home but want to see if I can get FIL to let slip anything, drunken stupidity possibly.

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Pennybun4 · 06/12/2015 14:30

DSis tells one of the EoS pics is Elf with a cigar between his legs, will freak my FIL out completely.

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Onlyonamonday · 06/12/2015 14:41

If you're going to be in on the 23rd , I'd have a plan to be on guard, if people come knocking and you suspect it's them ,all hide and not answer door.
Or if that's too exciting for the little ones to be quiet.
Answer the door and say you know nothing about this and already have plans.

reni2 · 06/12/2015 14:41

Could EoS spy on FIL? Picture of EoS on the outside window sill of the boating club, FIL visible through window inside? EoS following him at Asda? How aware are you of his movements?

With a note "I'm watching you"

Excited101 · 06/12/2015 14:42

I would contact the campsite and find out if they gave them your details, even with your first and surname they might have been able to track you down (though address is more likely). That should give you your answer a lot sooner than 23rd December!

crabbiearses · 06/12/2015 14:42

id go out for the day on the 23rd and stay away till late

Fairenuff · 06/12/2015 14:44

OP you say you mentioned these people to no-one so when the first postcard arrived from (lets call them Janet and Roy), how would your FIL have known what names to put?

Your dh is the only one with enough details to play this joke on you.

reni2 · 06/12/2015 14:45

On the off chance it is your non-friends from the camp site you just tell them no. It really is that easy. You wouldn't let a random into your house. Have the number of a local B&B ready if you're feeling charitable.

ImtheChristmasCarcass · 06/12/2015 14:45

reni2 OMG Brilliant!!!

DaggerEyes · 06/12/2015 14:59

Oh.....tell fil that you are planning on having Christmas away from home, be really cagey and vague about why, and see if he seems to 'enjoy' your suffering. If so, you have your culprit.

AvaCrowder · 06/12/2015 15:00

That has to be a wind up. Putting the dates would be strange.

milkmilklemonade12 · 06/12/2015 15:08

Definitely a wind up!! It has to be!

QOD · 06/12/2015 15:10

Just move Wink

YouTheCat · 06/12/2015 15:18

On the off chance that it is the people from the campsite and they turn up, just deny all knowledge and send them on their way. The 23rd still gives them time to get their Christmas together or foist themselves on some other poor bugger .

Bluebell20 · 06/12/2015 15:20

This does sound really odd, and I agree with all of those who are saying not to be too hasty, because it might not be FIL!

It does sound like a wind-up though. How did they get your address? Why are the postmarks in London if you remember them living in Whitby? Why would they make up a Christmas invite that you clearly haven't sent? It just seems bizarre.

However... How would anyone else know what their names are, if you haven't spoken about them to anyone? I agree that it would be worth checking with the campsite to ensure that they haven't given out your address.

Are the letters typed or handwritten?

Are you sure it's not DH doing a massive prank?

To be honest, I get really easily freaked out and I would be absolutely hating this. If it is a wind-up (and I hope it is), I think whoever has done it is being really mean and thoughtless. It's not fair to stress you out like this!