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Univited guests for Christmas.

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Pennybun4 · 06/12/2015 11:59

Have been brooding about this since yesterday. Received a Christmas card from this family we met on holiday in the summer. All very nice I am sure but note at the bottom thanking us for our kind invite for Christmas and saying they will be arriving 23rd Dec and staying until 2nd Jan.

We did not invite them!

Back story is Dad, Mum and three children at the same campsite we were staying on in the summer who decided they wanted to be best friends with us. We were polite and chatted but no more. They wanted to go round in a gang in the day which we told them didn't work for us. We wanted quiet quality time as a family, enjoying each other's company. Our two children were not keen on their three which was the decider for us. They then suggested meeting up and having dinner with us every night so we did a couple of times to keep the peace. Said our goodbyes (with a sigh of relief) at the end of the holiday and we know did not exchange addresses.

Two weeks later postcard arrives from them saying lovely it was to meet us and would love to see us again. No address so obviously no response from us. Several letters and cards since in similar vein then the Christmas card yesterday. We don't want them and have no room for them. My DPs are staying over Christmas and there is no way we can change plans and go to them.

Help, what shall we do?

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iamlionesshearmeroar · 07/12/2015 10:33

OP backtrack alert!

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Pennybun4 · 07/12/2015 10:43

I have emailed the campsite this morning and asked what their policy is on passing on other peoples details. Don't believe they have but interesting to see what they say.

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Pennybun4 · 07/12/2015 10:50

Going to try and be sensible about this as got in a right state yesterday. Thank you to the people who came up with helpful advice which is being acted on. I will play the long game on this if it is a joke, don't care if I have to wait until next year.

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Cardboxed · 07/12/2015 10:52

Still fanning the flames I see OP...

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Pennybun4 · 07/12/2015 10:56

Cardboxed, you are my FIL!

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Bluebell20 · 07/12/2015 11:03

Penny, it does seem like FIL and DP may be in cahoots. The sods. Why don't you behave as though you've 'accepted' the situation as others have suggested - start conspicuously arranging to borrow bedding from friends - ask DP for his input on the extra food order you're going to need... See what his reaction is?

That or discuss with DP bringing it to the attention of the police on the basis of stalking/harassment. See if he tries to discourage you.

Do you live in London? Does DP have a best mate who lives in London?

SagaNorensLeatherTrousers · 07/12/2015 11:23

Or...I dunno, you could just ASK your DH or FIL outright if they have sent you the card as a joke? I don't get the need to secretly suss them out or play tricks on them in return. Confused

CactusAnnie · 07/12/2015 11:30

Why is your sister putting elves on people's doors when she's still offended because they complimented her on her tits?

WTF is going on?

reni2 · 07/12/2015 11:35

If it is your dh, the answer is simple: He buys the presents for the univiteds. Tell him to get her some beauty stuff you quite fancy yourself and for him he can buy a sleeve that just happens to fit your tablet. If he made it all up, he has to do it to keep up the lie and yu got yourself 2 extra presents you fancy. Order extra chocolate/ gin/ whatever you fancy "for the guests" and enjoy. Make sure he pays. He can buy some extra linen, too, Egyptian cotton just like the ones you always wanted.

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Pennybun4 · 07/12/2015 11:35

DSis thought it was inappropriate for him to make such a comment. She may be built like Mae West but wasn't going to turn round and ask if he had a gun in his pocket or was pleased to see her.

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ShebaShimmyShake · 07/12/2015 11:38

I agree with Saga. I don't even understand why everyone's so certain it's the husband/in laws; there isn't actually any evidence for it, just speculation. This has the capacity to get truly out of hand.

Just ask your family outright, explain that if it is them you've had your freakout and they've had their laugh, but now it is really genuinely worrying you and you need to know whether or not you have to take action.

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Pennybun4 · 07/12/2015 11:38

Reni2, I am searching for his credit card! Only joking, brilliant idea.

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CactusAnnie · 07/12/2015 11:38

I give up.

What's the game, OP ? Is it just 'how many posts can I get to posting total nonsense'?

GloriaHotcakes · 07/12/2015 11:58

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SagaNorensLeatherTrousers · 07/12/2015 12:19

Only take reni's advice if you are in fact living in a 1950's American sitcom.

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Pennybun4 · 07/12/2015 12:25

Saga, haha yes!

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ClancyMoped · 07/12/2015 12:55

What a confusing world you live in OP. So much confusion.

HuevosRancheros · 07/12/2015 13:04

Saga it has felt at points along the way that we are helping to write the script of a sitcom Christmas special - Keeping Up Appearances, maybe? Grin
Mumsnet often feels like that..

PussycatsGalore · 07/12/2015 13:20

I was thinking more like a Enid Blyton Girls' Boarding School story. Got the lot here, bullies, wierdos, sporty girls. Waiting for the fire that biurns the whole school down and our heroine saves various people.

HuevosRancheros · 07/12/2015 13:25

Maybe the elf will "accidentally" set fire to the wreath, the front door will catch...
What japes.

AndNowItsSeven · 07/12/2015 13:25

Op next time make your dc 7 and 9 , they have much more of an opinion on other children at those ages.

AndNowItsSeven · 07/12/2015 13:26

🔫 for your Fil's pants.

MercedesDR · 07/12/2015 13:37

This thread thread is an offbeat masterpiece. Could be turned into a plot for a book.

AllTheChefs · 07/12/2015 13:45

New to MN and having a browse around. Is it always like this?

reni2 · 07/12/2015 13:46

Yes, frequently.