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Univited guests for Christmas.

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Pennybun4 · 06/12/2015 11:59

Have been brooding about this since yesterday. Received a Christmas card from this family we met on holiday in the summer. All very nice I am sure but note at the bottom thanking us for our kind invite for Christmas and saying they will be arriving 23rd Dec and staying until 2nd Jan.

We did not invite them!

Back story is Dad, Mum and three children at the same campsite we were staying on in the summer who decided they wanted to be best friends with us. We were polite and chatted but no more. They wanted to go round in a gang in the day which we told them didn't work for us. We wanted quiet quality time as a family, enjoying each other's company. Our two children were not keen on their three which was the decider for us. They then suggested meeting up and having dinner with us every night so we did a couple of times to keep the peace. Said our goodbyes (with a sigh of relief) at the end of the holiday and we know did not exchange addresses.

Two weeks later postcard arrives from them saying lovely it was to meet us and would love to see us again. No address so obviously no response from us. Several letters and cards since in similar vein then the Christmas card yesterday. We don't want them and have no room for them. My DPs are staying over Christmas and there is no way we can change plans and go to them.

Help, what shall we do?

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Pennybun4 · 06/12/2015 23:11

Yes has gone a bit spookybollocks but that's MN for you.

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ZenNudist · 06/12/2015 23:32

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PaulAnkaTheDog · 06/12/2015 23:43

For an apparently creepy situation you've done fuck all very little to actually solve it op.

Hmm
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Pennybun4 · 06/12/2015 23:45

The whole point of asking for advice!

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FishWithABicycle · 06/12/2015 23:48

I wanna see the 23rd December update

PaulAnkaTheDog · 06/12/2015 23:52

Have you used any of the constructive advice?

jcoleville · 06/12/2015 23:54

Oh OP you just don't understand the timescale.

You should have only discussed that FIL hinted at Christmas cards today.

Then wait a few days for another card to arrange.

Then two days after that start your revenge in the run up to the 23rd.

Then you don't post the conclusion until the 27th when everyone has been begging for a good 4 days.

But no .... you ruined it.

PrincessFiorimonde · 07/12/2015 00:00
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ImperialBlether · 07/12/2015 00:01

I knew my FIL for 30 years and in all that time he never asked me whether I'd had any Christmas cards. Is this abnormal behaviour?

trashcanjunkie · 07/12/2015 00:05

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Titsalinabumsquash · 07/12/2015 00:17

Well this all got weird quite quickly....

MrsWembley · 07/12/2015 02:46
HuevosRancheros · 07/12/2015 07:29

Oh, I'm so glad this thread is still here, I had a sad feeling it would have disappeared by the time I got up.

Does anyone else find it odd (apart from any other aspect), that it was OP's sister who went to FIL's house? I mean, there's no relationship there, I would be furious to discover that (if I had one) my DiL's sister had been snooping around my house.

But anyway...

MaisieDotes · 07/12/2015 07:34

I found that odd too huevos - hence my comment up thread about the elf thing being ott.

Going into someone's house without their knowledge or permission is breaking in- key or no key.

HuevosRancheros · 07/12/2015 07:53

It would make more "sense" if it was a SiL who did it, i.e. the daughter of FiL.
But this is someone unrelated, who I'm fairly sure the OP said didn't like the in-laws.

EBearhug · 07/12/2015 08:18

sits down with popcorn and a mug of tea

Need to get my eyes tested, to stop me wondering why someone would be wandering in with a mug tree...

eddielizzard · 07/12/2015 08:45

bleurgh you can't have tea and popcorn! it's just wrong.

mumblebumble · 07/12/2015 08:47

Oh a fun thread... can you start it again OP but iron out the inconsistencies/ unrealistic timescale so we can enjoy it in the run up to christmas?

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 07/12/2015 08:52

well, I think it's funny, true or not. stop being so mardy, tis hurting no one Smile

imgoingdowntown · 07/12/2015 09:21

Place marking

VenusInFauxFurs · 07/12/2015 09:29

Agree that tea and popcorn is a weird combination. Do you dunk the popcorn in the tea?

MrsBertMacklin · 07/12/2015 09:38

popcorn tea

Univited guests for Christmas.
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Pennybun4 · 07/12/2015 10:07

Mornin' everyone,

bit of a head on me today, must have been that cheap wine last night. Just been talking to DSis and she confirms she did NOT go into PILs house. She being a bit older than me and much more sensible like the wise ones on MN thought it not right. She was having her own tease with the Elf and cigar scenario.

So, she took a photo of Elf posed in PILs front door wreath. Has done a couple with their garden ornaments and has a Mog so did one with him sitting in their hanging basket. Will decide how and when to use them.

With regards to PIL coming to Christmas lunch I don't think I am being mean. FIL said in mid October his boat club were having a big Christmas lunch. DP and I said that sounded great and were he and MIL going and they said they were going to book. They only became narky when they found out my Ps were coming to us.

My DSis doesn't like my FIL because he told her she filled her t-shirt well once when he was a bit drunk. I think she was right to be offended.

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OnlyLovers · 07/12/2015 10:08

I treated myself to a matinee of Spectre the other day I only watch Bond films for Ben Whishaw and had an Earl Grey and some salty popcorn.

It was perfect. Grin

OTheHugeManatee · 07/12/2015 10:15

Weirdest. Thread. Ever.