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AIBU?

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aibu about phone calls

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spritefairy · 05/12/2015 10:06

My sister gave birth last night around 11ish. I got a text around the time just to say he was here.
The phone then rang at 6.30 this morning waking up my 9 month old son. My dh got up with him and left me to sleep. I had insomnia last night and didn't get to sleep until 2am. The phone has been ringing on and off all morning. My dh has refused to answer the phone as he is annoyed. My son has been a knob all morning because of tiredness.
Got up and my mum rang again! So I answered.
When I told her I wasn't happy as they woke up ds I was told to stop being so silly. She then finished the phone call saying I will ring back when you are in a better mood!!
So aibu to be in a bad mood?

OP posts:

redexpat · 05/12/2015 23:13

Bloody well said Stack!

iamanintrovert · 06/12/2015 07:01

"Knob" is a very lighthearted insult in my family. No need to ring at 0630.

Hangingbasket14 · 06/12/2015 07:13

First of all you or DH should have just answered the phone or unplugged it. Secondly I think having 4.5 hours of sleep is no excuse for being so vile, if you can't cope on 4.5 hours of sleep OP I think you have been very lucky up till now. I have two DC's and regularly survive (without calling them knobs) on a lot less than 4.5 hours of sleep. So YABU, it was exceptional circumstances and presumably not intended maliciously.

Chilledmonkeybrains · 06/12/2015 07:23

The biggest problem seems to be that the phone kept ringing? Why did you not switch it off after the first call?

6.30 is early but I'd expect someone with a nine month old to be up at that time. Unfortunately!

sandgrown · 06/12/2015 07:29

YABU. Maybe the calls were also from your sister wanting to share her excitement. Your mum was probably desperate to talk to you too. If you have a young baby you must be used to being up early??

CatKirk · 06/12/2015 08:08

YABU for having a landline.

DiscoDiva70 · 06/12/2015 08:14

Op
Did you bother replying to the text at night?

I'm assuming you didn't and so maybe your family thought that you hadn't received it and that's another reason why your phone kept on ringing, as well as your mum wanting to excitedly talk to you about the news.

YABU for your precious attitude about not having enough sleep first of all, and considering your sis had just given birth your 'couldnt give a fuck response' shows imo that there's other resentment going on here about the new arrival.

As others have pointed out, it seems that there's possibly some jealousy going on now that your son will have to share the family's attention.
As for calling your son a 'knob', you should be especially ashamed of yourself because that's disgusting.

sandy30 · 06/12/2015 13:10

YABU, unless there is some back story not disclosed. If they had phoned at 4am, fair enough, but it's likely you might already be up at 6.30am if you have a wee one. Your sister has just been through the biggest event of her life!

Gruntfuttock · 06/12/2015 13:34

CatKirk "YABU for having a landline."

WTF is unreasonable about having a landline?

Cloppysow · 06/12/2015 13:37

This thread is nuts.

OP. yanbu. 6.30 is for emergency phonecalls only. Kids can be knobs sometimes.

KatieLatie · 06/12/2015 13:40

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KeepOnMoving1 · 06/12/2015 13:47

Yabu, a nasty piece aren't you? You call your child that? And your sister had a baby, yes something to be happy about. Some people are just miserable.

Topseyt · 06/12/2015 14:44

What a lot of ridiculous hysteria on this thread.

Were none of you ever driven potty by small children and muttered all the names under the sun under your breath?

A 9 month old will hardly be reading the thread.

OP, you could be a bit more magnanimous about the new baby. Did you send a congratulatory text and promise to speak in the morning rather than just leaving it?

6.30 is too early for a call that isn't life and death urgent, but as a one off I would have answered and let it go.

Libitina · 06/12/2015 14:50

OP YABU and you know you are.

Gruntfuttock · 06/12/2015 23:46

I'm still hoping that CatKirk will explain to me why it's unreasonable to have a landline.

CraigRevelHorwoodsPetCat · 07/12/2015 00:08

You called your baby a knob? Only one knob here, love

ColdTeaAgain · 07/12/2015 00:34

Oh FGS, clearly she calling her DC a knob in a tongue in cheek kind of way. We often say things like this, it's just a joke about how toddlers are completly unreasonable human beings at times! There is nothing meant by it. Have none of you ever seen comedians doing sketches about their children? I'm sure you don't sit there thinking omg why did they even have kids!

OP, YANBU.
Unless it was an emergency I see no reason to ring at 6.30!

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 07/12/2015 00:45

I've never seen a comedian call their child a knob!

ColdTeaAgain · 07/12/2015 00:49

Try Romesh Ranganathan, he calls his a prick...it doesn't make me think he is a nasty or a bad parent though because he is JOKING.

SummerNights1986 · 07/12/2015 00:57

My dh has refused to answer the phone as he is annoyed

YABU for not answering the phone.

Why would you not answer a 6.30am call? If that were me (and especially if someone had just had a baby) I would jump to answer it in case it was an emergency. You don't generally get a 6.30 in the morning call for someone wanting a chat. Next time it could be an emergency - so answer the bloody thing first time!

It sounds like you've since discovered it wasn't an emergency, in which case the caller was bu to call at that time. But considering it's a one-off exciting time, I think you could cut the family some slack, whilst giving them a gentle but firm reminder that a 6.30am call is only appropriate if it's urgent.

I still can't get over the fact that you/dh didn't answer though considering the unusual time of it. What if the new baby had fallen ill in the night and it was your sister desperate for some advice or support? What if your dh's place of work had burnt down and someone was calling to tell him not to go in? Or someone else close had had an accident and it was the police?

Don't have a phone if you're going to refuse to answer it!

Damselindestress · 07/12/2015 09:57

You had already been told about the baby the night before, someone ringing early and repeatedly was unnecessary and would make me worry something was wrong. Instead of repeatedly ringing, she should have waited and rung back later. But I think you should give your mother a break considering the exceptional circumstances, she was probably excited and not thinking clearly.

YouGottaKeepEmSeparated · 07/12/2015 11:09

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CalleighDoodle · 07/12/2015 21:47

Did we find out whether OP actually replied to the text at 11pm?

ShelaghTurner · 07/12/2015 22:36

I get very little sleep, maybe three hours on a good night which is once in a fortnight. I'm so tired I could cry most of the time. But if my sister had a baby I'd expect and be happy with any number of excited odd hour phone calls. It's a one off, they won't make a habit of it. Even with sleep issues it all sounds like you've made a drama out of it.

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