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AIBU?

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aibu about phone calls

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spritefairy · 05/12/2015 10:06

My sister gave birth last night around 11ish. I got a text around the time just to say he was here.
The phone then rang at 6.30 this morning waking up my 9 month old son. My dh got up with him and left me to sleep. I had insomnia last night and didn't get to sleep until 2am. The phone has been ringing on and off all morning. My dh has refused to answer the phone as he is annoyed. My son has been a knob all morning because of tiredness.
Got up and my mum rang again! So I answered.
When I told her I wasn't happy as they woke up ds I was told to stop being so silly. She then finished the phone call saying I will ring back when you are in a better mood!!
So aibu to be in a bad mood?

OP posts:

Sansoora · 05/12/2015 17:00

Bearing in mind that you had a baby not so long ago so you can understand why you're family were so excited to tell you the news

Perhaps thats the problem. Could the OP be feeling a wee bit jealous?

Pipestheghost · 05/12/2015 17:05

I find your attitude very strange

DurhamDurham · 05/12/2015 17:11

You called your baby a knob
I think you are being unreasonable to be cross at your mum but to call your own baby that is just awful.

OSETmum · 05/12/2015 17:12

Erm yes, you and your dh are being unreasonable. Why didn't you just answer the phone first time, show some enthusiasm for the new baby, then smile and get on with your day?

anotherbusymum14 · 05/12/2015 17:16

I understand you're tired but this is a special time. Try and enjoy it for a few days

Sunbeam18 · 05/12/2015 17:20

Jesus, you are the knob, not your son. Why didn't you phone your sister when you got the news she had just given birth? Hardly weird of anyone to expect a reaction from you.

AyeAmarok · 05/12/2015 17:28

I think there is a pertinent back story here with the sister's DC being perceived to be favoured.

ReginaBlitz · 05/12/2015 17:28

What if something bad had happened slightly pathetic really just answer the fucking phone.

mmmuffins · 05/12/2015 17:47

YANBU. You had a text telling you the baby was born, not sure why anyone needed to ring you at 6:30am on top of that.

I'm due in a few weeks, I wouldn't dream of calling anyone in the wee hours of the morning to announce the baby's arrival.

Sansoora · 05/12/2015 17:56

YANBU. You had a text telling you the baby was born, not sure why anyone needed to ring you at 6:30am on top of that.

Because they were all happy and excited and wanted to talk about the wee ones birth instead of texting about it.

And you know what? Perhaps if granny hadn't called the OP so early this thread would be about - all I got was a measly text announcing the birth till hours and hours later.

coconutpie · 05/12/2015 19:09

You referred to your 9 month old BABY as a knob - WTF is wrong with you? That is a rotten thing to say about a baby. And you were horrible to your mom about your sister's good news. And next time just unplug the phone if you are that miserable.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 05/12/2015 19:27

YADNBU
0630 is not calling hours. 0800-2200 is sociable. 6.30 especially when you've also got a knob baby is rude.
If your DM was calling with some awful news regarding the baby, or had been so giddy with joy she'd locked herself out and needed a spare key I'd understand. Or if your DSis needed to talk to you or ask your advice that'd be fine too. But to just call someone that early for a chat is fucking rude.
FWIW I don't think it's bad at all to call your DS a knob. You've not had a tattoo of "xx is a knob" have you? It's just a fucking phrase to vent on the Internet. People are very uptight.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 05/12/2015 19:29

Sorry I meant socially acceptable, rather than sociable.

rallytog1 · 05/12/2015 19:43

If you've got a baby who wakes when the phone rings, then you should make sure your mobile is muted and your landline is unplugged when you go to bed. Phones can and do ring in the night - if you don't want them to, then it's up to you to make sure they don't.

UmbongoUnchained · 05/12/2015 19:51

I've called my daughter much worse. (Not to her face).

FishWithABicycle · 05/12/2015 19:52

Yabu sorry.
Like a previous poster said, if your baby is sensitive to normal noises like phone rings then it's up to you to set volumes low or silent when the baby is asleep.
And there's a new whole person in the family. Unless you're ms grumpy pants that's worth getting excited about at 6:30am.

Ifiwasabadger · 05/12/2015 20:01

Why is your phone not on silent at night? And your son is a knob? Charming.

TooOldForGlitter · 05/12/2015 20:01

The baby isn't going to read this thread to see that he's been called a nob so it really doesn't matter what OP calls him..

strawberryandaflake · 05/12/2015 20:08

Unplug it.

NotAWhaleOmeletteInSight · 05/12/2015 20:27

Your baby is a knob... Wtaf.

GreatFuckability · 05/12/2015 21:20

I used to say that my youngest was a knob all the time when she was a baby, to her face and everything. Id coo 'awww look who's awake again for the 76th time, you annoying little bastard you' with a smile on my face. Its an affectionate way. Honest.

Id be pissed off if someone rang me at 6.30 unless the world was ending.

redexpat · 05/12/2015 21:23

I think if id only had 4.5 hours sleep id be fucking fuming too, but i probably would have screamed down the phone and called that person a knob rather than the baby.

Only1scoop · 05/12/2015 21:25

What an odd way to refer to a baby.

You sound delightful.... tired or not.

Leelu6 · 05/12/2015 21:44

YABU for not having a phone that allows you to switch the ringer off. My mum goes to bed at 9 and the ringer is always off then.

StackladysMorphicResonator · 05/12/2015 22:20

Back off, vipers. OP clearly chose her language poorly, but she's obviously exhausted and has a 9 month-old baby - a little empathy here would go a long way.

Since she already knew about the birth the night before there was NO NEED for anyone to be phoning a family with a young baby at stupid o'clock the next morning, or repeatedly. What happened to just leaving a message?

OP, YANBU, and I'm sure most normal people in real life would agree.

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