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aibu about phone calls

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spritefairy · 05/12/2015 10:06

My sister gave birth last night around 11ish. I got a text around the time just to say he was here.
The phone then rang at 6.30 this morning waking up my 9 month old son. My dh got up with him and left me to sleep. I had insomnia last night and didn't get to sleep until 2am. The phone has been ringing on and off all morning. My dh has refused to answer the phone as he is annoyed. My son has been a knob all morning because of tiredness.
Got up and my mum rang again! So I answered.
When I told her I wasn't happy as they woke up ds I was told to stop being so silly. She then finished the phone call saying I will ring back when you are in a better mood!!
So aibu to be in a bad mood?

OP posts:
MrsGentlyBenevolent · 05/12/2015 14:22

Ringing people at 6.30am,unless it's serious or they know for sure you'll be up is not ok. I wouldn't be pleased either if I had already been told about sister giving birth the night before.

However - the rest of it, you're totally unreasonable. Babies get cranky for many a reason, you certainly can't call your child a 'knob' for it. Awful thing to say. Your family are obviously excited, it will wear off after a couple of days, you could just grin and bare it. Are you feeling a bit put-out about your sister having a baby? There's almost a tone of resentment in your OP.

VulcanWoman · 05/12/2015 14:26

Mute the phone.

RebootYourEngine · 05/12/2015 15:08

My dsis is due to give birth soon. I cant wait to get the phone call. It could be at 3am for all i care but then i like my sister. If you had just answered the phone the first time it wouldnt have rung over and over.

Can a 9 month old baby be a knob Hmm

GenerationX2 · 05/12/2015 15:21

wow - did no one in your family ring each other when you had your DS. Your poor DSis.

Your mum was trying to share exciting news - way to put a damper on it for everyone.

AyeAmarok · 05/12/2015 15:26

Don't you sound lovely.

This is the biggest (or equal biggest)thing that's happened in your sister's life, and up near the top for your mum too I'm sure.

How Dare She want to phone you and share the joy Hmm

You must either a) not like your sister much, b) you and your DH must be extremely tired to the point you can't process that other things are happening in the world, or c) you're jealous that there is another baby in the family.

I hope it's b.

Redglitter · 05/12/2015 15:30

Believe me not getting to sleep til 2am isn't insomnia. It's just a bad night sleep.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 05/12/2015 15:30

I take it there's more to this than you just being knackered?

Is your dsis the favourite child by any chance?

Calling your baby a knob isn't on but you probably realise that now.

pigsDOfly · 05/12/2015 15:43

The knob calling actually made me wince when I read it.

What a horrible way to refer to a tiny 9 month old baby.

Tiredness can made you feel like the world's going to end sometimes and having people call you at 6.30 in the morning can seem like a terrible invasion when you have a small child of your own to deal with, but fgs how often does your sister give birth. Just make up the sleep when you get the chance.

TheWitTank · 05/12/2015 15:45

Your son is the one being a knob? Riiiight.

balletgirlmum · 05/12/2015 15:49

YANBU.

The text at 11pm to give you the news was fair enough but unless there was an emergency then any other calls should have waited until after 8pm especially as you have s little one yourself.

I'd have unplugged the phone myself. Dd used to be awful as a baby/toddler if her sleep was disturbed.

As for the grief you've been given about your Ds bring a knob. I understand it's just an expression, not one is personally use as I don't really swear but I can understand the reasoning.

LIZS · 05/12/2015 15:51

Births and deaths are exceptions to the general rules. Either of you could have got to the phone sooner or soothed the baby. You got the lie in , he can avoid the phone calls presumably from your family and friends. Seems as if you have some kind of issue with this baby's arrival.

Eigg · 05/12/2015 15:52

My DSis called me at 2am to tell me that her SIL (so not even a relation of mine) had had her baby. She chattered for 20 mins.

I just thought it was lovely that she was excited about her new niece.

It's pretty churlish not to want to celebrate your siblings new baby or ask your Mum how your sister is.

YABU I'm afraid. And rude.

GabiSolis · 05/12/2015 15:57

Is there a touch of the green eyed monster coming in here? OP are you upset there is a newer baby taking your DS's position?

You need to call your mum and apologise, you are seriously out of order.

SilverOldie2 · 05/12/2015 16:10

YABVU and nasty calling your baby a knob. There might be a knob in your family but I seriously doubt it's your son. Quite frankly its too close to call between you and your DH. Why the hell didn't he just pick up the phone?

alltouchedout · 05/12/2015 16:13

You sound utterly exhausted tbh. Hopefully once you've had a good sleep you'll see YOU and can join your family in celebration of the newest member.

alltouchedout · 05/12/2015 16:15

*YABU, not you. Fucking autocorrect.

BackInTheRealWorld · 05/12/2015 16:16

Was everyone this disinterested and rude about your child being born, are you having a strop and trying to get revenge or something?

FellOffMyUnicorn · 05/12/2015 16:24

wow - much hatred to the OP - newsflash, shes grumpy because shes not had much sleep!

its not nasty to call a child a knob on an anonymous internet forum - if she'd called him a cunt then yes i'd be Hmm as well. People are fed up due to lack of sleep and dont really want to talk to people!

FellOffMyUnicorn · 05/12/2015 16:24

who in hell phones up at 630AM????? i dont care what your news is - especially if i know already, ffs

PuppyMonkey · 05/12/2015 16:26

I thought calling the baby a knob was quite funny.Blush

Skang · 05/12/2015 16:26

Yanbu. No reason at all to wake you at 6:30am unless something was wrong. I wouldn't have considered calling someone at that time for one second, let alone repeatedly calling.

BackInTheRealWorld · 05/12/2015 16:30

God when my sister had her baby I was probably even more excited than when I had mine. I hope you get enough sleep so you can pretend to be a little happier about her wonderful news.

TrinityForce · 05/12/2015 16:44

OP is BU but there's no need to be rude.

ivykaty44 · 05/12/2015 16:46

What a miserable got you make yourself out to be the three of you sound like a drab weekend in a wet dank town

BackforGood · 05/12/2015 16:56

Of course YANBU (to be annoyed at some fool ringing you at 6.30am)
You already new about the baby, so I can't see why anyone should feel it appropriate to be calling that early in the morning.

I think the language you used to describe your ds is what has upset people here.

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