To not want to drop this even though nothing can be done about it now!?

[Notimefortossers]

I have 3 DC. DD1 is 7 and DD2 is 4. On a Friday DD1 has a club after school meaning she needs picking up at 3.45 and DD2 still needs picking up at 3.15. Normally I just pick DD2 up and let her play on the playground for half hour while we wait for her sister.
Fridays are also my DH's day off from work. He has DS1 (10 months) at home for the day while I drop the girls at school, then go to work for 6 hours, then pick them up.
Today DD2 had an appointment at 3.30 straight after school so I told him I would pick her up and take her to that and he would have to pick up DD1 at 3.45.
I get home with DD2 and there not here, after a while I start to worry as they're getting late. They get back at 16:20. First thing DD1 says is 'Daddy was 15 mins late picking me up'.
I am fucking livid! I run myself ragged making sure this kind of thing NEVER happens to my kids. Makes my stomach turn thinking of her being the last poor little forgotten kid being taken to the office to phone her parents.
He is acting like it's no big deal! She's here, she's alive, she's safe and the teacher was fine about it. NOT THE POINT!!! He just says he thought it was 4pm. Well if he thought that then he's an idiot because he's picked them both up on Fridays before if I've needed to work later AND I clearly told him 3.45 TWICE today! Why does he have to be so fucking useless?!
I obviously can't scream and shout at him since the DC are here, so I messaged my mum to vent and she replies 'I know I got a school from the school to pick her up' (She's her emergency contact) She was just leaving when they rang to say he'd turned up.
This week he actually said to me that he wants to stay home with the kids and me go to work (I assume he meant for him to go part time and me got full time, since I DO bloody work thank you AND do every other fucking thing around here!) Ha! Joke mate! You think I'm letting you take over child care for my kids to suffer! Also feel like that just totally undermines everything I do, like it's easy. If he can't cope with one tiny pick up and do that right how would he cope with the endless school trips, charity days, swimming lessons, karate, opticians, dentist, doctors, homework . . .etc etc etc etc and the list goes on!
I really want to have a right bloody go at him after the kids go to bed, but what's the point? It won't change anything! It's happened now hasn't it?

'Being taken to the office to sit while the teachers phoned her parents was a new and probably at least slightly worrying experience for her. '

Most of them sit, chat, swing their legs and gawp at the people going in and out. It's not unusual.
Is she traumatised, or are you just projecting? You sound a terrifyingly angry woman to be in a relationship with, as a spouse or a child, as if being the perfect parent who never drops the ball is the identifying feature of your life. AlphaMum.

Try role reversal for a few years. You earn enough to support your family and and he looks after the children. The results might surprise you, they did us when we tried it.

Maybe I'm living in a parallel universe.

But I work in a school, do gate duty every day. It's a fairly common thing that a child is late to be picked up for various reasons- parent stuck in traffic, simply forgets or doesn't realise the time, many reasons. We just take the child into the reception area and call parents to remind them or find out what's happened.

The child was in one of the safest places they can be, it doesn't seem too big a deal to me...of course if it was happening regularly to the same child it would be a potential neglect issue, but everyone is human and makes mistakes sometimes.

So sorry OP but YABU. Life's too short to waste precious time and energy feeling livid at our loved ones for a transgression as minor as this. Save it for cheating or something similarly bad.

She was the only child that was not picked up so she wasn't sitting swinging her legs with everybody. Perhaps it's a common occurence in some schools, but not in hers.

I think this thread has reached the point, as they all do, where it's gotten too long and people can't be bothered to read it so they reply to the OP without seeing how the thread has progressed.

In answer to a PP who clearly had RTT, yes I do pick up after him and constantly remind him of appointments . . . because if I didn't we'd live in a shit hole and he'd miss all appointments